mistakes done by boys when talking to girls

If you're tired of not getting the girl, you might want
to take a look at how you're speaking to women and just
what it is you're saying to them.

Your looks are only going to get you so far and since
first impressions are everything, your conversational
skills will be the determining factor in whether or not
a woman agrees to go on a date with you. If you've ever
wondered why women keep telling you no, the following
article will shed some light on the common flirting
mistakes you have been making and how you can avoid
them from now on.

Mistake #1: Talking SERIOUS around women

Chances are you didn't catch her eye by being Mister
Serious. You were probably laughing and joking around
(in other words, being yourself) with your friends. But,
when you walk up to her, you think she wants to see that
you are composed, sophisticated, and you can carry a
mature conversation.

Be yourself. Don't be afraid to open with a crazy
question that one of your friends just asked you.
If she laughs,you're in. You don't need to walk up to
her and pretend that you have it 'together.' Don't try to
be something you are not.Most women can see right through
it.

Misktake #2: Asking boring questions

So, what do you do for work? Yawn. If you want to shoot
down your chance of moving past the handshake, then keep
firing off the Small Talk Questions. It works at Christmas
parties and church picnics, but not when you are trying to
get the phone number of the hottie in the coffee shop.

Ask questions that demand more than a one-word or one
sentence answer. Ask questions that might reveal something
about that person. Ask questions that challenge (but
certainly not insult) a person. That is how REAL conversation
is started.

Misktake #3: Communicating too directly

"I'll call you tomorrow around lunch time..." STOP, what
you aredoing, and leave a little bit to the imagination.
Telling her every little thing takes the game out of it.
Men constantly give away too much when they talk to women,
and it works to their disadvantage. Provide too much
information, and it might just be more than she wants to
hear.

Listen more, talk less. Don't give away the details.
Women are naturally attracted to the chase, so you might
as well give it to her. They cannot resist wondering...
"When is he going to call... Is he going to call... ??"

Misktake #4: Letting the conversation drag

This is one of the most commonly committed errors by men.
Talking too long and trying desperately to keep this hot
chick in front of you for as long as possible. Until, of
course, the conversation starts to lag and you find yourself
toeing the floor in front of you, repeating things that were
funny at the beginning of the conversation, and then finally
the dreaded 10 seconds of silence before saying... OK, well
I'll give you a call. You know what I am talking about.

When you get to the peak of a conversation, leave. I
don't mean just walk away in mid-sentence, but while
both of you are talking and laughing, just casually look
at your watch and say something like, "Oh, sorry... I've
got to meet a friend in about 10 minutes..."
Note: Leave with phone number in hand (or at least make
sure she has yours).

Misktake #5: Sucking up too much

You're so pretty. I love your smile. Awwww... that's
so nice, but she doesn't give a damn. Interestingly,
most women (especially the super-attractive ones)
react more favorably to teasing rather than sucking up.
Sucking up doesn't give you the backbone, and certainly
doesn't exude the confidence you need to land the girl.

Get a backbone and make this girl realize that she
isn't going to bowl you over with looks alone. Stick out
your tongue, or comment on something in her teeth.
You give the impression that your standards might just
be a little higher than hers... she'll be intrigued to
say the least... and she won't exactly know why.

Misktake #6: Talking without intention

If you fail to plan, then you should plan to fail. That
saying is as old as dirt. But it's true. So why would
you go up to a girl without an end plan? I don't know
either. Are you after her number? Do you want to give
her yours? Or are you propositioning her for the evening...?
No matter how you slice it, you better know where you
are headed, or you are going nowhere with her. Don't
just talking for the sake of talking.

If you want to end up getting her number, then you
need to talk your way into getting it. It's not a
manipulation thing, but you need to work yourself
into a place where it seems appropriate to ask
(or to give her yours).

Misktake #7: Don't know what to say

In reality, the other six mistakes never come into play
because most men never let themselves get past this point.
Ever walk up to a girl and open your mouth and nothing
comes out? Me either... but you can imagine the feeling
if it actually did happen. That's why we talk ourselves
out of stepping up to the plate in the first place. We
have no idea what to say. We are afraid to be ourselves,
we don't want to ask boring questions, we only know how
to suck up to pretty girls, we are deathly afraid of
'silence' and we don't have a plan. Perfect, so let's not
even go up to her.

The only way you are ever going to knock the ball out of
the park is if you get in the game! You can't get the girl
by sitting on the sidelines. Arm yourself with a plan,
don't ask boring questions, intrigue her, tease her, keep
her guessing and start landing the ladies you want!

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