Do You Have ANY of These 4 Problems with Women...
Everyday i recieve dozens of Emails,containing the same question.
So instead of sending out four different emails, let me cover
FOUR of the most common questions that I receive from readers
just like you.
Hopefully this will clear up any doubts that you might have
about your own unique situation...
Problem-1:-Do I have to be good looking to attract different women?
This is probably the most common question I get!
The fear of not being "good enough" is a feeling that a lot of
men have!
While they secretly hope to attract that 'hot thing' from across
the room, many guys feel like they're not good looking enough to
really make her interested.
Even though each guy has his own problem area, this fear is
a universal issue that has impacted the lives of countless men.
But each one has his own "sticking point" when it comes to
some aspect of his appearance. This can include feelings of
being:
* Too Old
* Too Fat
* Too Skinny
* Too Poor
* Too Ugly
Now let's be perfectly HONEST here...Good looks can HELP you
succeed with women. BUT, it is NOT the only factor that affects
a woman's level of attraction!
The psychology of women is a tricky thing. While you MIGHT
think they go for only good-looking guys, MOST are attracted
to the men who make them FEEL GOOD about themselves.
And this has NOTHING to do with looks!
So even if you're NOT happy with your appearance, there is STILL
a system which can help you attract different women.
Basically any excuse YOU HAVE about not being good looking is
just that - AN EXCUSE!
If you believe in yourself and pay attention to the resources I
provide, you'll develop the proper techniques to attract ANY
woman, regardless of your appearance!
Problem-2:- Isn't It More Natural to Wait Till True Love Finds Me?
Another question I Often receive is from men who feel fate will
decide when they'll meet the woman of their dreams.
Unfortunately fate will almost NEVER bring a great woman to you!
Here's a scenario that can help illustrate my point:
==
You're hanging out in a restaurent with your friends, having a
few drinks and some laughs.
Suddenly you look across the room and there she is...
THE WOMAN OF YOUR DREAMS!
Not only is she beautiful, but she also has a special quality
that you've never had before.
Perhaps this is even LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT!
Unfortunately, you're nervous and unsure of what to say.
In the best case scenario, you muster up a bit of courage, walk
over and use some lame pick-up line you heard from your buddies.
She then gets disgusted and turns her back on you, virtually
shutting you out from her world.
Now this is the best case scenario.
Another thing that could happen is you sit there thinking of
every smooth line you could possibly say to her. In fact,
you spend HOURS trying to figure out the best way to approach
her.
Before you get enough "liquid courage" to talk to her, another
guy walks up to her. He strikes up a conversation with her
and the two of them are suddenly best of friends.
Your hesitation and fear has ruined any chance of meeting this
amazing woman. Now some other Asshole is sitting there talking
to her.
==
Pretty crappy story, right?
The point was to illustrate how you might make up some excuse
about meeting someone when FATE allows it to happen.
But the truth is even if you're randomly put in a situation where
you could meet the woman of your dreams, you might clam up and not
know what to say.
By implementing the techniques I describe in this email list,
you'll be prepared to take action whenever you see a woman you
find interesting.
So while we all want to believe in fate and how it'll bring us
that perfect woman, the reality is this...
LIFE IS WHAT WE MAKE OF IT!
Fate won't bring you women. However, knowing what to and TAKING
ACTION will help you create your own destiny!
Problem-3:- Does this stuff teach me to manipulate women?
This is a really good question!
Now, I truly believe that the stuff I teach in my blogs and email
list FOCUSES on teaching men the importance of finding the inner
strength which lies within all of them.
It is NOT about using and abusing women.
But let me be honest here...
We live in a world where women are actively pursued by guys. As
a result, a lot of them have learned that men will do anything
to attract their attention.
The end result is many women have learned to turn dating into
a sport. Some understand how to manipulate men to get what they
want.
And when they tired of one particular guy, they will quickly ditch
him.
Now this shouldn't make you angry. Instead, it should OPEN your
eyes to the reality of the dating world.
Sure, MOST women are just like you. They're trying simply
trying to find the *right* guy. Unfortunately, since they
get hit on ALL the time by men, they've developed subtle, yet
effective tactics to WEED OUT the losers.
My goal is to help you avoid becoming THAT GUY!
What I'm trying to teach is how to build your confidence when
meeting women. That means you meet a girl on EQUAL grounds.
Instead of catering to her every desire, you'll learn how to
stand up for yourself and converse with her in a attractive
manner.
AND...in no way do I want you to become a jerk or learn how to
abuse women.
Instead it's my hope that you take what you learn and be confident
enough to approach women in ANY social situation.
But ultimately it all comes down to your own personal viewpoint
about women.
If you're the type of guy who harbors a hatred towards females,
then there is VERY LITTLE I can teach you.
The point I am trying to make is it's important to learn about
each woman you meet and find out what makes them great. Then you
can create an engaging conversation with her which could lead to a
more intimate encounter.
Problem-4:-How Do I Get Started?
Well hopefully by now you've had time to read through my free
blog- "Tips to impress Indian girls".
If you haven't, then you should start there!
In fact, it's really important to read through the whole thing.
After that, you can advance your education.
So I urge you to get out there and take massive action!
To your success with women,.
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
A little "MAN TO MAN" talk
When it comes to dating and women, you can do away with reason, particularly when it concerns flattery and praise.
Contrary to what most women will tell you, flattery does not always get the results that you expect.
A man constantly praising a woman he doesn't know, telling her she is stunning, sexy, exciting, clever, or just plain great will simply end up annoying her. His remarks will be regarded as flippant and her interest levels will drop dramatically.
Why?
Well, if you put yourself in the place of a beautiful woman, it is a bit easier to Lovely Woman understand.
Someone who is approached endlessly each day by any number of guys all saying how gorgeous she is without even knowing her, ultimately will end up believing the compliment to be insincere and the guy to be unoriginal or boring, or both.
Since you are neither of those, you need to take another approach.
Naturally women do love to hear that they are pretty or sexy, but gushing compliments in the beginning only cheapens your efforts at a relationship, as she will believe that you are solely interested in physical beauty and/or having sex with her.
Although this may be true initially, it is an immediate turn-off for women.
In addition, by frequently complimenting a woman, you will empower her and psychologically will give her a "hold" over you, allowing her to think that she can turn you away anytime she likes, and that you need her more than she needs you.
For two people to date and continue dating, they both need to feel that they are on an equal par, socially. In this respect, excessive compliments and praise from you detracts from your status and adds to hers resulting in an uneven standing for you both.
Now I don't want to imply that you not flatter a woman at all. Subtle compliments in the beginning - to get her attention - are very effective, as is the timing of such compliments.
Saying "I love what you've done with your hair" on the first date is much less likely to be believed as your date will consider it to be "a line".
However, the same compliment said two weeks later can be interpreted very differently as your date will think that you have taken note of her hair before she changed it, noticed that she changed it, and liked what she did after she changed it.
The result will be a genuine smile of appreciation, which will undoubtedly take you one step further in a relationship with her.
Much better, wouldn't you say, than her breathing a sigh, rolling her eyes, and turning you down?
The thing to think about when you hesitate in approaching a woman...
...is to compare between the risk and reward.
When you talk to a woman, either she likes you, or she doesn't. So, you technically have got 50% chance. So, you will have at least 1 in 2 probability of success.
Which is high!
If you instead do nothing, your chances are NIL.
So, go for it as you have got absolutely nothing to lose. What's the absolute worst thing that can happen?
Contrary to what most women will tell you, flattery does not always get the results that you expect.
A man constantly praising a woman he doesn't know, telling her she is stunning, sexy, exciting, clever, or just plain great will simply end up annoying her. His remarks will be regarded as flippant and her interest levels will drop dramatically.
Why?
Well, if you put yourself in the place of a beautiful woman, it is a bit easier to Lovely Woman understand.
Someone who is approached endlessly each day by any number of guys all saying how gorgeous she is without even knowing her, ultimately will end up believing the compliment to be insincere and the guy to be unoriginal or boring, or both.
Since you are neither of those, you need to take another approach.
Naturally women do love to hear that they are pretty or sexy, but gushing compliments in the beginning only cheapens your efforts at a relationship, as she will believe that you are solely interested in physical beauty and/or having sex with her.
Although this may be true initially, it is an immediate turn-off for women.
In addition, by frequently complimenting a woman, you will empower her and psychologically will give her a "hold" over you, allowing her to think that she can turn you away anytime she likes, and that you need her more than she needs you.
For two people to date and continue dating, they both need to feel that they are on an equal par, socially. In this respect, excessive compliments and praise from you detracts from your status and adds to hers resulting in an uneven standing for you both.
Now I don't want to imply that you not flatter a woman at all. Subtle compliments in the beginning - to get her attention - are very effective, as is the timing of such compliments.
Saying "I love what you've done with your hair" on the first date is much less likely to be believed as your date will consider it to be "a line".
However, the same compliment said two weeks later can be interpreted very differently as your date will think that you have taken note of her hair before she changed it, noticed that she changed it, and liked what she did after she changed it.
The result will be a genuine smile of appreciation, which will undoubtedly take you one step further in a relationship with her.
Much better, wouldn't you say, than her breathing a sigh, rolling her eyes, and turning you down?
The thing to think about when you hesitate in approaching a woman...
...is to compare between the risk and reward.
When you talk to a woman, either she likes you, or she doesn't. So, you technically have got 50% chance. So, you will have at least 1 in 2 probability of success.
Which is high!
If you instead do nothing, your chances are NIL.
So, go for it as you have got absolutely nothing to lose. What's the absolute worst thing that can happen?
Avoid such kind of girls
On Sunday night, I arrived back to the mumbai from my week
long trip to Agra and New Delhi. I was dog tired and
need of some sleep. So naturally I made the smart decision and
went out with a few friends to a local club.
After a few approaches, I got into a conversation with a girl
I'll call Priya. At first, I was interested in Priya. She was
a tall, willowy college girl from Mumbai. Definitely the kind
I like.
However after a few minutes, I quickly determined that she was
showing all the classic signs of what my friends and I call a
"Trainwreck".
What's a trainwreck? Well this is a girl who fills her life with
extremely poor life decisions. Typically this is someone who
only lives for the moment and thinks nothing about the outcomes
of her decisions.
Like the name describes, a trainwreck is an accident waiting to
happen. If you wait around long enough, things WILL come crashing
down around her.
You can usually spot a trainwreck by a number of qualities. For
instance, she'll:
~~> "Party" or go out to bars 4-5 times a week (Or get REALLY
drunk every time she goes out)
~~> Frequently use hard drugs like cocaine, speed, or Ecstasy
~~> Rarely talk about long-term plans or goals
~~> Need constant attention from many different guys
~~> Have an overall "crazy-eyed" look about her
Now the major problem with trainwrecks is they can be very
attractive. A girl like this can bring a lot of excitement to
your life. Unfortunately, she also provides a ton of chaos and
drama.
In the past, I used to be drawn to girls like Priya. Ones that
were beautiful, and promised that hint of excitement. But
during the last year, I've learned a VERY valuable lesson about
a trainwreck...
YOU CAN'T FIX THEM!
A trainwreck can be fun to be around. What's unfortunate is your
average guy will date a girl like this, expecting that she'll
magically change her self-destructive ways. And after weeks
(even months) of trying to fix her, his life will suffer.
Now if you're NOT looking for a girlfriend or anything
permanent, then you probably date a trainwreck without TOO
much drama.
However, it's important to keep things in perspective. Remember
that she's basically looking for a good time and isn't in the
market for a serious relationship. Furthermore, she's probably
hanging around a LOT of other guys. So don't make the mistake
of thinking of she's "the one." Have fun with her, but don't
lose perspective.
On the other hand, let's say you're a guy who only wants quality
women. IF you encounter a trainwreck, I have a simple piece of
advice...
RUN!
Don't make the mistake of getting involved with a girl like this.
Sure she might be good-looking OR be a nice girl deep down OR
promise that hint of excitement. If you have your shit
together then a girl like this will only bring unnecessary drama
into your life.
To have true success with women, you want to surround yourself
with women who can bring more to the table than just their looks.
They should have qualities that can stimulate you on a number of
levels. And part of having standards means you won't accept ANY
behavior that damages your life.
So when you find yourself in a conversation with a trainwreck,
the best thing to do is to quickly excuse yourself. As they say,
there are plenty of fish in the sea. In the long run, you'll be
much happier if you only interact with women who bring positive
things into YOUR life.
long trip to Agra and New Delhi. I was dog tired and
need of some sleep. So naturally I made the smart decision and
went out with a few friends to a local club.
After a few approaches, I got into a conversation with a girl
I'll call Priya. At first, I was interested in Priya. She was
a tall, willowy college girl from Mumbai. Definitely the kind
I like.
However after a few minutes, I quickly determined that she was
showing all the classic signs of what my friends and I call a
"Trainwreck".
What's a trainwreck? Well this is a girl who fills her life with
extremely poor life decisions. Typically this is someone who
only lives for the moment and thinks nothing about the outcomes
of her decisions.
Like the name describes, a trainwreck is an accident waiting to
happen. If you wait around long enough, things WILL come crashing
down around her.
You can usually spot a trainwreck by a number of qualities. For
instance, she'll:
~~> "Party" or go out to bars 4-5 times a week (Or get REALLY
drunk every time she goes out)
~~> Frequently use hard drugs like cocaine, speed, or Ecstasy
~~> Rarely talk about long-term plans or goals
~~> Need constant attention from many different guys
~~> Have an overall "crazy-eyed" look about her
Now the major problem with trainwrecks is they can be very
attractive. A girl like this can bring a lot of excitement to
your life. Unfortunately, she also provides a ton of chaos and
drama.
In the past, I used to be drawn to girls like Priya. Ones that
were beautiful, and promised that hint of excitement. But
during the last year, I've learned a VERY valuable lesson about
a trainwreck...
YOU CAN'T FIX THEM!
A trainwreck can be fun to be around. What's unfortunate is your
average guy will date a girl like this, expecting that she'll
magically change her self-destructive ways. And after weeks
(even months) of trying to fix her, his life will suffer.
Now if you're NOT looking for a girlfriend or anything
permanent, then you probably date a trainwreck without TOO
much drama.
However, it's important to keep things in perspective. Remember
that she's basically looking for a good time and isn't in the
market for a serious relationship. Furthermore, she's probably
hanging around a LOT of other guys. So don't make the mistake
of thinking of she's "the one." Have fun with her, but don't
lose perspective.
On the other hand, let's say you're a guy who only wants quality
women. IF you encounter a trainwreck, I have a simple piece of
advice...
RUN!
Don't make the mistake of getting involved with a girl like this.
Sure she might be good-looking OR be a nice girl deep down OR
promise that hint of excitement. If you have your shit
together then a girl like this will only bring unnecessary drama
into your life.
To have true success with women, you want to surround yourself
with women who can bring more to the table than just their looks.
They should have qualities that can stimulate you on a number of
levels. And part of having standards means you won't accept ANY
behavior that damages your life.
So when you find yourself in a conversation with a trainwreck,
the best thing to do is to quickly excuse yourself. As they say,
there are plenty of fish in the sea. In the long run, you'll be
much happier if you only interact with women who bring positive
things into YOUR life.
Monday, October 19, 2009
8 Topics to use on your next date
8 Incredible Conversation Topics You Can Use on Your Dates
Being out of topics is actually a
pretty common thing that happens to a lot of guys. You go on a
few dates and then it seems like there is nothing more you can
really talk about.
But what you probably don't realize is there are a LOT of
different conversation topics you can cover. The trick is to
ONLY focus on the ones that'll increase the level of sexual
tension.
So in other words, NEVER talk about things that are boring
OR focus on NEGATIVITY. The goal of first couple of dates is
to make that physical/emotional connection.
It's NOT about talking a girl's ear off with things that
doesn't want to hear.
So never-
- Say anything negative about the people around you
- Be rude or talk in an arrogant manner
- Talk at length about past relationships which have failed
- Focus on boring "interview topics" like jobs or schooling
Now that you know which topics to avoid, let's move on...
What you need to do here is create an atmosphere on this date
which will increase the chemistry. The best way to do this is
by talking about specific topics that she'll find interesting.
And here are 8 different ways to do this:
1. Tell Great Stories
Learn how to tell 3-4 interesting stories that can be interjected
into your conversation. These stories should portray you in an
interesting and exciting manner while being funny at the same
time! What I suggest is you sit down and craft a few stories
from your life.
Then practice these stories till you know them cold!
2. Focus on emotion
There are numerous topics which women love to discuss.
Generally, these are the focus on basic human emotions (i.e.:
drama, conflict and romance)
You can easily connect to the emotional side of her brain by
discussing *charged* topics that include any of these topics.
3. Personality tests and other games
The best way to be attractive towards women is to demonstrate
higher value. Commonly this is done by demonstrating a skill
or ability that most guys DON'T have.
So if you have the time, I would urge you to read up on "cold
reading" techniques.
You can use these techniques to describe a woman's personality
from limited knowledge you have of her. Even though you've
been on a few dates, learning how to "cold read" is a quick way
to build interest and attraction.
4. Talk about celebrities
People (especially women) LOVE to talk about celebrities. So all
you have to do pay attention to the different headlines in the
tabloids. Then start talking about the shocking exploits of
society's elite.
Trust me, there is ALWAYS something going on in bollywood which
can provide you with a great conversation piece.
5. Create an our world conspiracy
While I think it's important to be a positive person,
you can still have fun gossiping about the people around you.
If you're stuck with stuff to talk about, you can resort to
people watching and commenting about the groups situated around
you.
Doing this create an "our world" mentality where you're having
fun playing guessing games about other folks.
For instance you can watch other couples on the date and
determine if they're going to make it.
Another example is to spot a big group of people, you can play a
game and try to figure out who is the "Alpha Male/Female".
6. Talk about your dreams and aspirations
A great topic of conversation is talking about the different
things you want to achieve in your lifetimes.
When you talk about things like this, you're making a connection
to a positive emotion. As a result, you'll discover it's easy to
piggyback on these emotions and build attraction
7. Use past topics
During past dates with other women, you've probably had
incredible conversations around specific topics.
The truth is these conversations worked for a reason...
They were INTERESTING!
Since you've recently started to date this woman, you've probably
haven't talked about a lot of things. So you can easily use
conversation topics which you have worked on other women.
8. Keep up with current events
Topics of conversation are happening in the world right NOW!
Since the planet is a big place, you can easily find interesting
topics to discuss! All you have to do is listen to the news each
day and you'll have plenty to talk about.
Just remember to stay away from polarizing topics like war,
religion or politics.
Well as you can see, there are lots of things you can discuss on
your date. If you take the time to do a little preparing, you'll
discover that it's actually quite simple create an engaging
conversation which will quickly build attraction.
Being out of topics is actually a
pretty common thing that happens to a lot of guys. You go on a
few dates and then it seems like there is nothing more you can
really talk about.
But what you probably don't realize is there are a LOT of
different conversation topics you can cover. The trick is to
ONLY focus on the ones that'll increase the level of sexual
tension.
So in other words, NEVER talk about things that are boring
OR focus on NEGATIVITY. The goal of first couple of dates is
to make that physical/emotional connection.
It's NOT about talking a girl's ear off with things that
doesn't want to hear.
So never-
- Say anything negative about the people around you
- Be rude or talk in an arrogant manner
- Talk at length about past relationships which have failed
- Focus on boring "interview topics" like jobs or schooling
Now that you know which topics to avoid, let's move on...
What you need to do here is create an atmosphere on this date
which will increase the chemistry. The best way to do this is
by talking about specific topics that she'll find interesting.
And here are 8 different ways to do this:
1. Tell Great Stories
Learn how to tell 3-4 interesting stories that can be interjected
into your conversation. These stories should portray you in an
interesting and exciting manner while being funny at the same
time! What I suggest is you sit down and craft a few stories
from your life.
Then practice these stories till you know them cold!
2. Focus on emotion
There are numerous topics which women love to discuss.
Generally, these are the focus on basic human emotions (i.e.:
drama, conflict and romance)
You can easily connect to the emotional side of her brain by
discussing *charged* topics that include any of these topics.
3. Personality tests and other games
The best way to be attractive towards women is to demonstrate
higher value. Commonly this is done by demonstrating a skill
or ability that most guys DON'T have.
So if you have the time, I would urge you to read up on "cold
reading" techniques.
You can use these techniques to describe a woman's personality
from limited knowledge you have of her. Even though you've
been on a few dates, learning how to "cold read" is a quick way
to build interest and attraction.
4. Talk about celebrities
People (especially women) LOVE to talk about celebrities. So all
you have to do pay attention to the different headlines in the
tabloids. Then start talking about the shocking exploits of
society's elite.
Trust me, there is ALWAYS something going on in bollywood which
can provide you with a great conversation piece.
5. Create an our world conspiracy
While I think it's important to be a positive person,
you can still have fun gossiping about the people around you.
If you're stuck with stuff to talk about, you can resort to
people watching and commenting about the groups situated around
you.
Doing this create an "our world" mentality where you're having
fun playing guessing games about other folks.
For instance you can watch other couples on the date and
determine if they're going to make it.
Another example is to spot a big group of people, you can play a
game and try to figure out who is the "Alpha Male/Female".
6. Talk about your dreams and aspirations
A great topic of conversation is talking about the different
things you want to achieve in your lifetimes.
When you talk about things like this, you're making a connection
to a positive emotion. As a result, you'll discover it's easy to
piggyback on these emotions and build attraction
7. Use past topics
During past dates with other women, you've probably had
incredible conversations around specific topics.
The truth is these conversations worked for a reason...
They were INTERESTING!
Since you've recently started to date this woman, you've probably
haven't talked about a lot of things. So you can easily use
conversation topics which you have worked on other women.
8. Keep up with current events
Topics of conversation are happening in the world right NOW!
Since the planet is a big place, you can easily find interesting
topics to discuss! All you have to do is listen to the news each
day and you'll have plenty to talk about.
Just remember to stay away from polarizing topics like war,
religion or politics.
Well as you can see, there are lots of things you can discuss on
your date. If you take the time to do a little preparing, you'll
discover that it's actually quite simple create an engaging
conversation which will quickly build attraction.
How to Impress older women
Question from a reader:-
Am a regular reader of your blog and am really got a huge help from your blogs in my love life.But I really want to tell you a storywhich happened
Last Friday I went out with some buddies and the whole place was bursting with hot female models. My first thought was 'bring it on', as I thought of the many possibilities of being in a room full of tens.
Me and the rest of the guys went our separate ways to cover more ground, and I managed to get at least two phone numbers. Things were really going well, and it was crazy, but something weird happened.
One of the women I approached asked about my age and I said 20. She's 25. After that conversation about age, she started talking to me in an extremely polite manner, which was a far cry from the way she was talking to me before we got around to talking about age.
She was flirting like hell until that point. What gives?
I don't know exactly if it's her body language, or the tone of her voice, but I got the vibe that she was very civil with me.
Worst of all, I got the feeling that she's 'sitting it out' until I got tired of talking to her so she can finally talk to other people. It seemed as if she tolerated my convo because she’s a nice girl who couldn’t diss a guy rudely.
I picked up on her sudden change of mood and with the proverbial tail between my legs, went back to the buddies. It wasn’t a bad thing, I suppose, because there were many more women in the vicinity, but still, it seemed strange.
Now on to my main question:
In general how can a guy get around the age-related bias and make a girl think you’re fun, adventurous and worldly? To phrase it more succinctly, how can a guy make a woman switch off the “you’re too young for me” mindset?
I like dating older women, and my experience with girls a few years older than me has been great so far, but this was the first time I’ve encountered a girl who made me feel like age should be an issue.
If I meet a girl who thinks like this again, should I just lie and say I’m older than my actual age?
SOLUTION of the problem
Getting judged because of your age or age group is a nightmare, I can tell you from experience.
Most of the time, women dig you and banter with you comfortably until they start guessing your age (or you tell them yourself).
To illustrate this dilemma, imagine a young guy who can open conversations with women like a dream.
He can start a sexually-charged discourse with any woman and get her lusting for him. Think eye-to-eye contact, visible heart bubbles over her head… she’s quite ready to give in anytime, until he opens his mouth and tells her his real age...
...and BOOM!
Her hot loins freeze over, her heart turns black, her flirty glances turn serious, and she looks at you like she just saw you.
As you talk to her, she puts on a quizzical look and asks the question that’s burning in her brain right at that moment… “How old are you?”
Talk about getting hit where it hurts most. Believe me, I’ve felt this same feeling many times in the past whenever a girl busts my ego by telling me I’m too young, not old enough, or too adolescent for her to date.
From that moment on, you can expect her to say something like “Um… yeah… well, I don’t date guys your age”, “you’re cute like my little brother”, “you remind me of my eldest son”, or “I really don’t date younger guys”.
Now, what’s a guy to do if faced with this scenario? Do you just sit there and take it? Do not wait for your ego to return to its normal size.
Instead, do something to bounce the criticism back at her so she will know never to judge a virile guy by his age alone in the future (and of course, to turn the situation around to your benefit).
Although most mails I receive regarding the age issue come from women complaining how this or that guy is way older, this questions really made me smile because I got to go back to the way I was treated by older women in the past as soon as they learned how much younger I was compared to their age.
Women then always made me feel inferior by acting haughty about their experience. For some reason age equates experience to most women, and when they find out you’re way younger, they would automatically assume you don’t have what it takes for them to date.
No woman wants to babysit, I can tell you that much. But sometimes, there are women who simply dislike dating younger men, just because. No reason given, and no apologies issued. This tendency to get busted like this for being ‘too young’ is painful at the very least.
Now that I’m older, I’ve had to deal with this from the other end of the spectrum. Suddenly, some girls are thinking I’m too old for them to date!
It’s funny how things turn out, but the best part of being a part of this whole age shenanigan is getting to know some methods to make her think of you differently regardless of her age-bias and regardless of your age.
I’m going to show you how to turn the situation around … and make her feel attracted instead of turned off in as little as 30 seconds.
Here’s how you start to turn it around...
How to handle 'tricky' situations regarding age...
Don’t get me wrong, I personally like older women, and I think the maturity they have is attractive.
But if push comes to shove and a woman tries to make me feel inferior to her because of my age, I won’t hesitate to flip things around to get her turned on.
Albeit, that’s not the way our culture is set up. For females, their age and looks are fused together. You can tease a girl about her age when she starts giving you the snotty about how young you are.
Do it like the cosmetics marketers do… push her age-looks pain button and it won’t matter if she’s just a year older than you. She will undoubtedly feel the sting of your flippant remarks, and start reacting.
When she goes on her ‘reactive phase’, you know what that means right? You can push some more buttons to immediately generate attraction and get her coming home with you.
If she notices that the age comment affected you in any way, she will think she’s the prize and you should prove yourself to her before she flirts with you again.
Instead of falling for it, do this: throw a neg about her age and see her whole confidence crumble. Tease her lightly with words that clearly say you think her regard for your age is foolish. Here’s an example:
Her: “You’re way too young for me. Come back when you’re older”
Me: “You’re absolutely right. You’re way older than me. You’re past your prime in ‘girly years’. “
If she asks about that remark or if she looks shocked, educate her further by saying, “a girl’s age peaks at 18. That’s when her modeling career takes off. If she’s lucky, it stays good until she’s 25. You at 25 is basically a senior citizen amongst hot women.”
Are you catching my drift? :)
She will probably laugh in recognition of a rebuke, and that’s when you can really get her.
This tactic works like gangbusters, and here's why...
First of all, she sees you in a new light. You’re the impertinent man of the world who dared challenge her ego so you must be something else.
Another thing, even if you told her she’s way old in your eyes, you still gave her a compliment somehow (by pitting her against hot young girls aged 18-25)… but still, you made her uneasy and she feels provoked.
When you get her in this state, you have her where you want her. You will have her thinking of ways to prove herself to you.
The combination of indignant reaction, heightened senses, emotional discomfort and fuming gives rise to an emotion women interpret as ‘attraction.’ Believe it!
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Am a regular reader of your blog and am really got a huge help from your blogs in my love life.But I really want to tell you a storywhich happened
Last Friday I went out with some buddies and the whole place was bursting with hot female models. My first thought was 'bring it on', as I thought of the many possibilities of being in a room full of tens.
Me and the rest of the guys went our separate ways to cover more ground, and I managed to get at least two phone numbers. Things were really going well, and it was crazy, but something weird happened.
One of the women I approached asked about my age and I said 20. She's 25. After that conversation about age, she started talking to me in an extremely polite manner, which was a far cry from the way she was talking to me before we got around to talking about age.
She was flirting like hell until that point. What gives?
I don't know exactly if it's her body language, or the tone of her voice, but I got the vibe that she was very civil with me.
Worst of all, I got the feeling that she's 'sitting it out' until I got tired of talking to her so she can finally talk to other people. It seemed as if she tolerated my convo because she’s a nice girl who couldn’t diss a guy rudely.
I picked up on her sudden change of mood and with the proverbial tail between my legs, went back to the buddies. It wasn’t a bad thing, I suppose, because there were many more women in the vicinity, but still, it seemed strange.
Now on to my main question:
In general how can a guy get around the age-related bias and make a girl think you’re fun, adventurous and worldly? To phrase it more succinctly, how can a guy make a woman switch off the “you’re too young for me” mindset?
I like dating older women, and my experience with girls a few years older than me has been great so far, but this was the first time I’ve encountered a girl who made me feel like age should be an issue.
If I meet a girl who thinks like this again, should I just lie and say I’m older than my actual age?
SOLUTION of the problem
Getting judged because of your age or age group is a nightmare, I can tell you from experience.
Most of the time, women dig you and banter with you comfortably until they start guessing your age (or you tell them yourself).
To illustrate this dilemma, imagine a young guy who can open conversations with women like a dream.
He can start a sexually-charged discourse with any woman and get her lusting for him. Think eye-to-eye contact, visible heart bubbles over her head… she’s quite ready to give in anytime, until he opens his mouth and tells her his real age...
...and BOOM!
Her hot loins freeze over, her heart turns black, her flirty glances turn serious, and she looks at you like she just saw you.
As you talk to her, she puts on a quizzical look and asks the question that’s burning in her brain right at that moment… “How old are you?”
Talk about getting hit where it hurts most. Believe me, I’ve felt this same feeling many times in the past whenever a girl busts my ego by telling me I’m too young, not old enough, or too adolescent for her to date.
From that moment on, you can expect her to say something like “Um… yeah… well, I don’t date guys your age”, “you’re cute like my little brother”, “you remind me of my eldest son”, or “I really don’t date younger guys”.
Now, what’s a guy to do if faced with this scenario? Do you just sit there and take it? Do not wait for your ego to return to its normal size.
Instead, do something to bounce the criticism back at her so she will know never to judge a virile guy by his age alone in the future (and of course, to turn the situation around to your benefit).
Although most mails I receive regarding the age issue come from women complaining how this or that guy is way older, this questions really made me smile because I got to go back to the way I was treated by older women in the past as soon as they learned how much younger I was compared to their age.
Women then always made me feel inferior by acting haughty about their experience. For some reason age equates experience to most women, and when they find out you’re way younger, they would automatically assume you don’t have what it takes for them to date.
No woman wants to babysit, I can tell you that much. But sometimes, there are women who simply dislike dating younger men, just because. No reason given, and no apologies issued. This tendency to get busted like this for being ‘too young’ is painful at the very least.
Now that I’m older, I’ve had to deal with this from the other end of the spectrum. Suddenly, some girls are thinking I’m too old for them to date!
It’s funny how things turn out, but the best part of being a part of this whole age shenanigan is getting to know some methods to make her think of you differently regardless of her age-bias and regardless of your age.
I’m going to show you how to turn the situation around … and make her feel attracted instead of turned off in as little as 30 seconds.
Here’s how you start to turn it around...
How to handle 'tricky' situations regarding age...
Don’t get me wrong, I personally like older women, and I think the maturity they have is attractive.
But if push comes to shove and a woman tries to make me feel inferior to her because of my age, I won’t hesitate to flip things around to get her turned on.
Albeit, that’s not the way our culture is set up. For females, their age and looks are fused together. You can tease a girl about her age when she starts giving you the snotty about how young you are.
Do it like the cosmetics marketers do… push her age-looks pain button and it won’t matter if she’s just a year older than you. She will undoubtedly feel the sting of your flippant remarks, and start reacting.
When she goes on her ‘reactive phase’, you know what that means right? You can push some more buttons to immediately generate attraction and get her coming home with you.
If she notices that the age comment affected you in any way, she will think she’s the prize and you should prove yourself to her before she flirts with you again.
Instead of falling for it, do this: throw a neg about her age and see her whole confidence crumble. Tease her lightly with words that clearly say you think her regard for your age is foolish. Here’s an example:
Her: “You’re way too young for me. Come back when you’re older”
Me: “You’re absolutely right. You’re way older than me. You’re past your prime in ‘girly years’. “
If she asks about that remark or if she looks shocked, educate her further by saying, “a girl’s age peaks at 18. That’s when her modeling career takes off. If she’s lucky, it stays good until she’s 25. You at 25 is basically a senior citizen amongst hot women.”
Are you catching my drift? :)
She will probably laugh in recognition of a rebuke, and that’s when you can really get her.
This tactic works like gangbusters, and here's why...
First of all, she sees you in a new light. You’re the impertinent man of the world who dared challenge her ego so you must be something else.
Another thing, even if you told her she’s way old in your eyes, you still gave her a compliment somehow (by pitting her against hot young girls aged 18-25)… but still, you made her uneasy and she feels provoked.
When you get her in this state, you have her where you want her. You will have her thinking of ways to prove herself to you.
The combination of indignant reaction, heightened senses, emotional discomfort and fuming gives rise to an emotion women interpret as ‘attraction.’ Believe it!
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