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Sunday, July 25, 2010

what to say on first phone call


Today I want to discuss "phone game." Specifically we're going
to cover what to say on your first phone call.

As you probably know, a girl's opinion is largely based on the
feelings she experiences during your first phone conversation.

Most guys fail in this area, because they simply "wing it"
instead of forming a plan of action.


Whenever calling a girl there were a NUMBER of things you should
do. For instance, you should do the following in EVERY phone
conversation:

1) Have a "call back humor" joke:

Before you get a number, it's important to have some sort of
connection or private joke. It could be a nickname you give her.

Or if you met her online, you could refer to something about her
profile that you busted her on.

The point is using call back humor will immediately establish
that connection you formed when you first got her number. It
doesn't have to be anything fancy, just a something that shows
points out the connection the two of you have.

2) Have a few questions about her

It's important to establish a connection with any conversation
you have with a woman. Before calling her, jot down a few
questions that you geniunely want to know about her.

Ask about her:

* Hobbies and life outside work
* Dreams and aspirations
* Favorite places to travel
* Music, movies, and books she likes

Now you'll find that many so-called "seduction gurus" tell you to
ignore any rapport seeking questions before you know she's into
you. And they'll also probably recommend never asking anything
that makes you seem like you're trying to seek her approval.

But I honestly believe that it's necessary to ask questions like
this. Honestly, it's important for creating attraction. However
it's equally important to make her feel that sense of connection
where you truly get her.

So I recommend you ask questions about her. But you also want to
challenge her at the same time. Ask her why she likes the things
she does. Tease her a little. Create some banter between the two
of you.

3) Have stories to tell

Stories should be the backbone of ANY attraction building
conversation. Frankly one of the biggest mistake I've made in
the past was having nothing to talk about.

Before picking up the phone, you should jot down a few notes
about some of the interesting things you've done during the week.
Also if you have a story from your past that you know women love,
NOW is the time you should tell it!

Any story you tell should put you in the best possible light. It
should subtly demonstrate that you're a fun, high status guy who
has a lot going on in your life. And if this isn't the truth,
then it's time to get out there and do something!


4) Have a date idea

NEVER, ever pick up the phone without having a few fun activities
planned. It can be something you're doing with your friends. Or
it can be something as simple as a trip to the mall.

The point is you want a specific activity that you're doing
during the week. And then as the conversation comes to the
conclusion, you should invite her to come join you.

Typically this is known as a date. However I'm a firm believer
in not using that word OR making it sound like a big deal. Let
her know that you want to see her again. But you're also NOT
structuring your entire life around seeing her. If she agrees,
she agrees. If she doesn't...Oh well. Next.

Bottom line is a phone call should be a fun experience. Use it
to establish a connection, create attraction, and showcase your
unique personality. Don't make the mistake of being boring

Instead be a exciting, engaging guy that she'll want to
immedietely see in person.



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