I'm Going To Show You Exact Flirty Text Messages, How To Create
Attraction, Get A Date, Turn Her On To Where She Is Dying To Meet
You And More... All Through Text Messaging...
Normally I don't reveal personal details about my life. But
I thought you might appreciate this...
A few weeks back, I was chilling with my buddies before going
out to a local bar.
And like guys do, we get to talking about our favorite
subject- WOMEN.
Each of us mentioned the different girls we're dating and I
felt a childish need to top them (Hey, I'm only human)
So I pulled out my cell phone and showed a few
pics I received from this one girl through text messaging.
(For the sake of privacy, we'll call her 'abc')
And of course, my friends wanted to know more about abc.
What really shocked them was when I told my friends that I
never met OR had a phone conversation with this girl.
In fact, the only contact I had with her was one orkut
message and a dozen text messages.
Naturally my friends wondered how I could get a girl to send
pictures of herself when she never met me!
What's even better is I met up with abc about a week after
this conversation.
I didn't really plan out an activity. In fact, I happened to
be in the area with my buddy Rahul and was actually pretty
drunk.
but I knew she lived nearby so I sent her a quick sms
and asked if she wanted to join us.
And even though I was retardedly drunk, and had zero game, it
took only about an hour of in-person conversation to get
her into bed!
Let me say that again...
I had sex with abc after only 1 hour of conversation.
Now I'm telling because I want to brag. In fact, I work really
hard to NOT discuss my personal life with people.
But I think there's a really important lesson to be learned
here...
SMSING should be a major tool to use when you're
meeting women.
Unless you've lived in a cave for the last couple of years,
you're probably familiar with SMSs.
They're widely used because they're incredably useful for
when you just want to ask a quick question or send a
brief message.
What's interesting is women love SMSing!
If you've watch women, you'll notice how much many
SMSs they send. In fact, I think this form of technology
is rapidly replacing phone conversations.
So when you SMS a girl the RIGHT way, you can
quickly build enough attraction that you won't have to do
much in-person game when you see her next.
but there's one major problem here...
Most of the guys I know totally screw-up their SMSs.
They SMS the way we men typically have conversations. When
talking to one another, we like to think logically and make
plans. This means are SMSs are usually straight to the point.
Women on the other hand, view SMSing as a way to get to
know one another. They use it to describe their problems and
stay in touch with people in their lives.
It's important to remember this rule when SMSing!
The way I use text messaging is to build sexual tension.
Before each SMS I send, I think carefully about how
this message will advance the interaction I'm having with
a particular girl.
Whether I'm teasing her, sending "comfort" messages or making
plans, my SMSs are specifically designed to create a strong
emotion in the girl who is receiving them!
And from the above example, you can see that there is
a TON of power behind sending a well-written SMS.
With that being said, I'm actually really surprised at the
lack of information about sending text messages to women.
While I know many guys use them, not much has been written on
the subject! So for the last 5 months, I've had to create
my own system for SMSing.
And the results were INCREDIBLE!
For instance, I tested his techniques on a "dead number".
(A girlwho I called a few times, but could never get on
the phone).
After sending her a few SMSs, I was able to create a
ton of sexual tension. And tonight I'm going to meet
her for a coffee.
From the enthusiastic responses she's sent over SMSing,
I'm pretty sure I'm about to have a very
enjoyable evening.
CIA.................
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Saturday, September 26, 2009
Dont be a shy guy
One of the hardest emotions for a man
to deal with isn't anger, sadness, or
depression. It's SHYNESS.
Shyness is the gateway to all the negative
emotions I just listed, because shyness is
the one thing that actually works to umpede
us from achieving what we desire.
When a man gives into his shyness, he doesn't
talk to the women he likes. He doesn't take
a chance on making a new friend. He doesn't
do ANYTHING. He just sits by himself,
wallowing in self-pity and fear.
And before he knows it, his feelings of
loneliness and inadequacy become overwhelming,
and he becomes depressed.
All because he is shy.
So why does this happen? Why are some men so
prone to give into their shyness?
First, realize that shyness is a behavior that
stems from what MIGHT happen.
Let's say you see a girl you like, and want to
talk to. But before you can, all sorts of
scenarios flash through your mind...
You can see her rejecting you.
You can see her laughing at you.
You can see yourself being upset after saying
the wrong thing to her.
As I said - ANY NUMBER of possibilities exist.
And even if we're aware of it or not, these
possibilities run through our minds when we
feel the need to take action regarding a girl.
And our SHYNESS is a defense mechanism to try
and PROTECT ourselves from experiencing those
bad outcomes!
But the problem is that if we don't risk the
bad outcomes, we'll never get any GOOD outcomes
either!
At it's core, shyness is the fear of being
judged harshly. Someone who's shy doesn't
want to be subjected to the opinions of others,
typically because:
1. They believe those opinions will always be
negative
and
2. They do not have a strong sense of self esteem,
and feel vulnerable.
And it's even worse when dealing with a beautiful
girl because there's the element of "sexual validation"
at play. If a beautiful girl rejects us, not only is
it a harsh judgment, but we must also be UGLY too,
right?
And to make matters worse, shyness in men is
far more crippling than shyness in women.
A shy woman will still have men approaching and
pursuing her. However, because of the dynamics
of the dating game, shy men will rarely, if EVER,
be pursued by a woman - even if the woman LIKES him
and is attracted to him!
Shy guys often fantasize about having a woman
come up to them and ask them out. But this is
just a way to rationalize their shyness. In
their mind, they're hoping to be the one that
is pursued because then they don't have to risk
anything by being the pursuer.
However, this is never the case. 99% of women
wait for the men to come after THEM.
Essentially, you have shy guys isolating
themselves from success in love, not only
due to their inability to act, but also
due to their contentness to continue being
shy.
So what's the solution?
The only way to break through shyness is to adopt
different behaviors and thought patterns that
promote a better outcome.
One must learn to gain confidence in himself, so
that he is not vulnerable to the judgment of
others for his self esteem.
One must learn to take action when necessary, and
seize opportunities as they present themselves.
One must learn to see the positive outcomes as well
as the negative ones, and choose to strive for the
positive.
See - I used to be a "shy guy."
My efforts to meet and date the kind of women I
wanted were constantly being hindered by my shyness.
And you know what? IT SUCKED.
I was lonely, angry, and bitter because of my shyness.
But once I overcame it, a whole new world opened
up for me. I was able to meet the women I wanted.
I was getting lots of dates. I had wonderful women
in my life.
And THAT, my friend, is success!
So how can you do what I did?
Well, for starters, I would recommend you check
out my Renegade Rapport home study course.
Rapport is all about learning how to connect to
people, and when you connect to someone, you feel
comfortable around them.
Too often, the anxiety shy guys experience around
women keeps them from succeeding. But learning
good, solid rapport skills will help you to relax
around the women you like.
More so than that - it will help you create attraction
in them that will make your job much easier!
Check out my Renegade Rapport course here:
Check Out Renegade Rapport Here!
It's a long process to overcome your shyness, but
it's well-worth the effort, because in the end,
when you overcome your shyness and find the woman
of your dreams, you'll be happier than you ever
thought possible.
----------------------------------------------
If you have any queries you can mail me at....
ntri15@gmail.com
to deal with isn't anger, sadness, or
depression. It's SHYNESS.
Shyness is the gateway to all the negative
emotions I just listed, because shyness is
the one thing that actually works to umpede
us from achieving what we desire.
When a man gives into his shyness, he doesn't
talk to the women he likes. He doesn't take
a chance on making a new friend. He doesn't
do ANYTHING. He just sits by himself,
wallowing in self-pity and fear.
And before he knows it, his feelings of
loneliness and inadequacy become overwhelming,
and he becomes depressed.
All because he is shy.
So why does this happen? Why are some men so
prone to give into their shyness?
First, realize that shyness is a behavior that
stems from what MIGHT happen.
Let's say you see a girl you like, and want to
talk to. But before you can, all sorts of
scenarios flash through your mind...
You can see her rejecting you.
You can see her laughing at you.
You can see yourself being upset after saying
the wrong thing to her.
As I said - ANY NUMBER of possibilities exist.
And even if we're aware of it or not, these
possibilities run through our minds when we
feel the need to take action regarding a girl.
And our SHYNESS is a defense mechanism to try
and PROTECT ourselves from experiencing those
bad outcomes!
But the problem is that if we don't risk the
bad outcomes, we'll never get any GOOD outcomes
either!
At it's core, shyness is the fear of being
judged harshly. Someone who's shy doesn't
want to be subjected to the opinions of others,
typically because:
1. They believe those opinions will always be
negative
and
2. They do not have a strong sense of self esteem,
and feel vulnerable.
And it's even worse when dealing with a beautiful
girl because there's the element of "sexual validation"
at play. If a beautiful girl rejects us, not only is
it a harsh judgment, but we must also be UGLY too,
right?
And to make matters worse, shyness in men is
far more crippling than shyness in women.
A shy woman will still have men approaching and
pursuing her. However, because of the dynamics
of the dating game, shy men will rarely, if EVER,
be pursued by a woman - even if the woman LIKES him
and is attracted to him!
Shy guys often fantasize about having a woman
come up to them and ask them out. But this is
just a way to rationalize their shyness. In
their mind, they're hoping to be the one that
is pursued because then they don't have to risk
anything by being the pursuer.
However, this is never the case. 99% of women
wait for the men to come after THEM.
Essentially, you have shy guys isolating
themselves from success in love, not only
due to their inability to act, but also
due to their contentness to continue being
shy.
So what's the solution?
The only way to break through shyness is to adopt
different behaviors and thought patterns that
promote a better outcome.
One must learn to gain confidence in himself, so
that he is not vulnerable to the judgment of
others for his self esteem.
One must learn to take action when necessary, and
seize opportunities as they present themselves.
One must learn to see the positive outcomes as well
as the negative ones, and choose to strive for the
positive.
See - I used to be a "shy guy."
My efforts to meet and date the kind of women I
wanted were constantly being hindered by my shyness.
And you know what? IT SUCKED.
I was lonely, angry, and bitter because of my shyness.
But once I overcame it, a whole new world opened
up for me. I was able to meet the women I wanted.
I was getting lots of dates. I had wonderful women
in my life.
And THAT, my friend, is success!
So how can you do what I did?
Well, for starters, I would recommend you check
out my Renegade Rapport home study course.
Rapport is all about learning how to connect to
people, and when you connect to someone, you feel
comfortable around them.
Too often, the anxiety shy guys experience around
women keeps them from succeeding. But learning
good, solid rapport skills will help you to relax
around the women you like.
More so than that - it will help you create attraction
in them that will make your job much easier!
Check out my Renegade Rapport course here:
Check Out Renegade Rapport Here!
It's a long process to overcome your shyness, but
it's well-worth the effort, because in the end,
when you overcome your shyness and find the woman
of your dreams, you'll be happier than you ever
thought possible.
----------------------------------------------
If you have any queries you can mail me at....
ntri15@gmail.com
Should you be romantic around women ??
Here's a familiar story...
Boy meets girl
Boy gets girl's number
Boy calls up girl and sets up the first date.
Boy shows up on girl's doorstep with flowers (or a fancy gift),
brings her to a fancy restaurant and talks about how he really
likes her.
Girl quickly ends the date and doesn't answer any of his
follow-up phone calls.
This is familiar because it's something that almost every guy
has done at some point in his dating life.
The truth is we've all been programmed to behave this way. In
your average romantic movie, the male character wins over a
girl's affection by professing his undying love.
And if you've ever watched one of these movies with a girl,
you'll see how emotional and choked up she gets.
So naturally, it seems logical to think that romantic gestures
on your first couple of dates is the best way to attract her
interest.
My question is- Should you be romantic when you first meet
a woman?
The short answer is no. And here's the reason why...
Men and women approach dating in different ways.
We guys pretty much know we like a girl before the date
begins. If she's attractive and seems interesting, we're
already hooked.
For us, the first couple of dates is the time where we're
obsessed with proving ourselves (and maybe get a little
action)! And the one way that's been proven to work is
to do the "Romantic" gestures we see "working" in bollywood
movies.
Women on the other hand, view dating as a way to "qualify"
a guy. Sure she might be interested, but in truth she's
also subconsciously looking for the specific qualities which
can eliminate a guy as a potential dating partner.
1 wrong move and you'll get the "Let's Just Be Friends"
speech!
So when you come on too strong with the romantic gestures,
you show that you really don't care about who she is as a
person. Instead you're giveing away your power and showing
that you're already into her before she's even proven
herself.
A woman WANTS to feel like she's EARNED a guy's
interest. And not solely because of her looks. While
she's still trying to figure him out, he's ALREADY
demonstrating his interest.
So what do women want from men?
The answer is ALL girls are looking for one primary thing:
SEXUAL ATTRACTION
Sexual attraction is that feeling she gets when she's with
a guy who resonates in the EMOTIONAL side of her mind.
You can't create this feeling by buying her gifts or being
romantic. These actions only speak to the LOGICAL side of
her mind.
To create sexual attraction, you have to DEMONSTRATE the
qualities of someone who makes a woman feel excited and
stimulated.
For instance, the qualities include
Challenging her actions and statements
Using humor to tease and banter
Showing a spontaneous attitude
Demonstrating a high level of confidence
Being trustworthy with a LITTLE bit of danger
Showing independence in your life
Making her feel important
Now the last quality can be a little confusing.
Most guys act romantic because they THINK they're trying
to make her feel important.
This is wrong because at first she's done NOTHING to prove
herself.
With that being said, you WANT to show you're interested
& make her feel important AS you're getting to know her.
So while you should NEVER show up on your first couple of
dates with an armful of roses, you should SHOW your
interest IF she's passing YOUR tests and meets YOUR
standards.
In other words, if you're having a great time and she
meets the qualities that you're looking for, then you
can start showing that she's EARNING your approval.
Finally, I want to emphasize one important thing...
You ALWAYS want to want to be a gentleman (ie: Opening the
door, leading her with your body language, and paying for
the first date).
But at the same time, you want to also tease and create the
sexual TENSION that's necessary for attraction.
So ditch the romantic gestures on your first couple of
dates, act like a gentleman and use this time to find out
if SHE'S right for YOU!
------------------------------------------------------
If you have any queries you can mail me at....
ntri15@gmail.com
Boy meets girl
Boy gets girl's number
Boy calls up girl and sets up the first date.
Boy shows up on girl's doorstep with flowers (or a fancy gift),
brings her to a fancy restaurant and talks about how he really
likes her.
Girl quickly ends the date and doesn't answer any of his
follow-up phone calls.
This is familiar because it's something that almost every guy
has done at some point in his dating life.
The truth is we've all been programmed to behave this way. In
your average romantic movie, the male character wins over a
girl's affection by professing his undying love.
And if you've ever watched one of these movies with a girl,
you'll see how emotional and choked up she gets.
So naturally, it seems logical to think that romantic gestures
on your first couple of dates is the best way to attract her
interest.
My question is- Should you be romantic when you first meet
a woman?
The short answer is no. And here's the reason why...
Men and women approach dating in different ways.
We guys pretty much know we like a girl before the date
begins. If she's attractive and seems interesting, we're
already hooked.
For us, the first couple of dates is the time where we're
obsessed with proving ourselves (and maybe get a little
action)! And the one way that's been proven to work is
to do the "Romantic" gestures we see "working" in bollywood
movies.
Women on the other hand, view dating as a way to "qualify"
a guy. Sure she might be interested, but in truth she's
also subconsciously looking for the specific qualities which
can eliminate a guy as a potential dating partner.
1 wrong move and you'll get the "Let's Just Be Friends"
speech!
So when you come on too strong with the romantic gestures,
you show that you really don't care about who she is as a
person. Instead you're giveing away your power and showing
that you're already into her before she's even proven
herself.
A woman WANTS to feel like she's EARNED a guy's
interest. And not solely because of her looks. While
she's still trying to figure him out, he's ALREADY
demonstrating his interest.
So what do women want from men?
The answer is ALL girls are looking for one primary thing:
SEXUAL ATTRACTION
Sexual attraction is that feeling she gets when she's with
a guy who resonates in the EMOTIONAL side of her mind.
You can't create this feeling by buying her gifts or being
romantic. These actions only speak to the LOGICAL side of
her mind.
To create sexual attraction, you have to DEMONSTRATE the
qualities of someone who makes a woman feel excited and
stimulated.
For instance, the qualities include
Challenging her actions and statements
Using humor to tease and banter
Showing a spontaneous attitude
Demonstrating a high level of confidence
Being trustworthy with a LITTLE bit of danger
Showing independence in your life
Making her feel important
Now the last quality can be a little confusing.
Most guys act romantic because they THINK they're trying
to make her feel important.
This is wrong because at first she's done NOTHING to prove
herself.
With that being said, you WANT to show you're interested
& make her feel important AS you're getting to know her.
So while you should NEVER show up on your first couple of
dates with an armful of roses, you should SHOW your
interest IF she's passing YOUR tests and meets YOUR
standards.
In other words, if you're having a great time and she
meets the qualities that you're looking for, then you
can start showing that she's EARNING your approval.
Finally, I want to emphasize one important thing...
You ALWAYS want to want to be a gentleman (ie: Opening the
door, leading her with your body language, and paying for
the first date).
But at the same time, you want to also tease and create the
sexual TENSION that's necessary for attraction.
So ditch the romantic gestures on your first couple of
dates, act like a gentleman and use this time to find out
if SHE'S right for YOU!
------------------------------------------------------
If you have any queries you can mail me at....
ntri15@gmail.com
Make women laugh
It's proven: humor is the shortcut to attraction...
I've Tried Everything
It's true — I've tried everything in attracting women and attracting women fast...
I've spent a fortune buying dating books, I've learned a great deal from excellent courses and even books that are plain rubbish; I've had countless dates that ended in my bedroom and ones that ended with a slap in the face...
And here's the absolute truth that's proven to me time and time again:
Brilliant pick up lines, various approaching techniques, covert language patterns, "Prize Psychology", hypnosis scripts, outlandish clothing, NLP, Pheromone sprays, the "right" attitudes... NONE of those will ever work unless you're good at making women laugh.
Because humor is the shortcut to attraction.
In fact, if you happen to have looked elsewhere for information on dating you'd realize that all those dating experts emphasize on the ability to make women laugh.
But they don't tell you how.
The Power Of Humor
I have a question for you:
"Would you prefer to be with someone who can consistently make you laugh heartily or someone who wear fancy clothes and talk in a 'peculiar' way? (Or maybe both?)"
Psychological studies have shown that during an initial contact, it's psychologically impossible to dislike someone who has made you laugh genuinely for 5 times or more. (According to my experience, the word "dislike" should be replaced by "resist the attraction of".)
Think about it. It's basic human nature to avoid pain and gain pleasure. What do we do when we experience pleasure? We smile or laugh! Laughter means pleasure, and humor is what creates laughter.
Humor is powerful - much more powerful than most people have ever imagined and will ever know. However, most men will get stuck in a place called "Average, Dull And Boring" for their entire lives.
But I want you to be different; I want you to be funny; I want you to be way more attractive than average. I want you to have an edge over all the rest.
And I want you to feel a deep sense of satisfaction as other men marvel at your amazing ability to make women laugh and fall in love.
What do women themselves say? I can quote you countless letters or surveys in major female magazines such as Elle, Vogue, Women's era... I can ask you to check out the profiles on dating websites (they usually have a section for women to declare what type of men they're looking for)... I can ask you to go and find proof on TV and movie screen...
But you don't need this extra proof to convince yourself that the ability to make women laugh is the basis of attraction (and the trademark of a charming man).
In fact, reliable statistics showed that 82% of women consistently rank humor as one of the top 3 qualities of men they want to date.
Some guys look at women's laughter as a "by-product" of a healthy, promising conversation. To them, laughter is just something good to have, and they can perfectly live without it.
But that fact is... Laughter alone can make women fall in love with you. The more she laughs, the better your chance is. If you can keep her laughing her head off, you're "almost there". Conversely, if you want to make a woman fall in love with you, you have to be able to make her laugh.
Laughter is not merely "good to have". It's pretty much all you need. If you really want to attract women easily and quickly, you must be able to make her laugh at any time, any place, and any way you want.
But the sad truth is... Not many of us can really claim to be funny.
Sure, all of us can crack a joke or two. Sometimes we can be quite funny for a whole night. But can you do it consistently time after time, night after night? Are you able to systematically and carefully construct "humor messages" to suit different women's tastes? Do you know the secrets that will make humor a natural part of you so that it's effortless to stay humorous and charming?
DOnt be too serious with women
So always try to make girl laugh.
Laugh and the world will laugh with you
----------------------------------------------
If you have any queries you can mail me at....
ntri15@gmail.com
I've Tried Everything
It's true — I've tried everything in attracting women and attracting women fast...
I've spent a fortune buying dating books, I've learned a great deal from excellent courses and even books that are plain rubbish; I've had countless dates that ended in my bedroom and ones that ended with a slap in the face...
And here's the absolute truth that's proven to me time and time again:
Brilliant pick up lines, various approaching techniques, covert language patterns, "Prize Psychology", hypnosis scripts, outlandish clothing, NLP, Pheromone sprays, the "right" attitudes... NONE of those will ever work unless you're good at making women laugh.
Because humor is the shortcut to attraction.
In fact, if you happen to have looked elsewhere for information on dating you'd realize that all those dating experts emphasize on the ability to make women laugh.
But they don't tell you how.
The Power Of Humor
I have a question for you:
"Would you prefer to be with someone who can consistently make you laugh heartily or someone who wear fancy clothes and talk in a 'peculiar' way? (Or maybe both?)"
Psychological studies have shown that during an initial contact, it's psychologically impossible to dislike someone who has made you laugh genuinely for 5 times or more. (According to my experience, the word "dislike" should be replaced by "resist the attraction of".)
Think about it. It's basic human nature to avoid pain and gain pleasure. What do we do when we experience pleasure? We smile or laugh! Laughter means pleasure, and humor is what creates laughter.
Humor is powerful - much more powerful than most people have ever imagined and will ever know. However, most men will get stuck in a place called "Average, Dull And Boring" for their entire lives.
But I want you to be different; I want you to be funny; I want you to be way more attractive than average. I want you to have an edge over all the rest.
And I want you to feel a deep sense of satisfaction as other men marvel at your amazing ability to make women laugh and fall in love.
What do women themselves say? I can quote you countless letters or surveys in major female magazines such as Elle, Vogue, Women's era... I can ask you to check out the profiles on dating websites (they usually have a section for women to declare what type of men they're looking for)... I can ask you to go and find proof on TV and movie screen...
But you don't need this extra proof to convince yourself that the ability to make women laugh is the basis of attraction (and the trademark of a charming man).
In fact, reliable statistics showed that 82% of women consistently rank humor as one of the top 3 qualities of men they want to date.
Some guys look at women's laughter as a "by-product" of a healthy, promising conversation. To them, laughter is just something good to have, and they can perfectly live without it.
But that fact is... Laughter alone can make women fall in love with you. The more she laughs, the better your chance is. If you can keep her laughing her head off, you're "almost there". Conversely, if you want to make a woman fall in love with you, you have to be able to make her laugh.
Laughter is not merely "good to have". It's pretty much all you need. If you really want to attract women easily and quickly, you must be able to make her laugh at any time, any place, and any way you want.
But the sad truth is... Not many of us can really claim to be funny.
Sure, all of us can crack a joke or two. Sometimes we can be quite funny for a whole night. But can you do it consistently time after time, night after night? Are you able to systematically and carefully construct "humor messages" to suit different women's tastes? Do you know the secrets that will make humor a natural part of you so that it's effortless to stay humorous and charming?
DOnt be too serious with women
So always try to make girl laugh.
Laugh and the world will laugh with you
----------------------------------------------
If you have any queries you can mail me at....
ntri15@gmail.com
12 proven flirty Sms
I can honestly say I was really
surprised at the reaction I received
from the message I sent last week.
Over the weekend, my mailbox
was flooded with emails from guys
who wanted to know more about
SMS.
Unfortunately I don't have time to
respond to the dozens of emails I
received.
So in this blog I want to cover 2
major questions:
1) What's the purpose behind SMSing?
2) Can you give actual examples of
SMS's you've sent?
With these two questions in mind,
I want to further explore the power
behind SMSing women:
1- What is the purpose for text messaging?
Bottom line- Text messaging is all
about maintaining sexual tension!
When you first get a number, it's
easy to have attraction. But this is
quickly lost in the time between
getting her digits and making that
first phone call.
With SMSing, you can bridge the
'time-gap' and keep the attraction
alive.
While I recommend that it never
replace a phone call, SMSing is an
excellent way to get a woman to
think about you throughout her day.
And when you go to call her,
she'll immediately recognize the
good feelings and emotions that
you've already given her.
This makes it easy to get her on the
phone and set up a 2nd meeting
(ie: First Date)
I personally use my SMSs
to stand out from the other guys
who might be calling this girl.
So I focus on 2 things when I
text a girl:
1) Cocky-funny (Ie: Teasing in a
friendly manner)
2) Call Back Humor
Generally I'll start a texting
conversation by referencing a
specific thing that happened
in our first conversation.
(This is how to use the call-back
humor that I just mentioned)
For instance, a few weeks back I
met an attractive girl from
Eastern India. As soon as she
opened her mouth, I came to the
realization that she sounded exactly
like the guy from the any movie.
And once I confirmed that she saw
that movie and "got the joke" I
teased her mercilessly about
sounding like him.
Naturally the first message started
with a reference to a film.
This leads to the next question that
I want to cover (This is where I
provide the 12 proven SMS that
I promised at the start of this blog)
2- Can you give ACTUAL examples of messages you've sent?
As I mentioned before, I typically
use 'call-back humor' with my SMS.
This makes it hard to give "cookie-cutter"
examples.
However, there are times when I
didn't get an opportunity to use
call-back humor.
So even if I really didn't get a chance
to know a girl better, I'll still use
a few messages that have gotten great
results in the past.
Here are 12 SMS I've personally used:
(Change your language and modify these
SMS's according to you.)
==> After meeting a girl- (Use 2-3
hours to establish initial contact)
1) "I know you're thinking about
me. So I thought I would say hi!"
2) "My ears are tingling...stop
talking about me!"
3) "Wow...that's weird. I think I
just saw your twin. Are
you stalking me?"
==> Lifestyle updates- (Use to
keep contact ever other day
& demonstrate that you're a
fun/interesting person )
4) "hey...my dog just did the craziest
thing..."
5) "I just saw an army of Liliputs.
I think short people are breeding too fast
6) "nice environment out. Time to go for
a long drive. Too bad you have to work!!!"
==> Building Sexual Tension-
(Use after you've spoken on the
phone and set up a 2nd meeting)
7) "Miss me yet?"
8) "Tomorrow should be awesome.
Just try not to embarrass
me in front of my friends"
9) "Looking forward to seeing you.
You're like the my lucky charm
==> After the 2nd meeting-
(Use to reinforce the good time
she had)
10) "Had an awesome time.
Hugs and kisses!"
11) "Fun times! I guess it's safe
to introduce you to my friends!"
12) "Had a great time! Even if
you're a little fattyy..."
Sexual tension can be quickly
gained and quickly lost.
That's why it's important to
keep up the attraction at all
points in the relationships
you have with women.
In other words, never allow
the lines of communication to
go slack.
That's why I personally recommend
that you use to stay in contact
with ALL the women you're
dating (or hope to date).
Used correctly, texting can help
you create massive levels of
sexual tension with women
that you barely know.
And once you meet them in
person, it becomes much easier
to turn things physical!
-------------------------------------------------
If you have any queries you can mail me at....
ntri15@gmail.com
surprised at the reaction I received
from the message I sent last week.
Over the weekend, my mailbox
was flooded with emails from guys
who wanted to know more about
SMS.
Unfortunately I don't have time to
respond to the dozens of emails I
received.
So in this blog I want to cover 2
major questions:
1) What's the purpose behind SMSing?
2) Can you give actual examples of
SMS's you've sent?
With these two questions in mind,
I want to further explore the power
behind SMSing women:
1- What is the purpose for text messaging?
Bottom line- Text messaging is all
about maintaining sexual tension!
When you first get a number, it's
easy to have attraction. But this is
quickly lost in the time between
getting her digits and making that
first phone call.
With SMSing, you can bridge the
'time-gap' and keep the attraction
alive.
While I recommend that it never
replace a phone call, SMSing is an
excellent way to get a woman to
think about you throughout her day.
And when you go to call her,
she'll immediately recognize the
good feelings and emotions that
you've already given her.
This makes it easy to get her on the
phone and set up a 2nd meeting
(ie: First Date)
I personally use my SMSs
to stand out from the other guys
who might be calling this girl.
So I focus on 2 things when I
text a girl:
1) Cocky-funny (Ie: Teasing in a
friendly manner)
2) Call Back Humor
Generally I'll start a texting
conversation by referencing a
specific thing that happened
in our first conversation.
(This is how to use the call-back
humor that I just mentioned)
For instance, a few weeks back I
met an attractive girl from
Eastern India. As soon as she
opened her mouth, I came to the
realization that she sounded exactly
like the guy from the any movie.
And once I confirmed that she saw
that movie and "got the joke" I
teased her mercilessly about
sounding like him.
Naturally the first message started
with a reference to a film.
This leads to the next question that
I want to cover (This is where I
provide the 12 proven SMS that
I promised at the start of this blog)
2- Can you give ACTUAL examples of messages you've sent?
As I mentioned before, I typically
use 'call-back humor' with my SMS.
This makes it hard to give "cookie-cutter"
examples.
However, there are times when I
didn't get an opportunity to use
call-back humor.
So even if I really didn't get a chance
to know a girl better, I'll still use
a few messages that have gotten great
results in the past.
Here are 12 SMS I've personally used:
(Change your language and modify these
SMS's according to you.)
==> After meeting a girl- (Use 2-3
hours to establish initial contact)
1) "I know you're thinking about
me. So I thought I would say hi!"
2) "My ears are tingling...stop
talking about me!"
3) "Wow...that's weird. I think I
just saw your twin. Are
you stalking me?"
==> Lifestyle updates- (Use to
keep contact ever other day
& demonstrate that you're a
fun/interesting person )
4) "hey...my dog just did the craziest
thing..."
5) "I just saw an army of Liliputs.
I think short people are breeding too fast
6) "nice environment out. Time to go for
a long drive. Too bad you have to work!!!"
==> Building Sexual Tension-
(Use after you've spoken on the
phone and set up a 2nd meeting)
7) "Miss me yet?"
8) "Tomorrow should be awesome.
Just try not to embarrass
me in front of my friends"
9) "Looking forward to seeing you.
You're like the my lucky charm
==> After the 2nd meeting-
(Use to reinforce the good time
she had)
10) "Had an awesome time.
Hugs and kisses!"
11) "Fun times! I guess it's safe
to introduce you to my friends!"
12) "Had a great time! Even if
you're a little fattyy..."
Sexual tension can be quickly
gained and quickly lost.
That's why it's important to
keep up the attraction at all
points in the relationships
you have with women.
In other words, never allow
the lines of communication to
go slack.
That's why I personally recommend
that you use to stay in contact
with ALL the women you're
dating (or hope to date).
Used correctly, texting can help
you create massive levels of
sexual tension with women
that you barely know.
And once you meet them in
person, it becomes much easier
to turn things physical!
-------------------------------------------------
If you have any queries you can mail me at....
ntri15@gmail.com
6 mistakes done by boys during approaching
The biggest obstacle to success with women is learning how to overcome your
fear of rejection. And once you eliminate this anxiety, it
becomes easy to approach women with confidence.
The problem is there are a number of additional roadblocks that
men have when it comes to approaching. Unfortunately these are
typically self inflicted. Your average man makes a number of
little (but important) mistakes which prevent him from having
true success with women.
The good news is these mistakes can be prevented. The trick is
to recognize when you're making them.And then actively work on
eliminating them!
So today I want to review six of what I call "approaching
mistakes" and then talk about what you can to make sure that you
are not making them:
#1- Negative Self-talk
The actions you take are the direct result of the words you say
to yourself. In other words, if you keep think you're going to
fail then that's what'll probably happen!
In this case, negative self-talk are the words you think right
before you approach a girl. For instance, they typically sound
like this:
>>>> "She's surrounded by all those guys and won't be interested
in me."
>>>> "I'm not good-looking enough to attract her interest."
>>>> "I don't know what to say."
>>>> "There's no way she would be interested in me."
>>>> "I'm too scared to start talking to her."
Negative self-talk varies from guy to guy. However the common
element of these thoughts is they cause you to dwell on what
could go wrong instead of what could go right. Instead of
enjoying the conversation you're consumed by powerful, negative
thoughts which often pralyze you into not approaching.
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
The first step is to pay close attention to the words you're
telling yourself right before you approach. Explore what you're
saying and the feelings that these statements create within you.
Next, you'll want to take these statements and directly challenge
them. The best way to do this is to create a series of
affirmation statements that you recite. These should be written
in a positive tone that is the exact opposite of the negative
self-talk that you usually do.
For instance, if you constantly think: "I don't know what to say",
you'll want to create an affirmation that sounds like:
"I have a lot to talk about whenever I'm in a conversation with a
woman!"
To make this solution work, you'll want to create an affirmation
for each of the negative statements you think before you approach
women. Then recite them at least 2 to 3 times a day.
#2- Outcome Orientation
"Outcome Orientation" happens
when you worry too much about what could happen instead of living
in the moment and simply enjoying your conversations with women.
This is initially caused when you develop the habit of putting a
woman on a pedestal and thinking that she's perfect for you.
This often causes you to live in an imaginary world where you're
afraid to lose what you have. In other words, you rather be in
a safe place where you can imagine what it's like to be with
this girl, then run the risk of rejection.
Another form of Outcome Orientation happens when you're worried
about the negative outcomes of your approach. This is where
you dwell on things like getting rejected or being socially
ridiculed. Typically this causes you to act too preoccupied with
what could happen instead of being the cool, relaxed guy that
women find attractive in men.
Both of these Outcome Orientation situations cause major problems
for guys. Women are pretty intuitive. And they can usually tell
when a man cares TOO much about the results of the conversation.
When you make this mistake, you'll come across as too desperate.
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
Remove all expectations.
As you've learned, caring too much about the outcome will cause
you to exude a needy, low-status vibe. Instead, replace your
Outcome Orientation with a mindset where you consider yourself as
the selector over being the selectee
This is another time when you can use affirmation statements to
create a powerful, confident mindset. To get started, I
recommend you write the following on a piece of paper:
"I am going to talk to this girl and see if I like her. It's
just a conversation. Nothing more. Maybe if she's interested,
I will consider asking for her number"
Write down a variation of this statement. In other words, make
it personal to you and something that you feel comfortable
reciting on a daily basis. And once you have this statement---
memorize it! Then recite it to yourself before you approach any
girl.
#3- Hesitation
When you spot an attractive girl, it's VERY easy to become
paralyzed into inaction. This happens when you worry about the
RIGHT way to start a conversation. You want to impress her from
the moment you approach and you're trying to come up with that
ONE magical line that'll hypnotically attract her.
I like to call this the "perfect line fallacy". You're SO
preoccupied with thinking about HOW to start the conversation
that you allow minutes (and even hours) to pass BEFORE you work
up the courage to approach.
But it all boils down HESITATION. Trying to come up with the
"perfect" line is a subconscious way that a lot of men lie to
themselves. It's an excuse that some come up with to avoid the
possibility of rejection. The problem with excuses is even the
best ones are STILL excuses!
And as we've discussed women are extremely intuitive. So if
you're in a room with a girl, and hesitate on approaching her,
then she's probably picking up your vibe. This causes you to be
placed in the "low-status" category because she already knows
you're too scared to approach to approach her.
Hopefully you can see how hesitation is a HUGE mistake that could
could COMPLETELY destroy your chances with a particular girl.
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
The solution is simple..."Approach without Hesitation"
This is where you allow yourself a few seconds to think of what
to say, then immidiately take action. While you might not have
the perfect line, you'll at least project a confident vibe
where you're starting a conversation.
So don't worry so much about what to say. Just go up and talk.
The best is when you do this enough times, you'll train yourself
to live in the moment and not obsess over saying the "perfect
line". Furthermore your approaches will seem more natural
because whatever you say won't seem canned or rehearsed. Instead
you'll project a confident, cool vibe!
#4- Making Excuses
This a self-destructive form of negative self-talk. When you
make excuses about your life, it becomes TOO easy to avoid
creating ANY sort of positive change in your life.
Now we've ALL made excuses at some point in our lives. The
difference is doing this on a DAILY basis. For instance...say
you spot an attractive girl, a common excuse occurs when you
give yourself a reason for WHY you CAN'T approach her. Stuff
like...
"She's surrounded by other guys"
or
"I'm just not in the mood"
To be brutally honest, the "Excuses Habit" is the direct result
of the way you've learned how to handle adversity. Like one of
Pavlov's Dogs, you've been trained to take a specific action when
you want to approach a girl. This usually means you've developed
the habit of creating a reason WHY you can't approach whenever
you experience anxious feelings.
Pretty crazy, right?
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
One of the most DEADLIEST words in the English language is
"Can't!" Using this word on a daily basis SEVERLY limits what
you can accomplish in your life. And in regards to women, using
this word prevents from talking to the girls that you TRULY
desire.
Instead of dwelling on the reasons why you can't talk to a girl,
it's important to develop a "problem-solving" mindset. So if you
find yourself consistently encountering the SAME obstacle, then
it's time to figure out "HOW" you can overcome this problem.
One technique that works for me is to keep a daily journal of
your life. Specifically you can use this journal to track EVERY
approach that you make and the results. Over time, you'll start
to see a pattern of your approaches.
And when you find yourself making the same excuse, then you know
that you're encountering what's commonly known as a "sticking
point". Now instead you "CAN'T" do something because of this
obstacle, actively work on finding a SOLUTION to this problem.
#5- Anger Issues
This is problem that I see on a consistent basis. The sad fact
is there are a number of men who secretly harbor a strong sense
of "entitlement" when it comes to women.
A guy like this lives life in anger because he's not getting what
he feels he *deserves* from women. And if he sees a woman
dressing provocatively, then that somehow gives him the *right*
to treat her in a demeaning manner.
Now as you've probably heard me mention before, I get a lot of
email from readers and customers. And I've ALWAYS been surprised
at the level of HOSTILITY that some men at women.
In fact, if you pay close attention to some guys at bars & clubs,
you'll find that a lot of them simply get ANGRY at a particular
woman before even approaching her. They'll say (or think)
things how she's probably a bitch, or a slut, or has an
attitude. What's interesting is they'll say these things BEFORE
even TRYING to talk to her.
This kind of anger does NOTHING to help you with women. In
fact, you'll end up displaying a VERY hostile vibe that's
definitely not attractive to ANY woman.
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
I don't have to be Sigmund Freud to tell you that anger like this
is the direct result of feelings of insecurity. Most of the
time, it comes from WANTING a woman, but feeling unable to act
upon this emotion. In a way, this anger is basically anger that
comes from a form of self-loathing.
Remember that YOU are responsible for YOUR success in life. If
you're not good at something, then DO SOMETHING about it. Don't
blame others for YOUR shortcomings.
If you're angry at women, it's probably because you don't know
the RIGHT way to attract their interest. It's up to you to
improve on this area of your life. I guarantee that with the
right mindset (and hard work), ANY guy can improve his success
with women.
Furthermore... One of the BEST indicators of success in life is
WHO you choose to spend your time with. If you find yourself
surrounded by guys who DWELL on negativity it becomes VERY easy
to develop a hostile attitude towards women. Do yourself a favor
and form friendships with people who have a positive outlook on
life.
As I said before, it's up to you to create the kind of life that
you want. You'll find that being around positive people and
developing your social skills can become the secret ingredient
to becoming a naturally attractive guy around women.
6- Believing in Luck Over Success
You'll often hear guys use the phrase "I got lucky last night"
when they have sex with a girl. I've always thought that this
is an interesting expression. When you say something like this,
it means that ANY success you have with women is the result of
some sort of EXTERNAL force.
Guys spend their "dating life" waiting for something happen.
They make the mistake of believing that fate will bring them
that special woman.
Unfortunately this a VERY dangerous mistake to make. When you
look to external factors like luck, you develop the attitude that
you have NO control over the women you meet.
It's important to shift your attitude and develop what I call a
"success mindset". This is where you internalize the outcomes
with women and understand that YOU are in complete control of
the interaction. If something doesn't go right, it wasn't BAD
LUCK, it was probably due to a mistake that YOU made.
Now this doesn't mean you should beat yourself for every
failed approach. Instead it means that you learn from each
experience and use this information to improve yourself.
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
The solution to your problem is simple. You HAVE to shift your
mindset from an EXTERNAL mindset to an INTERNAL one. In other
words, STOP making excuses about WHY you're not having any *luck*
with women. Realize that the results you're getting are due to
mistakes you're making.
Understand that YOU control the outcome of your life. Don't
think of yourself as lucky. Create the mindset that you CAN do
what ever you set out to do. Including increasing the success
that you have when you approach women.
So if girls are not responding to your attempts at starting a
conversation, ask yourself WHAT you're doing that's causing this
problem. You'll find yourself that this simple exercise will
help you quickly discover a solution.
WELL there you have it... SIX of the most common mistakes that I
feel guys make when it comes to approaching women.
I'm not saying that you have ALL of these problems. Instead I
feel it's important to recognize if ANY of these mistakes sound
like you. That way, you can IMMEDIATELY take a corrective action
and overcome this obstacle.
fear of rejection. And once you eliminate this anxiety, it
becomes easy to approach women with confidence.
The problem is there are a number of additional roadblocks that
men have when it comes to approaching. Unfortunately these are
typically self inflicted. Your average man makes a number of
little (but important) mistakes which prevent him from having
true success with women.
The good news is these mistakes can be prevented. The trick is
to recognize when you're making them.And then actively work on
eliminating them!
So today I want to review six of what I call "approaching
mistakes" and then talk about what you can to make sure that you
are not making them:
#1- Negative Self-talk
The actions you take are the direct result of the words you say
to yourself. In other words, if you keep think you're going to
fail then that's what'll probably happen!
In this case, negative self-talk are the words you think right
before you approach a girl. For instance, they typically sound
like this:
>>>> "She's surrounded by all those guys and won't be interested
in me."
>>>> "I'm not good-looking enough to attract her interest."
>>>> "I don't know what to say."
>>>> "There's no way she would be interested in me."
>>>> "I'm too scared to start talking to her."
Negative self-talk varies from guy to guy. However the common
element of these thoughts is they cause you to dwell on what
could go wrong instead of what could go right. Instead of
enjoying the conversation you're consumed by powerful, negative
thoughts which often pralyze you into not approaching.
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
The first step is to pay close attention to the words you're
telling yourself right before you approach. Explore what you're
saying and the feelings that these statements create within you.
Next, you'll want to take these statements and directly challenge
them. The best way to do this is to create a series of
affirmation statements that you recite. These should be written
in a positive tone that is the exact opposite of the negative
self-talk that you usually do.
For instance, if you constantly think: "I don't know what to say",
you'll want to create an affirmation that sounds like:
"I have a lot to talk about whenever I'm in a conversation with a
woman!"
To make this solution work, you'll want to create an affirmation
for each of the negative statements you think before you approach
women. Then recite them at least 2 to 3 times a day.
#2- Outcome Orientation
"Outcome Orientation" happens
when you worry too much about what could happen instead of living
in the moment and simply enjoying your conversations with women.
This is initially caused when you develop the habit of putting a
woman on a pedestal and thinking that she's perfect for you.
This often causes you to live in an imaginary world where you're
afraid to lose what you have. In other words, you rather be in
a safe place where you can imagine what it's like to be with
this girl, then run the risk of rejection.
Another form of Outcome Orientation happens when you're worried
about the negative outcomes of your approach. This is where
you dwell on things like getting rejected or being socially
ridiculed. Typically this causes you to act too preoccupied with
what could happen instead of being the cool, relaxed guy that
women find attractive in men.
Both of these Outcome Orientation situations cause major problems
for guys. Women are pretty intuitive. And they can usually tell
when a man cares TOO much about the results of the conversation.
When you make this mistake, you'll come across as too desperate.
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
Remove all expectations.
As you've learned, caring too much about the outcome will cause
you to exude a needy, low-status vibe. Instead, replace your
Outcome Orientation with a mindset where you consider yourself as
the selector over being the selectee
This is another time when you can use affirmation statements to
create a powerful, confident mindset. To get started, I
recommend you write the following on a piece of paper:
"I am going to talk to this girl and see if I like her. It's
just a conversation. Nothing more. Maybe if she's interested,
I will consider asking for her number"
Write down a variation of this statement. In other words, make
it personal to you and something that you feel comfortable
reciting on a daily basis. And once you have this statement---
memorize it! Then recite it to yourself before you approach any
girl.
#3- Hesitation
When you spot an attractive girl, it's VERY easy to become
paralyzed into inaction. This happens when you worry about the
RIGHT way to start a conversation. You want to impress her from
the moment you approach and you're trying to come up with that
ONE magical line that'll hypnotically attract her.
I like to call this the "perfect line fallacy". You're SO
preoccupied with thinking about HOW to start the conversation
that you allow minutes (and even hours) to pass BEFORE you work
up the courage to approach.
But it all boils down HESITATION. Trying to come up with the
"perfect" line is a subconscious way that a lot of men lie to
themselves. It's an excuse that some come up with to avoid the
possibility of rejection. The problem with excuses is even the
best ones are STILL excuses!
And as we've discussed women are extremely intuitive. So if
you're in a room with a girl, and hesitate on approaching her,
then she's probably picking up your vibe. This causes you to be
placed in the "low-status" category because she already knows
you're too scared to approach to approach her.
Hopefully you can see how hesitation is a HUGE mistake that could
could COMPLETELY destroy your chances with a particular girl.
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
The solution is simple..."Approach without Hesitation"
This is where you allow yourself a few seconds to think of what
to say, then immidiately take action. While you might not have
the perfect line, you'll at least project a confident vibe
where you're starting a conversation.
So don't worry so much about what to say. Just go up and talk.
The best is when you do this enough times, you'll train yourself
to live in the moment and not obsess over saying the "perfect
line". Furthermore your approaches will seem more natural
because whatever you say won't seem canned or rehearsed. Instead
you'll project a confident, cool vibe!
#4- Making Excuses
This a self-destructive form of negative self-talk. When you
make excuses about your life, it becomes TOO easy to avoid
creating ANY sort of positive change in your life.
Now we've ALL made excuses at some point in our lives. The
difference is doing this on a DAILY basis. For instance...say
you spot an attractive girl, a common excuse occurs when you
give yourself a reason for WHY you CAN'T approach her. Stuff
like...
"She's surrounded by other guys"
or
"I'm just not in the mood"
To be brutally honest, the "Excuses Habit" is the direct result
of the way you've learned how to handle adversity. Like one of
Pavlov's Dogs, you've been trained to take a specific action when
you want to approach a girl. This usually means you've developed
the habit of creating a reason WHY you can't approach whenever
you experience anxious feelings.
Pretty crazy, right?
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
One of the most DEADLIEST words in the English language is
"Can't!" Using this word on a daily basis SEVERLY limits what
you can accomplish in your life. And in regards to women, using
this word prevents from talking to the girls that you TRULY
desire.
Instead of dwelling on the reasons why you can't talk to a girl,
it's important to develop a "problem-solving" mindset. So if you
find yourself consistently encountering the SAME obstacle, then
it's time to figure out "HOW" you can overcome this problem.
One technique that works for me is to keep a daily journal of
your life. Specifically you can use this journal to track EVERY
approach that you make and the results. Over time, you'll start
to see a pattern of your approaches.
And when you find yourself making the same excuse, then you know
that you're encountering what's commonly known as a "sticking
point". Now instead you "CAN'T" do something because of this
obstacle, actively work on finding a SOLUTION to this problem.
#5- Anger Issues
This is problem that I see on a consistent basis. The sad fact
is there are a number of men who secretly harbor a strong sense
of "entitlement" when it comes to women.
A guy like this lives life in anger because he's not getting what
he feels he *deserves* from women. And if he sees a woman
dressing provocatively, then that somehow gives him the *right*
to treat her in a demeaning manner.
Now as you've probably heard me mention before, I get a lot of
email from readers and customers. And I've ALWAYS been surprised
at the level of HOSTILITY that some men at women.
In fact, if you pay close attention to some guys at bars & clubs,
you'll find that a lot of them simply get ANGRY at a particular
woman before even approaching her. They'll say (or think)
things how she's probably a bitch, or a slut, or has an
attitude. What's interesting is they'll say these things BEFORE
even TRYING to talk to her.
This kind of anger does NOTHING to help you with women. In
fact, you'll end up displaying a VERY hostile vibe that's
definitely not attractive to ANY woman.
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
I don't have to be Sigmund Freud to tell you that anger like this
is the direct result of feelings of insecurity. Most of the
time, it comes from WANTING a woman, but feeling unable to act
upon this emotion. In a way, this anger is basically anger that
comes from a form of self-loathing.
Remember that YOU are responsible for YOUR success in life. If
you're not good at something, then DO SOMETHING about it. Don't
blame others for YOUR shortcomings.
If you're angry at women, it's probably because you don't know
the RIGHT way to attract their interest. It's up to you to
improve on this area of your life. I guarantee that with the
right mindset (and hard work), ANY guy can improve his success
with women.
Furthermore... One of the BEST indicators of success in life is
WHO you choose to spend your time with. If you find yourself
surrounded by guys who DWELL on negativity it becomes VERY easy
to develop a hostile attitude towards women. Do yourself a favor
and form friendships with people who have a positive outlook on
life.
As I said before, it's up to you to create the kind of life that
you want. You'll find that being around positive people and
developing your social skills can become the secret ingredient
to becoming a naturally attractive guy around women.
6- Believing in Luck Over Success
You'll often hear guys use the phrase "I got lucky last night"
when they have sex with a girl. I've always thought that this
is an interesting expression. When you say something like this,
it means that ANY success you have with women is the result of
some sort of EXTERNAL force.
Guys spend their "dating life" waiting for something happen.
They make the mistake of believing that fate will bring them
that special woman.
Unfortunately this a VERY dangerous mistake to make. When you
look to external factors like luck, you develop the attitude that
you have NO control over the women you meet.
It's important to shift your attitude and develop what I call a
"success mindset". This is where you internalize the outcomes
with women and understand that YOU are in complete control of
the interaction. If something doesn't go right, it wasn't BAD
LUCK, it was probably due to a mistake that YOU made.
Now this doesn't mean you should beat yourself for every
failed approach. Instead it means that you learn from each
experience and use this information to improve yourself.
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
The solution to your problem is simple. You HAVE to shift your
mindset from an EXTERNAL mindset to an INTERNAL one. In other
words, STOP making excuses about WHY you're not having any *luck*
with women. Realize that the results you're getting are due to
mistakes you're making.
Understand that YOU control the outcome of your life. Don't
think of yourself as lucky. Create the mindset that you CAN do
what ever you set out to do. Including increasing the success
that you have when you approach women.
So if girls are not responding to your attempts at starting a
conversation, ask yourself WHAT you're doing that's causing this
problem. You'll find yourself that this simple exercise will
help you quickly discover a solution.
WELL there you have it... SIX of the most common mistakes that I
feel guys make when it comes to approaching women.
I'm not saying that you have ALL of these problems. Instead I
feel it's important to recognize if ANY of these mistakes sound
like you. That way, you can IMMEDIATELY take a corrective action
and overcome this obstacle.
- 9 Steps to turn a friend into girlfriend
- 5 ways to improve your sexual confidence
- Talking and Voice Tactics with Girls
- mistakes done by boys when talking to girls
- How to talk to girls
- Tips to impress Indian girls
- Tips to improve personality and self confidence
Friday, September 25, 2009
9 Steps to turn a friend into girlfriend
There is a certain girl in your life who
has taken control over your thoughts
.She is attractive, interesting and
everything youwant in a woman. In
fact, you can't stop thinking of her.
But, there is a major problem...
She likes you only as a FRIEND.
Sounds familiar right? Well this
happens all the time to guys.They
meet a great woman, but somehow
end up in being thought of as just
as a friend.
Well to be honest, it's actually quite
difficult to go from being a friend to
making things more intimate. The
major problem is women simply
don't view their male friends as
romantic partners.
In order to make a woman see you in
an intimate manner, you have to take
drastic measures!
In this blog, I'm to cover my 9 step to
overcome this problem. While it
might not work all the time, it'll be
your best bet for landing that one
special girl in your life.
Let's get started...
1- Never admit your true feelings
Hopefully before you've read this
article, you haven't made your true
feelings known to this girl. When
you tell a woman that "you like
her" it immediately puts her on
guard and makes her nervous around
you. And when this happens, it'll
make it hard to make things
romantic with her.
Now if you've already admitted
your feelings or have asked her on
a date, then you have to do a
little back peddling.
Before you continue with the rest
of this plan, you must convince her
that you only think of her as a friend.
Typically the best way to do this is
to emphasize the next two steps...
Step 2- Don't let her control your life
The problem with being like Friends
is you've let this girl grow too
comfortable with you. During this
time she has gotten used to you being
ready to please her and cater to her
needs. Since she knows you're her
emotional doormat, she'll never
view you as a "sexual person".
The only way to get her to think of
you as a potential dating partner is
to make her view you as sexual
person. To do this, you have to create
and build sexual tension around her.
Simply communicate that you're not
going to be around for her and you'll
be on your way to establishing brand
new rules for your relationship.
To escape from being friends, you
need to communicate that you
have other activities in your life
which do not concern her.
This means actively pursuing your
hobbies and picking them over
spending time with her. What you're
trying to communicate is that you
don't base your identity only on what
she thinks of you.
Step 3- Hang Out With other women
In order to get things going with your
female friend, you have to trigger her
jealous reactions. An easy way to do this
is discuss attractive girls and make
comments about them whenever you're
around your friend.
This shows that you're a sexual guy who
is not afraid to show what he likes in
women. Also this shows that she has
competition from other women.
If you really want to ramp up her jealous
nature, then I recommend you start dating
different women. If you do this properly,
she'll start to realize that she could be
missing out on a guy who is attractive
to many women.
Step 4- Establish physical contact
If you want her to think of you as a
potential dating partner, you have to
initiate a pattern of touching her.
This means establishing physical contact
whenever you're around her.
Now when I talk about physical contact,
I don't mean you should grope her.
Instead you should act like a buddy who
isn't afraid to touch her. This can include
hugging her and playfully swatting her.
THIS STEP is really important because
you must get her comfortable with you
touching her. The more you touch her,
the more she'll slowly become receptive
towards you becoming her dating partner.
Step 5- Qualify her
Becoming intimate with a woman can
be easily accomplished by acting like a
dominant male that she would want to
date. By demonstrating a strong
personality, your friend will realize
that you are somebody who has high
status. Thus you'll represent a guy
who only wants women who can
match your standards.
The best ways to accomplish is to
talk openly about your standards
and what you want in your life
from a woman. Simply tell her
what you like certain things from
women and how you're tired of girls
not matching your expectations.
The idea behind qualifying women
is to create a candid conversation
how you don't settle down with any
average girl. As your discussion
unfolds, she'll start to talk about
what she wants from a boyfriend.
What's funny is women have a tendency
to qualify themselves with guys they know.
So when you're talking about what you
want from a woman, you'll probably
see her talk about what "makes her
different" from other girls.
Step 6- Be a sexual guy
In order to get intimate with your female
friend, it's important that she think of you
as a sexual guy. The simplest way to do this
is to talk about sex when you're around her.
This means making sexual innuendoes,
talking about past partners, and teasing
her in a flirtatious manner. The more
you can bring sex in a conversation,
the more she'll come back with her own
suggestive comments.
Your goal for this step is to create a
consistent dialogue of sexual playfulness
with your female friend. Once this
happens,she'll start to regard you in
a whole new light.
Step 7- Anchor a sex story
A way to really ramp things up is to
talk about one of your past dating
partners. Bring her up often and mention
how incredible she was in the bedroom.
Now here's where this story gets interesting...
When you tell this story to your female
friend, mention how you had a deep
connection with this girl. One of the
reasons was because this woman used
to be your good friend. Since you and
this girl were buddies, you had a deeper
connection when things turned intimate.
By telling your friend this story, you'll
put a thought in her head that you can
be a sexual guy to women. Furthermore,
just by making things intimate, she'll
become a recipient of a lot of sexual
pleasure.
Step 8-Make her wonder
Once you've developed a pattern of
acting like a sexual guy, you need to
send her mixed signals about how
you feel about her. If you've done
the previous 7 steps correctly, then
she'll probably wonder what it
would be like to date you.
What you want to do is send her
conflicting signals that show that
you're interested and not interested
in her. One moment talk about
how she's a great friend. Then you
discuss the attributes of other women.
At this point, you want to start to let
her know that you're attracted to her.
Now you can't come out and start
saying you like her. Instead, you discuss
things in a sexual yet funny way.
For instance you can talk about a
perfume she's wearing. Let her know
that you really like the smell of it and
you can't handle having her around,
because you don't want to do
"anything you'll regret later".
By doing this, you'll let her know
you think of her in a sexual manner,
but you're also showing that you
still control the entire interaction.
9-Seal the deal
Eventually you'll get to the point
where you've become openly sexual
and physically expressive with your
friend. Primarily you'll be hugging
and touching one another in a
flirtatious manner.
It will be during one of these hugs
where you go to "seal the deal".
During one of your hugs, stop and
look her square in the eye. If she
maintains a prolonged eye contact,
that means she's ready to be kissed.
Simply go for the kiss. Then you can
let things unfold as they should.
If you've followed these steps
properly, then you'll discover that
it's easy to quickly let things
become intimate.
Now I want to be honest with you...
It isn't easy to escape from being friends.
With certain women, if they think
of you as a buddy, then you'll have no
chance of success. So this system
doesn't always work.
But if you're serious about a specific
woman in your life,then I think it's
important to risk a friendship to see
if you can make things intimate.
Simply follow this 9 step plan and
you'll definitely increase your chance
of success!
----------------------------------------
has taken control over your thoughts
.She is attractive, interesting and
everything youwant in a woman. In
fact, you can't stop thinking of her.
But, there is a major problem...
She likes you only as a FRIEND.
Sounds familiar right? Well this
happens all the time to guys.They
meet a great woman, but somehow
end up in being thought of as just
as a friend.
Well to be honest, it's actually quite
difficult to go from being a friend to
making things more intimate. The
major problem is women simply
don't view their male friends as
romantic partners.
In order to make a woman see you in
an intimate manner, you have to take
drastic measures!
In this blog, I'm to cover my 9 step to
overcome this problem. While it
might not work all the time, it'll be
your best bet for landing that one
special girl in your life.
Let's get started...
1- Never admit your true feelings
Hopefully before you've read this
article, you haven't made your true
feelings known to this girl. When
you tell a woman that "you like
her" it immediately puts her on
guard and makes her nervous around
you. And when this happens, it'll
make it hard to make things
romantic with her.
Now if you've already admitted
your feelings or have asked her on
a date, then you have to do a
little back peddling.
Before you continue with the rest
of this plan, you must convince her
that you only think of her as a friend.
Typically the best way to do this is
to emphasize the next two steps...
Step 2- Don't let her control your life
The problem with being like Friends
is you've let this girl grow too
comfortable with you. During this
time she has gotten used to you being
ready to please her and cater to her
needs. Since she knows you're her
emotional doormat, she'll never
view you as a "sexual person".
The only way to get her to think of
you as a potential dating partner is
to make her view you as sexual
person. To do this, you have to create
and build sexual tension around her.
Simply communicate that you're not
going to be around for her and you'll
be on your way to establishing brand
new rules for your relationship.
To escape from being friends, you
need to communicate that you
have other activities in your life
which do not concern her.
This means actively pursuing your
hobbies and picking them over
spending time with her. What you're
trying to communicate is that you
don't base your identity only on what
she thinks of you.
Step 3- Hang Out With other women
In order to get things going with your
female friend, you have to trigger her
jealous reactions. An easy way to do this
is discuss attractive girls and make
comments about them whenever you're
around your friend.
This shows that you're a sexual guy who
is not afraid to show what he likes in
women. Also this shows that she has
competition from other women.
If you really want to ramp up her jealous
nature, then I recommend you start dating
different women. If you do this properly,
she'll start to realize that she could be
missing out on a guy who is attractive
to many women.
Step 4- Establish physical contact
If you want her to think of you as a
potential dating partner, you have to
initiate a pattern of touching her.
This means establishing physical contact
whenever you're around her.
Now when I talk about physical contact,
I don't mean you should grope her.
Instead you should act like a buddy who
isn't afraid to touch her. This can include
hugging her and playfully swatting her.
THIS STEP is really important because
you must get her comfortable with you
touching her. The more you touch her,
the more she'll slowly become receptive
towards you becoming her dating partner.
Step 5- Qualify her
Becoming intimate with a woman can
be easily accomplished by acting like a
dominant male that she would want to
date. By demonstrating a strong
personality, your friend will realize
that you are somebody who has high
status. Thus you'll represent a guy
who only wants women who can
match your standards.
The best ways to accomplish is to
talk openly about your standards
and what you want in your life
from a woman. Simply tell her
what you like certain things from
women and how you're tired of girls
not matching your expectations.
The idea behind qualifying women
is to create a candid conversation
how you don't settle down with any
average girl. As your discussion
unfolds, she'll start to talk about
what she wants from a boyfriend.
What's funny is women have a tendency
to qualify themselves with guys they know.
So when you're talking about what you
want from a woman, you'll probably
see her talk about what "makes her
different" from other girls.
Step 6- Be a sexual guy
In order to get intimate with your female
friend, it's important that she think of you
as a sexual guy. The simplest way to do this
is to talk about sex when you're around her.
This means making sexual innuendoes,
talking about past partners, and teasing
her in a flirtatious manner. The more
you can bring sex in a conversation,
the more she'll come back with her own
suggestive comments.
Your goal for this step is to create a
consistent dialogue of sexual playfulness
with your female friend. Once this
happens,she'll start to regard you in
a whole new light.
Step 7- Anchor a sex story
A way to really ramp things up is to
talk about one of your past dating
partners. Bring her up often and mention
how incredible she was in the bedroom.
Now here's where this story gets interesting...
When you tell this story to your female
friend, mention how you had a deep
connection with this girl. One of the
reasons was because this woman used
to be your good friend. Since you and
this girl were buddies, you had a deeper
connection when things turned intimate.
By telling your friend this story, you'll
put a thought in her head that you can
be a sexual guy to women. Furthermore,
just by making things intimate, she'll
become a recipient of a lot of sexual
pleasure.
Step 8-Make her wonder
Once you've developed a pattern of
acting like a sexual guy, you need to
send her mixed signals about how
you feel about her. If you've done
the previous 7 steps correctly, then
she'll probably wonder what it
would be like to date you.
What you want to do is send her
conflicting signals that show that
you're interested and not interested
in her. One moment talk about
how she's a great friend. Then you
discuss the attributes of other women.
At this point, you want to start to let
her know that you're attracted to her.
Now you can't come out and start
saying you like her. Instead, you discuss
things in a sexual yet funny way.
For instance you can talk about a
perfume she's wearing. Let her know
that you really like the smell of it and
you can't handle having her around,
because you don't want to do
"anything you'll regret later".
By doing this, you'll let her know
you think of her in a sexual manner,
but you're also showing that you
still control the entire interaction.
9-Seal the deal
Eventually you'll get to the point
where you've become openly sexual
and physically expressive with your
friend. Primarily you'll be hugging
and touching one another in a
flirtatious manner.
It will be during one of these hugs
where you go to "seal the deal".
During one of your hugs, stop and
look her square in the eye. If she
maintains a prolonged eye contact,
that means she's ready to be kissed.
Simply go for the kiss. Then you can
let things unfold as they should.
If you've followed these steps
properly, then you'll discover that
it's easy to quickly let things
become intimate.
Now I want to be honest with you...
It isn't easy to escape from being friends.
With certain women, if they think
of you as a buddy, then you'll have no
chance of success. So this system
doesn't always work.
But if you're serious about a specific
woman in your life,then I think it's
important to risk a friendship to see
if you can make things intimate.
Simply follow this 9 step plan and
you'll definitely increase your chance
of success!
----------------------------------------
5 ways to improve your sexual confidence
How is your confidence in the bedroom?
There's a reason why I ask this question. many guys lack
confidence when it comes to pleasing their woman. And when
you have low self-esteem in this area, you'll subconsciously
turn her off.
As a result, your low confidence can damage your dating
life!
The truth is a lot of guys feel a lack of sexual confidence
around women. And when you're unsure about what satisfies a
woman, you'll end up projecting a nervous attitude towards
sex.
But while lots of guys experience some form of anxiety you cant
let this affect your overall performance.
So it's important to understand what pleases women and then
do it !
Only then will you be able to display an unstoppable amount
of sexual confidence.
Now if you're like some guys, then you can easily improve your
success with women by making a dramatic change to your sexual
confidence.
And here are 5 ways you can do it:
Tip #1- Maintain a relaxed attitude
One of the ways that men damage their confidence is by
getting all anxious before they "do the deed".
Acting this way, makes you project an aura of nervousness
that can make her "turned off" by your low self-esteem.
Rather than getting anxious about sex, you should remind
yourself that it's a completely normal part of a relationship.
Even if something bad happens, roll with the punches and
maintain composure.
In other words, stay relaxed!
Tip #2- Understand sexuality
One of the best ways to become a sexually confident guy is to
understand what really pleases a woman. If you understand how
to know how to push her "hot buttons", then it becomes that
much easier to be a great lover.
The best way to do this is experiment with the following:
* Oral sex
* Locating the G-Spot
* Teasing and being seductive
* Building anticipation for "the main event"
Tip #3- Delay your gratification
As you've probably realized, your sexual confidence stems from
being able to please a woman. When you can give pleasure to a
woman any time and any place, you'll project a powerful aura
that she'll love!
And one of the best ways to demonstrate this quality is to delay
your own pleasure during sex. If you provide multiple orgasms
to a woman before worrying taking care of yourself, you'll
transform into a seductive lover.
Tip #4- Be aggressive not timid
Many guys have low self esteem in the bedroom because they're
afraid to take initiative. Believe me- Women want you to take
control!
Once you understand how to give women pleasure, be the
instigator and give her what she wants. Women are turned on
by many things. Primarily, they love a guy who acts like he
can barely control himself when being intimate.
Tip #5- Understand her needs
Women are strange creatures. While some know what they want,
most won't give you a clue about what they secretly desire
from a man.
So it's up to you to figure out what pleases her!
By experimenting with various techniques, you'll eventually
encounter the techniques that drive her crazy with passion.
And then you'll have your "secret weapon" for providing her
with pleasure every single time!
Sexual confidence comes down to understanding women and being
able to discover what pleases them. If you follow the five
steps I discussed in this blog, then you'll be on your way
towards becoming her best lover!
------------------------------------------------
There's a reason why I ask this question. many guys lack
confidence when it comes to pleasing their woman. And when
you have low self-esteem in this area, you'll subconsciously
turn her off.
As a result, your low confidence can damage your dating
life!
The truth is a lot of guys feel a lack of sexual confidence
around women. And when you're unsure about what satisfies a
woman, you'll end up projecting a nervous attitude towards
sex.
But while lots of guys experience some form of anxiety you cant
let this affect your overall performance.
So it's important to understand what pleases women and then
do it !
Only then will you be able to display an unstoppable amount
of sexual confidence.
Now if you're like some guys, then you can easily improve your
success with women by making a dramatic change to your sexual
confidence.
And here are 5 ways you can do it:
Tip #1- Maintain a relaxed attitude
One of the ways that men damage their confidence is by
getting all anxious before they "do the deed".
Acting this way, makes you project an aura of nervousness
that can make her "turned off" by your low self-esteem.
Rather than getting anxious about sex, you should remind
yourself that it's a completely normal part of a relationship.
Even if something bad happens, roll with the punches and
maintain composure.
In other words, stay relaxed!
Tip #2- Understand sexuality
One of the best ways to become a sexually confident guy is to
understand what really pleases a woman. If you understand how
to know how to push her "hot buttons", then it becomes that
much easier to be a great lover.
The best way to do this is experiment with the following:
* Oral sex
* Locating the G-Spot
* Teasing and being seductive
* Building anticipation for "the main event"
Tip #3- Delay your gratification
As you've probably realized, your sexual confidence stems from
being able to please a woman. When you can give pleasure to a
woman any time and any place, you'll project a powerful aura
that she'll love!
And one of the best ways to demonstrate this quality is to delay
your own pleasure during sex. If you provide multiple orgasms
to a woman before worrying taking care of yourself, you'll
transform into a seductive lover.
Tip #4- Be aggressive not timid
Many guys have low self esteem in the bedroom because they're
afraid to take initiative. Believe me- Women want you to take
control!
Once you understand how to give women pleasure, be the
instigator and give her what she wants. Women are turned on
by many things. Primarily, they love a guy who acts like he
can barely control himself when being intimate.
Tip #5- Understand her needs
Women are strange creatures. While some know what they want,
most won't give you a clue about what they secretly desire
from a man.
So it's up to you to figure out what pleases her!
By experimenting with various techniques, you'll eventually
encounter the techniques that drive her crazy with passion.
And then you'll have your "secret weapon" for providing her
with pleasure every single time!
Sexual confidence comes down to understanding women and being
able to discover what pleases them. If you follow the five
steps I discussed in this blog, then you'll be on your way
towards becoming her best lover!
------------------------------------------------
Talking and Voice Tactics with Girls
Finding the right words to say to women continues to be the hardest thing for men to overcome. Comedians often say, "It's not what you say, but how you say it" and they are completely right. A single word response such as "What?" can be interpreted dozens of ways depending on the characteristics of the voice. It could be angry, surprised, uninterested or curious. Say, "what" in using each of these emotions and note the difference in your voice. If you want to successfully flirt with women stop thinking about the right words and start to deliver your words in a confident and irresistible manner. Below are some things you should take into consideration when flirting with women. 1. SPEAK DEEPER Women often say that deep voices are extremely sexy. Deep voices are sexy because they represent a cool, fearless, in control personality. A deep masculine voice is universally more sexy to women and helps distinguish your voice from all others. This sort of voice becomes very important in isolated and private settings when you're together with women. How to deepen your voice: 1. Place your hand on your chest 2. Say a few words and note the feeling on your hand 3. Stop talking and begin to hum 4. Lower the tone to increase the bass in your voice. 5. Note the feeling on your hand 6. Continue to hum and turn the sound into words 7. Admire your new, confident, attractive voice You don't need to have an extremely deep voice but it should be deep enough to communicate that you're comfortable in the presence of women. If you notice when you talk to women your voice becomes squeaky from nervousness use this technique to compose your voice. 2. SPEAK LOUDER Part of a confident voice is the volume you project. Confident men flirt with loud, strong and clear voices. Unconfident men speak with soft, weak and muffled voices that project fear and low self-esteem. If you want to get the attention of women start speaking with a louder voice. If women intimidate you, chances are your voice is very soft. Boost your voice to a volume that seems too loud and you'll speak at a comfortable volume. Because you're not use to speaking at this volume it will seem very loud; don't worry, practice makes perfect. 3. SLOW DOWN Public speaking is a great fear for most people. When somebody stands up to speak you can tell exactly how confident they are just by the speed of their voice. When we talk to our friends we speak in a cool calm voice and at a reasonably slow pace. If you hear a terrified person make a speech against their will, you'll hear the fear in their voice. Unconfident people speak at an unnaturally fast pace to "get it over and done with." They are so uncomfortable at public speaking that they rattle off their speech so fast most people have trouble getting the main points. Just by listening to the pace of your voice women can determine if you're nervous. Bonus Tip: If you're nervous around women speak at half the speed you think you should be talking and you'll most likely be talking at a natural pace. 4. ADD VARIETY Comedians are funny because they deliver their jokes with great timing. Learn to add emphasis, pauses, pace changes and fluctuating vocal tone. If you want to know exactly how to talk to women study some of the most confident public speakers and coaches of our time. Listen how leaders and seminar speakers keep people interested by using their voice as an instrument. Watch some TV and take notes. Here's what this all comes down to: A lot of men say they know what makes a confident voice and how to project one but when it comes time to approach women and use this confident voice, they freeze up. Just knowing something doesn't make you an expert; you must put what you know into practice. Take action. 5. PLAN As you already know, the biggest reason guys get nervous and don't even approach women is because they don't know what they're going to say. That's why planning is important. And no. I don't mean memorize a script! I mean make sure you know what you're going to say first, where you want the conversation to go and make sure you take control to achieve this result. There's nothing worse than walking up to a woman only to make a complete fool out of yourself because you didn't know what to say. And awkward silences won't win over the woman you want. So here's what to do: 1. Grab a sheet of paper 2. Write down all possible lines to start conversation 3. Write down all the possible things you can do during your talks 4. Write down exactly how you're going to ask for her number. Example: Hey, we should catch up again soon.Great! What's your number? Now here's the best part... If you know exactly what to say your voice volume, smoothness, speed and tone all come across sexy AUTOMATICALLY! --------------------------------------------
mistakes done by boys when talking to girls
If you're tired of not getting the girl, you might want
to take a look at how you're speaking to women and just
what it is you're saying to them.
Your looks are only going to get you so far and since
first impressions are everything, your conversational
skills will be the determining factor in whether or not
a woman agrees to go on a date with you. If you've ever
wondered why women keep telling you no, the following
article will shed some light on the common flirting
mistakes you have been making and how you can avoid
them from now on.
Mistake #1: Talking SERIOUS around women
Chances are you didn't catch her eye by being Mister
Serious. You were probably laughing and joking around
(in other words, being yourself) with your friends. But,
when you walk up to her, you think she wants to see that
you are composed, sophisticated, and you can carry a
mature conversation.
Be yourself. Don't be afraid to open with a crazy
question that one of your friends just asked you.
If she laughs,you're in. You don't need to walk up to
her and pretend that you have it 'together.' Don't try to
be something you are not.Most women can see right through
it.
Misktake #2: Asking boring questions
So, what do you do for work? Yawn. If you want to shoot
down your chance of moving past the handshake, then keep
firing off the Small Talk Questions. It works at Christmas
parties and church picnics, but not when you are trying to
get the phone number of the hottie in the coffee shop.
Ask questions that demand more than a one-word or one
sentence answer. Ask questions that might reveal something
about that person. Ask questions that challenge (but
certainly not insult) a person. That is how REAL conversation
is started.
Misktake #3: Communicating too directly
"I'll call you tomorrow around lunch time..." STOP, what
you aredoing, and leave a little bit to the imagination.
Telling her every little thing takes the game out of it.
Men constantly give away too much when they talk to women,
and it works to their disadvantage. Provide too much
information, and it might just be more than she wants to
hear.
Listen more, talk less. Don't give away the details.
Women are naturally attracted to the chase, so you might
as well give it to her. They cannot resist wondering...
"When is he going to call... Is he going to call... ??"
Misktake #4: Letting the conversation drag
This is one of the most commonly committed errors by men.
Talking too long and trying desperately to keep this hot
chick in front of you for as long as possible. Until, of
course, the conversation starts to lag and you find yourself
toeing the floor in front of you, repeating things that were
funny at the beginning of the conversation, and then finally
the dreaded 10 seconds of silence before saying... OK, well
I'll give you a call. You know what I am talking about.
When you get to the peak of a conversation, leave. I
don't mean just walk away in mid-sentence, but while
both of you are talking and laughing, just casually look
at your watch and say something like, "Oh, sorry... I've
got to meet a friend in about 10 minutes..."
Note: Leave with phone number in hand (or at least make
sure she has yours).
Misktake #5: Sucking up too much
You're so pretty. I love your smile. Awwww... that's
so nice, but she doesn't give a damn. Interestingly,
most women (especially the super-attractive ones)
react more favorably to teasing rather than sucking up.
Sucking up doesn't give you the backbone, and certainly
doesn't exude the confidence you need to land the girl.
Get a backbone and make this girl realize that she
isn't going to bowl you over with looks alone. Stick out
your tongue, or comment on something in her teeth.
You give the impression that your standards might just
be a little higher than hers... she'll be intrigued to
say the least... and she won't exactly know why.
Misktake #6: Talking without intention
If you fail to plan, then you should plan to fail. That
saying is as old as dirt. But it's true. So why would
you go up to a girl without an end plan? I don't know
either. Are you after her number? Do you want to give
her yours? Or are you propositioning her for the evening...?
No matter how you slice it, you better know where you
are headed, or you are going nowhere with her. Don't
just talking for the sake of talking.
If you want to end up getting her number, then you
need to talk your way into getting it. It's not a
manipulation thing, but you need to work yourself
into a place where it seems appropriate to ask
(or to give her yours).
Misktake #7: Don't know what to say
In reality, the other six mistakes never come into play
because most men never let themselves get past this point.
Ever walk up to a girl and open your mouth and nothing
comes out? Me either... but you can imagine the feeling
if it actually did happen. That's why we talk ourselves
out of stepping up to the plate in the first place. We
have no idea what to say. We are afraid to be ourselves,
we don't want to ask boring questions, we only know how
to suck up to pretty girls, we are deathly afraid of
'silence' and we don't have a plan. Perfect, so let's not
even go up to her.
The only way you are ever going to knock the ball out of
the park is if you get in the game! You can't get the girl
by sitting on the sidelines. Arm yourself with a plan,
don't ask boring questions, intrigue her, tease her, keep
her guessing and start landing the ladies you want!
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How to talk to girls
Have you ever had trouble when you talk to girl? To talk to women can be daunting at times, especially when you feel you haven’t anything exciting or interesting to talk about. Most men feel anxiety when they start to talk to a beautiful woman they just met. This is completely normal, and should be expected when you begin to talk to women. The best thing you can do is relax. That’s first.
This feeling of anxiety usually begins as a numb feeling in your stomach which quickly escalates to your head. You talk but the words come out that don’t seem interesting or engaging, so you start doubting your abilities as a conversationalist. Then, you start asking question after question, and she seems to respond with less and less detail, eventually getting back to just one or two word responses.
You: So where did you get those sunglasses?
Her: Huh? Oh… Gucci (as her eyes roll, and then try to locate her friends)
You: Ummm… so where did you say you were from again?
If you don’t stop this downward momentum quickly, she’s going to leave. And soon enough, the conversation has taken a detour to the point of no return.
This situation usually concludes with awkward silence, and her burning words…
“Well, I guess I better get back to my friends.”
This isn’t how you should talk to women, and it doesn’t have to be.
How You Should Talk To Girl
We blew it that conversation. You need to understand a few things when you first start to talk to women. First, in many circumstances this isn’t your fault. Women are often preoccupied, in an unsocial mood, drunk, or just plain mean. Don’t let this stop you from searching out beautiful women that you can talk to.
Here is the secret when you talk to women:
HAVE A BACKUP PLAN
When you have a backup plan, its like a conversational map with directions to your goal of getting a date, a number, or moving to another location. Odds are in your favor when you have a predictable and realistic goal when you talk with women. You don’t wuss out of at least trying to reach your goal. Because of this you can also steer clear of any foreseeable problems caused by you (like running out of things to say). Even with your plan, don’t let your initial conversation sound like a job interview. This is incredibly boring, and predictable.
Always view your conversation from a 3rd party’s perspective, and if you don’t like what you hear, change it up. If you do feel the conversation heading south, quickly have one thing to say or do that will make your save and continue on as if you weren’t going down.
Something like:
“Oh, that reminds me of (some random story) ”
“What’s the story behind (something they’re wearing thats interesting or unusual)”
“What’s your opinion on (something nearby that might be controversial)”
A fail safe technique is to make generalizations about women to keep the conversation spicy and interesting to her. For some reason women go crazy for it.
“Oh you (name city) girls… from what I hear (wait two seconds) TROUBLE.”
Don’t Do This When You Talk To Women
There are a few topic never to bring up when you begin to talk to women. Some topics might include: overt sex talk, politics, social problems (poverty, immigration) and religion. All other topics seem to be great, and most of those forbidden topics can be addressed but only with care and definitely not within the first five or so dates.
Never supplicate in actions or when you talk to a woman. Never ASK permission to do things, instead LEAD (Only when a woman refuses should you stop, not just casual disapproval). Never be too physical or not physical enough. Try and get a good balance, occasional touches on the elbow or small of her back are welcomed. This should help you start to talk to women in a more interesting way.
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This feeling of anxiety usually begins as a numb feeling in your stomach which quickly escalates to your head. You talk but the words come out that don’t seem interesting or engaging, so you start doubting your abilities as a conversationalist. Then, you start asking question after question, and she seems to respond with less and less detail, eventually getting back to just one or two word responses.
You: So where did you get those sunglasses?
Her: Huh? Oh… Gucci (as her eyes roll, and then try to locate her friends)
You: Ummm… so where did you say you were from again?
If you don’t stop this downward momentum quickly, she’s going to leave. And soon enough, the conversation has taken a detour to the point of no return.
This situation usually concludes with awkward silence, and her burning words…
“Well, I guess I better get back to my friends.”
This isn’t how you should talk to women, and it doesn’t have to be.
How You Should Talk To Girl
We blew it that conversation. You need to understand a few things when you first start to talk to women. First, in many circumstances this isn’t your fault. Women are often preoccupied, in an unsocial mood, drunk, or just plain mean. Don’t let this stop you from searching out beautiful women that you can talk to.
Here is the secret when you talk to women:
HAVE A BACKUP PLAN
When you have a backup plan, its like a conversational map with directions to your goal of getting a date, a number, or moving to another location. Odds are in your favor when you have a predictable and realistic goal when you talk with women. You don’t wuss out of at least trying to reach your goal. Because of this you can also steer clear of any foreseeable problems caused by you (like running out of things to say). Even with your plan, don’t let your initial conversation sound like a job interview. This is incredibly boring, and predictable.
Always view your conversation from a 3rd party’s perspective, and if you don’t like what you hear, change it up. If you do feel the conversation heading south, quickly have one thing to say or do that will make your save and continue on as if you weren’t going down.
Something like:
“Oh, that reminds me of (some random story) ”
“What’s the story behind (something they’re wearing thats interesting or unusual)”
“What’s your opinion on (something nearby that might be controversial)”
A fail safe technique is to make generalizations about women to keep the conversation spicy and interesting to her. For some reason women go crazy for it.
“Oh you (name city) girls… from what I hear (wait two seconds) TROUBLE.”
Don’t Do This When You Talk To Women
There are a few topic never to bring up when you begin to talk to women. Some topics might include: overt sex talk, politics, social problems (poverty, immigration) and religion. All other topics seem to be great, and most of those forbidden topics can be addressed but only with care and definitely not within the first five or so dates.
Never supplicate in actions or when you talk to a woman. Never ASK permission to do things, instead LEAD (Only when a woman refuses should you stop, not just casual disapproval). Never be too physical or not physical enough. Try and get a good balance, occasional touches on the elbow or small of her back are welcomed. This should help you start to talk to women in a more interesting way.
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Tips to impress Indian girls
India is a traditional country. Although people are becoming
modern with every passing day but still there is a traditional touch in
them. Same is the case with indian girls.They are becoming
modern but still having that indian touch.I had spended a
huge time surfing on net and books to get tips and techniques
for attracting girls. But most of them did't work for indian girls.
So i decided to find it myself.And now after 2 years of hardwork
i can say that am successful with girls.
And now i am presenting A SERIES OF BLOGS for guys of my
country to get those tips n guidance.There Is no charge for it,
the only thing you require is DETERMINATION.
So Lets Start..............
MISCONCEPTIONS THAT GUYS GENERALLY HAVE
Guys generally have this misconception that they will not get
girls coz they are not good looking,they are not rich ,they are
short,etc.
CRAP CRAP CRAP !!!!
Yes all this is crap.
Have you ever noticed that a worst looking guy is hanging with
a real babe.What do you feel at that time. Most of the couples
in this world are not made for each other, always there is one
who's better.So please,throw these creepy thinking out of your
mind.
There is nothing like this. OKAY!!!
So,the first thing that u have to believe that you are attractive
and you can easily attract girls.
Difference Between Boys Mentality And Girls Mentality
As men we're primarily attracted to the stereotypical "Hot Girl".
And according to popular men's magazines all guys desire thin,
fair, and large-breasted models.(While you might have different
tastes, this type of girl is statistically found to be the most
popular type of woman among men.)
Now what's interesting is women are attracted to different things
then men.First off, each woman has varied tastes in men. What
they find attractive really depends on their personality. Some love
large hulking men, while others are attracted to thin, intellectual
types.
In addition women are primarily attracted to traits which are not
based on personal appearance. Things like confidence, goal
orientation and humor are all traits which can attract a woman.
Obviously this is good news!
No matter what faults you might find in your own appearance, you
can still be very successful with women. If you know how to
demonstrate an attractive personality then it becomes easy to
succeed with women.
So the moral of this post is to STOP worrying about your looks.
Two Most Important Things Which Attract Girls
Have you ever been completely frustrated when it comes to
attracting the type of girl you like to you? I think we've all
been in those situations where you admire a girl from a far,
and wonder what its going to take to get her to fall in love with
you and we all want to know how we can make her attracted
to us.
As i mentioned above ,your looks only play a small role. The two
major factors in being an attractive man are:
1. CONFIDENCE
As it is rightly said that CONFIDENCE is the most important thing in
life to become successful. The same is the case with girls.I can
tell you how to meet girls,how to approach them .but i dont
know that weather you have enough confidence or not to follow
them or not.
The more confident you are, the easier it is for you to do what
needs to be done with women.
2. PERSONALITY
I dont think that it is reuired to tell about personality. but let me
tell you one thing personality does not mean that you have to be
tall ,shaped body,etc.It means how you show your confidence.It
depends on your on you abilty to present yourself in fornt of people.
The more personality you have, the easier it is to gain attraction
---------------------------------------------------------------
modern with every passing day but still there is a traditional touch in
them. Same is the case with indian girls.They are becoming
modern but still having that indian touch.I had spended a
huge time surfing on net and books to get tips and techniques
for attracting girls. But most of them did't work for indian girls.
So i decided to find it myself.And now after 2 years of hardwork
i can say that am successful with girls.
And now i am presenting A SERIES OF BLOGS for guys of my
country to get those tips n guidance.There Is no charge for it,
the only thing you require is DETERMINATION.
So Lets Start..............
MISCONCEPTIONS THAT GUYS GENERALLY HAVE
Guys generally have this misconception that they will not get
girls coz they are not good looking,they are not rich ,they are
short,etc.
CRAP CRAP CRAP !!!!
Yes all this is crap.
Have you ever noticed that a worst looking guy is hanging with
a real babe.What do you feel at that time. Most of the couples
in this world are not made for each other, always there is one
who's better.So please,throw these creepy thinking out of your
mind.
There is nothing like this. OKAY!!!
So,the first thing that u have to believe that you are attractive
and you can easily attract girls.
Difference Between Boys Mentality And Girls Mentality
As men we're primarily attracted to the stereotypical "Hot Girl".
And according to popular men's magazines all guys desire thin,
fair, and large-breasted models.(While you might have different
tastes, this type of girl is statistically found to be the most
popular type of woman among men.)
Now what's interesting is women are attracted to different things
then men.First off, each woman has varied tastes in men. What
they find attractive really depends on their personality. Some love
large hulking men, while others are attracted to thin, intellectual
types.
In addition women are primarily attracted to traits which are not
based on personal appearance. Things like confidence, goal
orientation and humor are all traits which can attract a woman.
Obviously this is good news!
No matter what faults you might find in your own appearance, you
can still be very successful with women. If you know how to
demonstrate an attractive personality then it becomes easy to
succeed with women.
So the moral of this post is to STOP worrying about your looks.
Two Most Important Things Which Attract Girls
Have you ever been completely frustrated when it comes to
attracting the type of girl you like to you? I think we've all
been in those situations where you admire a girl from a far,
and wonder what its going to take to get her to fall in love with
you and we all want to know how we can make her attracted
to us.
As i mentioned above ,your looks only play a small role. The two
major factors in being an attractive man are:
1. CONFIDENCE
As it is rightly said that CONFIDENCE is the most important thing in
life to become successful. The same is the case with girls.I can
tell you how to meet girls,how to approach them .but i dont
know that weather you have enough confidence or not to follow
them or not.
The more confident you are, the easier it is for you to do what
needs to be done with women.
2. PERSONALITY
I dont think that it is reuired to tell about personality. but let me
tell you one thing personality does not mean that you have to be
tall ,shaped body,etc.It means how you show your confidence.It
depends on your on you abilty to present yourself in fornt of people.
The more personality you have, the easier it is to gain attraction
---------------------------------------------------------------
Tips to improve personality and self confidence
If you've ever tried to attract a woman, then you know
your successdepends on your self-confidence.
The more confidence you have, the better off you'll be!
So what should you do if you lack self confidence around
women?
Well here are a few tips you can use to raise your self-esteem:
1) Learn to relax
Before approaching women, put yourself in a relaxed state by
paying attention to your posture and body. Then concentrate
on a positive outcome from the conversation you're about to
have. If you can remove all expectations you'll become more
relaxed around women. So remind yourself that any negative
outcome won't affect your life.
2) Try meditation and exercising
There are certain acivities (meditation,and yoga,) which will
make you more relaxed and focussed. By practicing these
exercises, you'll be able to put yourself into a positive state
whenever you need it, including the times when you're trying
to pick up women. So if you're serious about building self
confidence, try one of these activities.
3) Use your strengths
One quick way to build self-confidence is to write down all of the
qualities that make you a great person. Then whenever you're
faced with a situation where you're not feeling confident, just
recite the affirmations about your positive qualities.By mentally
reviewing your strengths, you'll be able to quickly ramp up your
levels of confidence.
4) Positive at all times
It's widely known that guys who smile and have a positive outlook
tend to attract more women.So no matter what you're feeling
inside, Always have a upbeat attitude and do your best to be a
guy who women enjoy being around. What's funny is even when
you fake a confident personality, you'll eventually develop this
personality trait!
TIPS FOR IMPROVING YOUR PERSONALITY.
WELL!!!.
Personality is something which is totally yours.You cannot take it
from anyone. It does not depends on your physique.Rather it
depends on your ways to present yourself.So it is only you who
is responsible for your personality.
THUS,the best way to attract a woman is to work on yourself first.
The truth is a lot of women are fed up with dating guys who act
like little boys.If you can learn what is attractive to women,
then you’ll stand out from these low personality boys.
BECOME A MAN.!!!!
Well it's simple. By being a real man, you'll exude a variety of
positive characteristics.And these core set of traits can help you
become more naturally attractive to women.
The question is- What virtues should you develop?
Well in my opinion, there are a number of strong character
traits you should develop.
Here are just a FEW of them:
• Honor
• Integrity
• Passion for life
• Goal orientation
• Confidence
• Humility
• Calmness under pressure
• Generosity to friends, family and even strangers
• Leadership
• Courage and conviction
• Decisiveness
• Humor
Now you might be overwhelmed by the number of traits I’ve
described.It definitely sounds like a lot to work on. But if you
want to become more attractive to women, then you must
do your best to work on all these areas of your life.
I challenge you to take each trait and rate yourself on how
well you fit this description. Then discipline yourself to improve
on each of these character traits.
I guarantee the more you work on yourself, then more you’ll
naturally attract women.
HENCE, these were the tips for you to improve your
self confidence and personality.
These traits naturally attracts girls..
your successdepends on your self-confidence.
The more confidence you have, the better off you'll be!
So what should you do if you lack self confidence around
women?
Well here are a few tips you can use to raise your self-esteem:
1) Learn to relax
Before approaching women, put yourself in a relaxed state by
paying attention to your posture and body. Then concentrate
on a positive outcome from the conversation you're about to
have. If you can remove all expectations you'll become more
relaxed around women. So remind yourself that any negative
outcome won't affect your life.
2) Try meditation and exercising
There are certain acivities (meditation,and yoga,) which will
make you more relaxed and focussed. By practicing these
exercises, you'll be able to put yourself into a positive state
whenever you need it, including the times when you're trying
to pick up women. So if you're serious about building self
confidence, try one of these activities.
3) Use your strengths
One quick way to build self-confidence is to write down all of the
qualities that make you a great person. Then whenever you're
faced with a situation where you're not feeling confident, just
recite the affirmations about your positive qualities.By mentally
reviewing your strengths, you'll be able to quickly ramp up your
levels of confidence.
4) Positive at all times
It's widely known that guys who smile and have a positive outlook
tend to attract more women.So no matter what you're feeling
inside, Always have a upbeat attitude and do your best to be a
guy who women enjoy being around. What's funny is even when
you fake a confident personality, you'll eventually develop this
personality trait!
TIPS FOR IMPROVING YOUR PERSONALITY.
WELL!!!.
Personality is something which is totally yours.You cannot take it
from anyone. It does not depends on your physique.Rather it
depends on your ways to present yourself.So it is only you who
is responsible for your personality.
THUS,the best way to attract a woman is to work on yourself first.
The truth is a lot of women are fed up with dating guys who act
like little boys.If you can learn what is attractive to women,
then you’ll stand out from these low personality boys.
BECOME A MAN.!!!!
Well it's simple. By being a real man, you'll exude a variety of
positive characteristics.And these core set of traits can help you
become more naturally attractive to women.
The question is- What virtues should you develop?
Well in my opinion, there are a number of strong character
traits you should develop.
Here are just a FEW of them:
• Honor
• Integrity
• Passion for life
• Goal orientation
• Confidence
• Humility
• Calmness under pressure
• Generosity to friends, family and even strangers
• Leadership
• Courage and conviction
• Decisiveness
• Humor
Now you might be overwhelmed by the number of traits I’ve
described.It definitely sounds like a lot to work on. But if you
want to become more attractive to women, then you must
do your best to work on all these areas of your life.
I challenge you to take each trait and rate yourself on how
well you fit this description. Then discipline yourself to improve
on each of these character traits.
I guarantee the more you work on yourself, then more you’ll
naturally attract women.
HENCE, these were the tips for you to improve your
self confidence and personality.
These traits naturally attracts girls..
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