A little "MAN TO MAN" talk

When it comes to dating and women, you can do away with reason, particularly when it concerns flattery and praise.

Contrary to what most women will tell you, flattery does not always get the results that you expect.

A man constantly praising a woman he doesn't know, telling her she is stunning, sexy, exciting, clever, or just plain great will simply end up annoying her. His remarks will be regarded as flippant and her interest levels will drop dramatically.

Why?

Well, if you put yourself in the place of a beautiful woman, it is a bit easier to Lovely Woman understand.

Someone who is approached endlessly each day by any number of guys all saying how gorgeous she is without even knowing her, ultimately will end up believing the compliment to be insincere and the guy to be unoriginal or boring, or both.

Since you are neither of those, you need to take another approach.

Naturally women do love to hear that they are pretty or sexy, but gushing compliments in the beginning only cheapens your efforts at a relationship, as she will believe that you are solely interested in physical beauty and/or having sex with her.

Although this may be true initially, it is an immediate turn-off for women.

In addition, by frequently complimenting a woman, you will empower her and psychologically will give her a "hold" over you, allowing her to think that she can turn you away anytime she likes, and that you need her more than she needs you.

For two people to date and continue dating, they both need to feel that they are on an equal par, socially. In this respect, excessive compliments and praise from you detracts from your status and adds to hers resulting in an uneven standing for you both.

Now I don't want to imply that you not flatter a woman at all. Subtle compliments in the beginning - to get her attention - are very effective, as is the timing of such compliments.

Saying "I love what you've done with your hair" on the first date is much less likely to be believed as your date will consider it to be "a line".


However, the same compliment said two weeks later can be interpreted very differently as your date will think that you have taken note of her hair before she changed it, noticed that she changed it, and liked what she did after she changed it.

The result will be a genuine smile of appreciation, which will undoubtedly take you one step further in a relationship with her.

Much better, wouldn't you say, than her breathing a sigh, rolling her eyes, and turning you down?


The thing to think about when you hesitate in approaching a woman...

...is to compare between the risk and reward.

When you talk to a woman, either she likes you, or she doesn't. So, you technically have got 50% chance. So, you will have at least 1 in 2 probability of success.

Which is high!

If you instead do nothing, your chances are NIL.

So, go for it as you have got absolutely nothing to lose. What's the absolute worst thing that can happen?