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Thursday, December 24, 2009

Flirt while teasing

Teasing is about being fun, but it's also being charming. In
conversations with women, it's a way to demonstrate that you have
high social status. Whereas most guys kiss girls asses, YOU will
use teasing to PUSH them away with a bratty comment, then PULL
them in with something that shows your interest.

For example, you could tease her by taking her hand in yours,
only to push it away and tease her for "being too forward."  Then
you continue on by saying that "she's the one treating you like a
piece of meat and is only interested in 'one thing'..."

Sure this doesn't make LOGICAL sense to guys.  But you have to
remember flirting isn't about doing stuff in a logical manner;
it's about emotion.

You want to create the kind of tension that's VERY sexually
attractive to women.

Think of being a little kid again...

When you were 10, you teased a girl that you liked by slapping
her, or pulling her hair. And while you'd likely to get a
restraining order placed on you by pulling those stunts now, it's
still basically the same idea.

Put another way: Teasing is "the new" method of pulling a girl's
ponytail.

Teasing should be light when you first meet a woman. Stick to
topics like her choice in purses. Accuse her of buying "knock-
off" or imitation clothing.

The key is to make her think you're funny...not an egotistical
prick.

If she's laughing, then you've won half the battle.

Now one of the best ways to understand humor is to study comedy
and comedians.  The caveat here is to avoid the comedy routines
where the person makes fun of himself the whole time.

YOUR comedy should NEVER be used to point out your own flaws or
insecurities.  This will only lower your social value and
showcase the unattractive side of your personality.

To blend humor with teasing, you should joke with women in a way
that's playful and not offensive. In other words, you should know
the RIGHT way to showcase a personality that'll make women laugh
while making you extremely attractive.

When you're talking to a woman, you can three tactics REALLY ramp
up a humorous personality:


#1 - Exaggeration


This concept is simple, you take something about her and pick on
her in a RIDICULOUS manner. 

For example, try saying something like, "I like the size of your
handbag. It's like you're hiding a Mexican army in there!".  Or
if she's wearing a large piece of jewelry you say "Damn girl,
that's some serious bling you got there!"

Exaggeration is a great way to joke with her about a small thing
she does and tease her in a way that "assumes familiarity."


#2 - Role Reversals


This is all about taking line traditionally used by women, and
pretend that SHE is doing it to you.  For instance, your average
girl is always being viewed as a sexual object by men.  So you
reverse roles by making the claim that she's hitting on you and
is "trying to get into your arms."

Not only does this make you seem funny, but it also shows that
you understand women.

A variation of this technique is to make the self-conscious
statements you'll often hear girls tell each other.  A comment
like "Does this outfit make my head look big?" will be sure to
make her laugh.


#3 - Use Characters


Taking on the role of a funny character can be excellent way to
show your humor.  This is where you take on a persona or a "type"
of guy she typically meets.

For instance after vibing with a girl for awhile, I'll joke about
her getting hit on by all these WIERDOS.  Then I'll immediately
switch into a nerdy persona (hands in pocket, slouchy posture,
geeky sound voice).  Then I'll make a joke about how she HAS to
come a Star Trek Convention with me.

A character like this works REALLY well when she knows that
you're a fun, interesting guy.  It shows that you *get* what she
goes through AND you're not like the losers she normally deals
with.

One rule of thumb for creating characters...Think of the "types"
of guys that usually annoy her, then assume this persona.  But
do it in a way that let's her know that you understand what
it's like for her to deal with someone like this.

Now you might be asking "what if I'm not a funny guy?"
 
Also, watching stand-up comedians is also a great way to expose
yourself to all that is funny.

Another great technique that is often overlooked is to pay
attention to your friends and the funny things you discuss
together. Taking cues from those you're most comfortable with can
be invaluable.

My final piece of advice is to pay CLOSE attention to the things
that come out of a woman's mouth.  Be an opportunity seeker and
spot the moments when you can rip on something she's saying.

For instance, you could misinterpret EVERYTHING she says into a
sexual context, like she's trying to "take advantage of you."
Look for EVERY sexual innuendo that she gives you. Exaggerate the
little things.

For instance, if she says, "This dress doesn't look right on me,"
tease her by saying something like, "Yeah, I didn't want to tell
you that."

If you're able to pick up on the little things around you, it's
easy to create a personality that's both FUNNY and incredibly
ATTRACTIVE to women!

Keep on Rocking and Rolling,




Tuesday, December 22, 2009

A small trick to know that a girl is ready to be approached

"Here's How You Know When A Woman Is Ready To Be Approached..."

This amazing tactic will increase your success rate by 90%, and ensure you NEVER get rejected on the approach!

The Eye Contact Test

We all know that eye contact is important, but something funny happens when we make eye contact with another person...

We become COMPELLED to respond to them in some fashion!

When it comes to women, you can use eye contact to find out if she's open to meeting you. In fact, in a way, she'll be opening YOU!

So here's what you do...

The next time you see a woman you want to meet, LOCK your eyes on her!

Seriously, just stare at her eyes, even if she's not looking at you.

When people are out and about, they will usually look around to keep aware of their surroundings. This is an unconscious thing we all do. Eventually, the woman you're locking onto will look around to scan the area.

When she comes to you, her eyes will inevitably meet yours, and you'll be locked in eye contact.

When that happens, simply SMILE at her.

If she smiles back, guess what?

She's OPEN TO YOU MEETING HER!

If she doesn't, then move on to someone who is.

And when she does smile back, say "Hi!" And if she responds - you're in! Go right into your opener.

I like to use this tactic in low-key situations, like grocery stores, coffee shops, book stores, etc.

Even though it can work just as well in public places (as long as the light is high enough that she can actually SEE you!).

Often times, after you smile, the girl herself will say "Hi!" and then the rest is easy.

The next time you go out, do this to every woman you see. Lock your eyes onto them and see what happens. I guarantee you, you'll be surprised by the results.


How can I get her leave her BOYFRIEND

Every day, I receive dozens of emails from
readers just like you who are having difficulty in some aspect
of their dating life.

Throughout this blog, I'm going to include some answers
to the questions I commonly get.  By doing it this way, I can
hopefully cover the problems you're having while telling the
thousands of other guys on this list.

In today's blog I'm going to respond to a question I
typically receive once or twice a DAY:

"What do I when a girl already has a boyfriend?"


I'm going to be honest with you...

When a woman talks about her boyfriend, she's sending you signals
that she's not available for dating.  It's her way to tell other
guys that she's taken WITHOUT creating an awkward situation.

From what you've written, it's my OPINION that she likes you as
a friend.

To be honest, this happens a LOT to guys.  They mistakenly
think a woman is showing a sign of attraction when she opens up
and shares her inner feelings.  However when a woman enjoys
hanging out with you, but talks about her boyfriend, she's
telling you that you're her FRIEND.

Now that does NOT mean you don't have a chance.  The sad fact is
SOME women are open to doing dating guys despite the fact that
they have a boyfriend.

If you're wondering if she's like this, I recommend you do
something called "The Attraction Test".  I works like this:


 1- Treat her like a woman


When you're with her, treat her LIKE a woman.  In other
words, don't be afraid to joke about sex or tease her in a
suggestive manner (ie: cocky/funny).

Don't be coy or nonsexual around her.  Instead act like a guy
who is comfortable with the topic of sex.  You're doing this
because you want her to view you as someone she WANTS to date,
NOT as a only a friend


 2- Find out more about her boyfriend


Next, you should do some research on her boyfriend.

Now I want to mention one thing....I personally think it's a
BAD idea to intentionally sabotage a relationship.

But...

If she's not happy (or is attracted to you) then it's YOUR
decision if you want to pursue things.  I want to take a chance
then you need to find out more about this OTHER guy.

So try asking her about the boyfriend.  Figure out what she thinks
of him and their relationship.  If it appears that she's not in a
good relationship, then this might be an indicator that she could
into you.

You might have a chance if she's not happy!

On the other hand, if she gushes about how wonderful he is and what
she loves about him, then you're being sent a CLEAR sign that you
probably won't succeed with this woman.


 3- Date other women


Finally, you want to do something that might seem a little
"counterintuitive".  Instead of going after this girl, you want
to date OTHER women.

The idea behind dating other women is to test her reaction.  If
she seems upset or jealous, then you KNOW that she's ripe for
the taking!  

Next time you're around her, start talking about the women
you're currently dating.  In fact, make it seem that you're
being actively pursued by a number of different girls in your
life.


But back to this particular woman...

If you're talking about OTHER women you're interested in, you
could see some jealous feelings from her.  When this happens you
know she has feelings for you.


Well if you want to find out the true feelings of the girl,
you have to a little research.

Remember this...

Regardless of the outcome, you should work hard to date different
women till you find one that you REALLY want to be with.  Once
you've dated lots of women, you won't be wrapped in ONE woman who
might not be returning your feelings.

Never confuse a woman's TRUE intentions!

My advice is if you like a woman THAT WAY, then act like a guy
she WANTS to date.  In other words, don't be her buddy
or the shoulder to cry on.

If you do, you'll end up in the worst place possible...

THE FRIENDS ZONE!

This is the last place you want to go. 

SO......Dont be there.



How to be naturally attractive to all girls

In the past few months, I've thought a LOT about what makes a guy
naturally attractive to any woman. While MOST men need routines,
gimmicks and other PUA games, there are some born with a natural
ability to attract without even thinking about it.

What I find interesting is "naturals" come in all shapes and
sizes. I've seen some who are ugly, fat AND poor. Yet they're
BLESSED with the uncanny ability to unleash a girl's "WILD SIDE"

Now I'll be the first to admit that I am NOT a natural with
women. Before I tried to make a change to this area of my life, I
did manage to "Forrest Gump" my way with women. But looking back,
most of my success was largely due to a few factors:

* Alcohol
* Being in a comfortable environment
* Talking to a friend of a friend
* Having a woman approach me

As you can see, I wasn't as bad as some others out there. But, I
feel that at one point in my life, my success with women was very
limited.

But to the main point of this blog...

There ARE men who have a natural touch with women!

What makes them different?

Well as I've recently discovered, there is ONE major factor that
separates the "naturals" from the "average" men:

Naturals give off a postive attitude!

Okay, I know I'm venturing into the realm of "hippy-dippy" new
agey talk. However, there's an important lesson to be learned
here...

Naturals intuitively know the importance of triggering a woman's
positive emotions. In other words, naturals are FUN to be around
and provide an interesting view of the world.

Primarily, naturals know how to clearly describe their goals and
dreams. Whenever given an opportunity, naturals will talk about
life in an exciting manner.

Since most women live boring unfulfilled lives, a natural can
provide an dramatic change of pace.

Next, naturals are able to avoid the negativity displayed by many
men. If you think about it, most people are  constantly
complaining about how much life sucks.

Instead of simply complaining, a natural will express what he
doesn't like in way that isn't negative. Instead he finds a way
to put a positive spin on almost any scenario.

To illustrate, let's go over a few statements made by an AVERAGE
person and by a NATURAL:


Average :


1) "Those girls are so bitchy. I can't believe they treated me
like that! "

2) "This is the worst service I've ever had. Where the hell did
they hire this waitress? "

3) I'm so tired right now. I don't feel like doing anything
right now"


Natural :


1) "I didn't do my best in that set. Next time, I'm going to
display more energy and positive body language"

2) "Looks like we're not going to have the greatest service
tonight. But, at least I know the food is going to be awesome!"

3) "Who is tired? I'm ready to go!"

As you can see, these statements basically say the same thing.
However the WAY each type of guy says them has a direct link to
a specific emotion.

Naturals know that energy and enthusiasm is important in EVERY
interaction. If you can learn ONE thing from these guys, it
should be that you NEED to display a more fun and exiting
personality. If you show a woman a GREAT time, then she'll be
naturally drawn to you.

An one of the best ways to be more "natural" with women is
to understand how to display an attractive personality

You won't believe how easy it is to get ANY woman when you're
displaying them with a FUN, exciting attitude!


How to turn women 'ON'

"How can I have sex with this woman?"

This is a common question guys have when they're on a date with
a girl.  They like her, think she's attractive and want to
find a way to "close the deal".

Unfortunately, most guys are CLUELESS about how to take things
to the next level.

If you're like a lot of men, then you're probably had problems in
the past with making that transition from a date to the bedroom.

And most women aren't NEVER seem to help you out!

But there's something that you probably never realized...

To have sex with a woman, you have to understand that it's a
PROCESS not a DESTINATION.  In other words, if you're wondering
how to make a move 2-3 hours into the date, then you've
ALREADY failed!

The secret to moving from a date to sex is simple...

You establish physical contact at the start of the date and
build up this tension till you're having sex.  In other words,
you have to know how to TOUCH her.

Establish a physical connection, is the BEST way to led things
towards a sexual encounter.  But you have to do it the RIGHT
way!

So when I tell you to touch her, I DON'T mean you should act
like a sex-starved pervert who is constantly groping women.

Instead you should follow a natural progression which revolves
around her levels of comfort.

In essence you want to follow what I like to call:


The Touching Progression Model



The idea behind this technique is to make a woman feel
comfortable with your touch in order to increase the level of
sexual tension.

So if you want to become intimate with her, you should
initiate touching in a manner that starts with "safe touching"
and goes all the way to "sexual touching".

And as you progress up the "touching ladder", you'll constantly
observe her body language and see if she's comfortable with your
physical contact.  To get started, here is a list of touching
which ranges from LOW RISK all the way to HIGH RISK:

--> Touching her arm (or vice versa)

--> Touching her leg (or vice versa)

--> Touching her medium risk areas (forearms, shoulders, knee,
or wrist)

--> Holding her hand

--> Putting your arms around her (or vice versa)

--> Having her sit on your lap

--> Touching her intimate areas like her face, chest, neck and
inner thighs

Now there is something important thing to remember about "The
Touching Progression Model".  Your goal is to go from an initial
conversation to KISSING her.

If done correctly, you can use it easily transition into sex.  So
you must take any with a woman interaction through these steps
and ensure that she's comfortable with each escalation point.

To really ramp up your touching, you should implement the "Two
steps forward, one step back" rule.

This means you should constantly advance your physical contact,
but also pull back before she's uncomfortable.  Just remember to
be the first to break contact.  If she doesn't like your arm
around you, then COMPLETELY break contact.  What usually happens
is the girl enjoys your physical contact.  When you end it on
YOUR terms, she'll try to find a way to get you to reinitiate
the touching.

Now the big question is this:

Should you touch her or should you get her to touch you?

Well the answer is pretty simple.  ALWAYS make it seem like she's
the one who is initiating the physical contact.  A way you can do
this is to take her hand and put it on YOUR arm.

By making it seem like she's the one to initiate contact, you'll
reduce her nervousness and let her know that she's in complete
control of the physical escalation.

Another thing to remember about physical escalation is keep you
have to keep it active.  When you're touching her, you want to make
it lively not stale.  For instance, if you're holding her hands,
then you could lightly run your fingers along her hands in
playful manner.

Initiating physical contact is the gateway between a conversation
and sex.  If you want to be intimate with a woman, then you have
to know to make her turned on JUST from your touch.

If you follow the physical escalation model that I talked about,
then you'll discover it's easy to move things quickly towards
intimacy.

Remember touching a woman is the FIRST indicator of what
you'll be like in the bedroom.  So make sure you're doing it
RIGHT!