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Thursday, December 24, 2009

Flirt while teasing

Teasing is about being fun, but it's also being charming. In
conversations with women, it's a way to demonstrate that you have
high social status. Whereas most guys kiss girls asses, YOU will
use teasing to PUSH them away with a bratty comment, then PULL
them in with something that shows your interest.

For example, you could tease her by taking her hand in yours,
only to push it away and tease her for "being too forward."  Then
you continue on by saying that "she's the one treating you like a
piece of meat and is only interested in 'one thing'..."

Sure this doesn't make LOGICAL sense to guys.  But you have to
remember flirting isn't about doing stuff in a logical manner;
it's about emotion.

You want to create the kind of tension that's VERY sexually
attractive to women.

Think of being a little kid again...

When you were 10, you teased a girl that you liked by slapping
her, or pulling her hair. And while you'd likely to get a
restraining order placed on you by pulling those stunts now, it's
still basically the same idea.

Put another way: Teasing is "the new" method of pulling a girl's
ponytail.

Teasing should be light when you first meet a woman. Stick to
topics like her choice in purses. Accuse her of buying "knock-
off" or imitation clothing.

The key is to make her think you're funny...not an egotistical
prick.

If she's laughing, then you've won half the battle.

Now one of the best ways to understand humor is to study comedy
and comedians.  The caveat here is to avoid the comedy routines
where the person makes fun of himself the whole time.

YOUR comedy should NEVER be used to point out your own flaws or
insecurities.  This will only lower your social value and
showcase the unattractive side of your personality.

To blend humor with teasing, you should joke with women in a way
that's playful and not offensive. In other words, you should know
the RIGHT way to showcase a personality that'll make women laugh
while making you extremely attractive.

When you're talking to a woman, you can three tactics REALLY ramp
up a humorous personality:


#1 - Exaggeration


This concept is simple, you take something about her and pick on
her in a RIDICULOUS manner. 

For example, try saying something like, "I like the size of your
handbag. It's like you're hiding a Mexican army in there!".  Or
if she's wearing a large piece of jewelry you say "Damn girl,
that's some serious bling you got there!"

Exaggeration is a great way to joke with her about a small thing
she does and tease her in a way that "assumes familiarity."


#2 - Role Reversals


This is all about taking line traditionally used by women, and
pretend that SHE is doing it to you.  For instance, your average
girl is always being viewed as a sexual object by men.  So you
reverse roles by making the claim that she's hitting on you and
is "trying to get into your arms."

Not only does this make you seem funny, but it also shows that
you understand women.

A variation of this technique is to make the self-conscious
statements you'll often hear girls tell each other.  A comment
like "Does this outfit make my head look big?" will be sure to
make her laugh.


#3 - Use Characters


Taking on the role of a funny character can be excellent way to
show your humor.  This is where you take on a persona or a "type"
of guy she typically meets.

For instance after vibing with a girl for awhile, I'll joke about
her getting hit on by all these WIERDOS.  Then I'll immediately
switch into a nerdy persona (hands in pocket, slouchy posture,
geeky sound voice).  Then I'll make a joke about how she HAS to
come a Star Trek Convention with me.

A character like this works REALLY well when she knows that
you're a fun, interesting guy.  It shows that you *get* what she
goes through AND you're not like the losers she normally deals
with.

One rule of thumb for creating characters...Think of the "types"
of guys that usually annoy her, then assume this persona.  But
do it in a way that let's her know that you understand what
it's like for her to deal with someone like this.

Now you might be asking "what if I'm not a funny guy?"
 
Also, watching stand-up comedians is also a great way to expose
yourself to all that is funny.

Another great technique that is often overlooked is to pay
attention to your friends and the funny things you discuss
together. Taking cues from those you're most comfortable with can
be invaluable.

My final piece of advice is to pay CLOSE attention to the things
that come out of a woman's mouth.  Be an opportunity seeker and
spot the moments when you can rip on something she's saying.

For instance, you could misinterpret EVERYTHING she says into a
sexual context, like she's trying to "take advantage of you."
Look for EVERY sexual innuendo that she gives you. Exaggerate the
little things.

For instance, if she says, "This dress doesn't look right on me,"
tease her by saying something like, "Yeah, I didn't want to tell
you that."

If you're able to pick up on the little things around you, it's
easy to create a personality that's both FUNNY and incredibly
ATTRACTIVE to women!

Keep on Rocking and Rolling,