Teasing is about being fun, but it's also being charming. In
conversations with women, it's a way to demonstrate that you have
high social status. Whereas most guys kiss girls asses, YOU will
use teasing to PUSH them away with a bratty comment, then PULL
them in with something that shows your interest.
For example, you could tease her by taking her hand in yours,
only to push it away and tease her for "being too forward." Then
you continue on by saying that "she's the one treating you like a
piece of meat and is only interested in 'one thing'..."
Sure this doesn't make LOGICAL sense to guys. But you have to
remember flirting isn't about doing stuff in a logical manner;
it's about emotion.
You want to create the kind of tension that's VERY sexually
attractive to women.
Think of being a little kid again...
When you were 10, you teased a girl that you liked by slapping
her, or pulling her hair. And while you'd likely to get a
restraining order placed on you by pulling those stunts now, it's
still basically the same idea.
Put another way: Teasing is "the new" method of pulling a girl's
ponytail.
Teasing should be light when you first meet a woman. Stick to
topics like her choice in purses. Accuse her of buying "knock-
off" or imitation clothing.
The key is to make her think you're funny...not an egotistical
prick.
If she's laughing, then you've won half the battle.
Now one of the best ways to understand humor is to study comedy
and comedians. The caveat here is to avoid the comedy routines
where the person makes fun of himself the whole time.
YOUR comedy should NEVER be used to point out your own flaws or
insecurities. This will only lower your social value and
showcase the unattractive side of your personality.
To blend humor with teasing, you should joke with women in a way
that's playful and not offensive. In other words, you should know
the RIGHT way to showcase a personality that'll make women laugh
while making you extremely attractive.
When you're talking to a woman, you can three tactics REALLY ramp
up a humorous personality:
#1 - Exaggeration
This concept is simple, you take something about her and pick on
her in a RIDICULOUS manner.
For example, try saying something like, "I like the size of your
handbag. It's like you're hiding a Mexican army in there!". Or
if she's wearing a large piece of jewelry you say "Damn girl,
that's some serious bling you got there!"
Exaggeration is a great way to joke with her about a small thing
she does and tease her in a way that "assumes familiarity."
#2 - Role Reversals
This is all about taking line traditionally used by women, and
pretend that SHE is doing it to you. For instance, your average
girl is always being viewed as a sexual object by men. So you
reverse roles by making the claim that she's hitting on you and
is "trying to get into your arms."
Not only does this make you seem funny, but it also shows that
you understand women.
A variation of this technique is to make the self-conscious
statements you'll often hear girls tell each other. A comment
like "Does this outfit make my head look big?" will be sure to
make her laugh.
#3 - Use Characters
Taking on the role of a funny character can be excellent way to
show your humor. This is where you take on a persona or a "type"
of guy she typically meets.
For instance after vibing with a girl for awhile, I'll joke about
her getting hit on by all these WIERDOS. Then I'll immediately
switch into a nerdy persona (hands in pocket, slouchy posture,
geeky sound voice). Then I'll make a joke about how she HAS to
come a Star Trek Convention with me.
A character like this works REALLY well when she knows that
you're a fun, interesting guy. It shows that you *get* what she
goes through AND you're not like the losers she normally deals
with.
One rule of thumb for creating characters...Think of the "types"
of guys that usually annoy her, then assume this persona. But
do it in a way that let's her know that you understand what
it's like for her to deal with someone like this.
Now you might be asking "what if I'm not a funny guy?"
Also, watching stand-up comedians is also a great way to expose
yourself to all that is funny.
Another great technique that is often overlooked is to pay
attention to your friends and the funny things you discuss
together. Taking cues from those you're most comfortable with can
be invaluable.
My final piece of advice is to pay CLOSE attention to the things
that come out of a woman's mouth. Be an opportunity seeker and
spot the moments when you can rip on something she's saying.
For instance, you could misinterpret EVERYTHING she says into a
sexual context, like she's trying to "take advantage of you."
Look for EVERY sexual innuendo that she gives you. Exaggerate the
little things.
For instance, if she says, "This dress doesn't look right on me,"
tease her by saying something like, "Yeah, I didn't want to tell
you that."
If you're able to pick up on the little things around you, it's
easy to create a personality that's both FUNNY and incredibly
ATTRACTIVE to women!
Keep on Rocking and Rolling,
Thursday, December 24, 2009
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
A small trick to know that a girl is ready to be approached
"Here's How You Know When A Woman Is Ready To Be Approached..."
This amazing tactic will increase your success rate by 90%, and ensure you NEVER get rejected on the approach!
The Eye Contact Test
We all know that eye contact is important, but something funny happens when we make eye contact with another person...
We become COMPELLED to respond to them in some fashion!
When it comes to women, you can use eye contact to find out if she's open to meeting you. In fact, in a way, she'll be opening YOU!
So here's what you do...
The next time you see a woman you want to meet, LOCK your eyes on her!
Seriously, just stare at her eyes, even if she's not looking at you.
When people are out and about, they will usually look around to keep aware of their surroundings. This is an unconscious thing we all do. Eventually, the woman you're locking onto will look around to scan the area.
When she comes to you, her eyes will inevitably meet yours, and you'll be locked in eye contact.
When that happens, simply SMILE at her.
If she smiles back, guess what?
She's OPEN TO YOU MEETING HER!
If she doesn't, then move on to someone who is.
And when she does smile back, say "Hi!" And if she responds - you're in! Go right into your opener.
I like to use this tactic in low-key situations, like grocery stores, coffee shops, book stores, etc.
Even though it can work just as well in public places (as long as the light is high enough that she can actually SEE you!).
Often times, after you smile, the girl herself will say "Hi!" and then the rest is easy.
The next time you go out, do this to every woman you see. Lock your eyes onto them and see what happens. I guarantee you, you'll be surprised by the results.
This amazing tactic will increase your success rate by 90%, and ensure you NEVER get rejected on the approach!
The Eye Contact Test
We all know that eye contact is important, but something funny happens when we make eye contact with another person...
We become COMPELLED to respond to them in some fashion!
When it comes to women, you can use eye contact to find out if she's open to meeting you. In fact, in a way, she'll be opening YOU!
So here's what you do...
The next time you see a woman you want to meet, LOCK your eyes on her!
Seriously, just stare at her eyes, even if she's not looking at you.
When people are out and about, they will usually look around to keep aware of their surroundings. This is an unconscious thing we all do. Eventually, the woman you're locking onto will look around to scan the area.
When she comes to you, her eyes will inevitably meet yours, and you'll be locked in eye contact.
When that happens, simply SMILE at her.
If she smiles back, guess what?
She's OPEN TO YOU MEETING HER!
If she doesn't, then move on to someone who is.
And when she does smile back, say "Hi!" And if she responds - you're in! Go right into your opener.
I like to use this tactic in low-key situations, like grocery stores, coffee shops, book stores, etc.
Even though it can work just as well in public places (as long as the light is high enough that she can actually SEE you!).
Often times, after you smile, the girl herself will say "Hi!" and then the rest is easy.
The next time you go out, do this to every woman you see. Lock your eyes onto them and see what happens. I guarantee you, you'll be surprised by the results.
How can I get her leave her BOYFRIEND
Every day, I receive dozens of emails from
readers just like you who are having difficulty in some aspect
of their dating life.
Throughout this blog, I'm going to include some answers
to the questions I commonly get. By doing it this way, I can
hopefully cover the problems you're having while telling the
thousands of other guys on this list.
In today's blog I'm going to respond to a question I
typically receive once or twice a DAY:
"What do I when a girl already has a boyfriend?"
I'm going to be honest with you...
When a woman talks about her boyfriend, she's sending you signals
that she's not available for dating. It's her way to tell other
guys that she's taken WITHOUT creating an awkward situation.
From what you've written, it's my OPINION that she likes you as
a friend.
To be honest, this happens a LOT to guys. They mistakenly
think a woman is showing a sign of attraction when she opens up
and shares her inner feelings. However when a woman enjoys
hanging out with you, but talks about her boyfriend, she's
telling you that you're her FRIEND.
Now that does NOT mean you don't have a chance. The sad fact is
SOME women are open to doing dating guys despite the fact that
they have a boyfriend.
If you're wondering if she's like this, I recommend you do
something called "The Attraction Test". I works like this:
1- Treat her like a woman
When you're with her, treat her LIKE a woman. In other
words, don't be afraid to joke about sex or tease her in a
suggestive manner (ie: cocky/funny).
Don't be coy or nonsexual around her. Instead act like a guy
who is comfortable with the topic of sex. You're doing this
because you want her to view you as someone she WANTS to date,
NOT as a only a friend
2- Find out more about her boyfriend
Next, you should do some research on her boyfriend.
Now I want to mention one thing....I personally think it's a
BAD idea to intentionally sabotage a relationship.
But...
If she's not happy (or is attracted to you) then it's YOUR
decision if you want to pursue things. I want to take a chance
then you need to find out more about this OTHER guy.
So try asking her about the boyfriend. Figure out what she thinks
of him and their relationship. If it appears that she's not in a
good relationship, then this might be an indicator that she could
into you.
You might have a chance if she's not happy!
On the other hand, if she gushes about how wonderful he is and what
she loves about him, then you're being sent a CLEAR sign that you
probably won't succeed with this woman.
3- Date other women
Finally, you want to do something that might seem a little
"counterintuitive". Instead of going after this girl, you want
to date OTHER women.
The idea behind dating other women is to test her reaction. If
she seems upset or jealous, then you KNOW that she's ripe for
the taking!
Next time you're around her, start talking about the women
you're currently dating. In fact, make it seem that you're
being actively pursued by a number of different girls in your
life.
But back to this particular woman...
If you're talking about OTHER women you're interested in, you
could see some jealous feelings from her. When this happens you
know she has feelings for you.
Well if you want to find out the true feelings of the girl,
you have to a little research.
Remember this...
Regardless of the outcome, you should work hard to date different
women till you find one that you REALLY want to be with. Once
you've dated lots of women, you won't be wrapped in ONE woman who
might not be returning your feelings.
Never confuse a woman's TRUE intentions!
My advice is if you like a woman THAT WAY, then act like a guy
she WANTS to date. In other words, don't be her buddy
or the shoulder to cry on.
If you do, you'll end up in the worst place possible...
THE FRIENDS ZONE!
This is the last place you want to go.
SO......Dont be there.
readers just like you who are having difficulty in some aspect
of their dating life.
Throughout this blog, I'm going to include some answers
to the questions I commonly get. By doing it this way, I can
hopefully cover the problems you're having while telling the
thousands of other guys on this list.
In today's blog I'm going to respond to a question I
typically receive once or twice a DAY:
"What do I when a girl already has a boyfriend?"
I'm going to be honest with you...
When a woman talks about her boyfriend, she's sending you signals
that she's not available for dating. It's her way to tell other
guys that she's taken WITHOUT creating an awkward situation.
From what you've written, it's my OPINION that she likes you as
a friend.
To be honest, this happens a LOT to guys. They mistakenly
think a woman is showing a sign of attraction when she opens up
and shares her inner feelings. However when a woman enjoys
hanging out with you, but talks about her boyfriend, she's
telling you that you're her FRIEND.
Now that does NOT mean you don't have a chance. The sad fact is
SOME women are open to doing dating guys despite the fact that
they have a boyfriend.
If you're wondering if she's like this, I recommend you do
something called "The Attraction Test". I works like this:
1- Treat her like a woman
When you're with her, treat her LIKE a woman. In other
words, don't be afraid to joke about sex or tease her in a
suggestive manner (ie: cocky/funny).
Don't be coy or nonsexual around her. Instead act like a guy
who is comfortable with the topic of sex. You're doing this
because you want her to view you as someone she WANTS to date,
NOT as a only a friend
2- Find out more about her boyfriend
Next, you should do some research on her boyfriend.
Now I want to mention one thing....I personally think it's a
BAD idea to intentionally sabotage a relationship.
But...
If she's not happy (or is attracted to you) then it's YOUR
decision if you want to pursue things. I want to take a chance
then you need to find out more about this OTHER guy.
So try asking her about the boyfriend. Figure out what she thinks
of him and their relationship. If it appears that she's not in a
good relationship, then this might be an indicator that she could
into you.
You might have a chance if she's not happy!
On the other hand, if she gushes about how wonderful he is and what
she loves about him, then you're being sent a CLEAR sign that you
probably won't succeed with this woman.
3- Date other women
Finally, you want to do something that might seem a little
"counterintuitive". Instead of going after this girl, you want
to date OTHER women.
The idea behind dating other women is to test her reaction. If
she seems upset or jealous, then you KNOW that she's ripe for
the taking!
Next time you're around her, start talking about the women
you're currently dating. In fact, make it seem that you're
being actively pursued by a number of different girls in your
life.
But back to this particular woman...
If you're talking about OTHER women you're interested in, you
could see some jealous feelings from her. When this happens you
know she has feelings for you.
Well if you want to find out the true feelings of the girl,
you have to a little research.
Remember this...
Regardless of the outcome, you should work hard to date different
women till you find one that you REALLY want to be with. Once
you've dated lots of women, you won't be wrapped in ONE woman who
might not be returning your feelings.
Never confuse a woman's TRUE intentions!
My advice is if you like a woman THAT WAY, then act like a guy
she WANTS to date. In other words, don't be her buddy
or the shoulder to cry on.
If you do, you'll end up in the worst place possible...
THE FRIENDS ZONE!
This is the last place you want to go.
SO......Dont be there.
How to be naturally attractive to all girls
In the past few months, I've thought a LOT about what makes a guy
naturally attractive to any woman. While MOST men need routines,
gimmicks and other PUA games, there are some born with a natural
ability to attract without even thinking about it.
What I find interesting is "naturals" come in all shapes and
sizes. I've seen some who are ugly, fat AND poor. Yet they're
BLESSED with the uncanny ability to unleash a girl's "WILD SIDE"
Now I'll be the first to admit that I am NOT a natural with
women. Before I tried to make a change to this area of my life, I
did manage to "Forrest Gump" my way with women. But looking back,
most of my success was largely due to a few factors:
* Alcohol
* Being in a comfortable environment
* Talking to a friend of a friend
* Having a woman approach me
As you can see, I wasn't as bad as some others out there. But, I
feel that at one point in my life, my success with women was very
limited.
But to the main point of this blog...
There ARE men who have a natural touch with women!
What makes them different?
Well as I've recently discovered, there is ONE major factor that
separates the "naturals" from the "average" men:
Naturals give off a postive attitude!
Okay, I know I'm venturing into the realm of "hippy-dippy" new
agey talk. However, there's an important lesson to be learned
here...
Naturals intuitively know the importance of triggering a woman's
positive emotions. In other words, naturals are FUN to be around
and provide an interesting view of the world.
Primarily, naturals know how to clearly describe their goals and
dreams. Whenever given an opportunity, naturals will talk about
life in an exciting manner.
Since most women live boring unfulfilled lives, a natural can
provide an dramatic change of pace.
Next, naturals are able to avoid the negativity displayed by many
men. If you think about it, most people are constantly
complaining about how much life sucks.
Instead of simply complaining, a natural will express what he
doesn't like in way that isn't negative. Instead he finds a way
to put a positive spin on almost any scenario.
To illustrate, let's go over a few statements made by an AVERAGE
person and by a NATURAL:
Average :
1) "Those girls are so bitchy. I can't believe they treated me
like that! "
2) "This is the worst service I've ever had. Where the hell did
they hire this waitress? "
3) I'm so tired right now. I don't feel like doing anything
right now"
Natural :
1) "I didn't do my best in that set. Next time, I'm going to
display more energy and positive body language"
2) "Looks like we're not going to have the greatest service
tonight. But, at least I know the food is going to be awesome!"
3) "Who is tired? I'm ready to go!"
As you can see, these statements basically say the same thing.
However the WAY each type of guy says them has a direct link to
a specific emotion.
Naturals know that energy and enthusiasm is important in EVERY
interaction. If you can learn ONE thing from these guys, it
should be that you NEED to display a more fun and exiting
personality. If you show a woman a GREAT time, then she'll be
naturally drawn to you.
An one of the best ways to be more "natural" with women is
to understand how to display an attractive personality
You won't believe how easy it is to get ANY woman when you're
displaying them with a FUN, exciting attitude!
naturally attractive to any woman. While MOST men need routines,
gimmicks and other PUA games, there are some born with a natural
ability to attract without even thinking about it.
What I find interesting is "naturals" come in all shapes and
sizes. I've seen some who are ugly, fat AND poor. Yet they're
BLESSED with the uncanny ability to unleash a girl's "WILD SIDE"
Now I'll be the first to admit that I am NOT a natural with
women. Before I tried to make a change to this area of my life, I
did manage to "Forrest Gump" my way with women. But looking back,
most of my success was largely due to a few factors:
* Alcohol
* Being in a comfortable environment
* Talking to a friend of a friend
* Having a woman approach me
As you can see, I wasn't as bad as some others out there. But, I
feel that at one point in my life, my success with women was very
limited.
But to the main point of this blog...
There ARE men who have a natural touch with women!
What makes them different?
Well as I've recently discovered, there is ONE major factor that
separates the "naturals" from the "average" men:
Naturals give off a postive attitude!
Okay, I know I'm venturing into the realm of "hippy-dippy" new
agey talk. However, there's an important lesson to be learned
here...
Naturals intuitively know the importance of triggering a woman's
positive emotions. In other words, naturals are FUN to be around
and provide an interesting view of the world.
Primarily, naturals know how to clearly describe their goals and
dreams. Whenever given an opportunity, naturals will talk about
life in an exciting manner.
Since most women live boring unfulfilled lives, a natural can
provide an dramatic change of pace.
Next, naturals are able to avoid the negativity displayed by many
men. If you think about it, most people are constantly
complaining about how much life sucks.
Instead of simply complaining, a natural will express what he
doesn't like in way that isn't negative. Instead he finds a way
to put a positive spin on almost any scenario.
To illustrate, let's go over a few statements made by an AVERAGE
person and by a NATURAL:
Average :
1) "Those girls are so bitchy. I can't believe they treated me
like that! "
2) "This is the worst service I've ever had. Where the hell did
they hire this waitress? "
3) I'm so tired right now. I don't feel like doing anything
right now"
Natural :
1) "I didn't do my best in that set. Next time, I'm going to
display more energy and positive body language"
2) "Looks like we're not going to have the greatest service
tonight. But, at least I know the food is going to be awesome!"
3) "Who is tired? I'm ready to go!"
As you can see, these statements basically say the same thing.
However the WAY each type of guy says them has a direct link to
a specific emotion.
Naturals know that energy and enthusiasm is important in EVERY
interaction. If you can learn ONE thing from these guys, it
should be that you NEED to display a more fun and exiting
personality. If you show a woman a GREAT time, then she'll be
naturally drawn to you.
An one of the best ways to be more "natural" with women is
to understand how to display an attractive personality
You won't believe how easy it is to get ANY woman when you're
displaying them with a FUN, exciting attitude!
How to turn women 'ON'
"How can I have sex with this woman?"
This is a common question guys have when they're on a date with
a girl. They like her, think she's attractive and want to
find a way to "close the deal".
Unfortunately, most guys are CLUELESS about how to take things
to the next level.
If you're like a lot of men, then you're probably had problems in
the past with making that transition from a date to the bedroom.
And most women aren't NEVER seem to help you out!
But there's something that you probably never realized...
To have sex with a woman, you have to understand that it's a
PROCESS not a DESTINATION. In other words, if you're wondering
how to make a move 2-3 hours into the date, then you've
ALREADY failed!
The secret to moving from a date to sex is simple...
You establish physical contact at the start of the date and
build up this tension till you're having sex. In other words,
you have to know how to TOUCH her.
Establish a physical connection, is the BEST way to led things
towards a sexual encounter. But you have to do it the RIGHT
way!
So when I tell you to touch her, I DON'T mean you should act
like a sex-starved pervert who is constantly groping women.
Instead you should follow a natural progression which revolves
around her levels of comfort.
In essence you want to follow what I like to call:
The Touching Progression Model
The idea behind this technique is to make a woman feel
comfortable with your touch in order to increase the level of
sexual tension.
So if you want to become intimate with her, you should
initiate touching in a manner that starts with "safe touching"
and goes all the way to "sexual touching".
And as you progress up the "touching ladder", you'll constantly
observe her body language and see if she's comfortable with your
physical contact. To get started, here is a list of touching
which ranges from LOW RISK all the way to HIGH RISK:
--> Touching her arm (or vice versa)
--> Touching her leg (or vice versa)
--> Touching her medium risk areas (forearms, shoulders, knee,
or wrist)
--> Holding her hand
--> Putting your arms around her (or vice versa)
--> Having her sit on your lap
--> Touching her intimate areas like her face, chest, neck and
inner thighs
Now there is something important thing to remember about "The
Touching Progression Model". Your goal is to go from an initial
conversation to KISSING her.
If done correctly, you can use it easily transition into sex. So
you must take any with a woman interaction through these steps
and ensure that she's comfortable with each escalation point.
To really ramp up your touching, you should implement the "Two
steps forward, one step back" rule.
This means you should constantly advance your physical contact,
but also pull back before she's uncomfortable. Just remember to
be the first to break contact. If she doesn't like your arm
around you, then COMPLETELY break contact. What usually happens
is the girl enjoys your physical contact. When you end it on
YOUR terms, she'll try to find a way to get you to reinitiate
the touching.
Now the big question is this:
Should you touch her or should you get her to touch you?
Well the answer is pretty simple. ALWAYS make it seem like she's
the one who is initiating the physical contact. A way you can do
this is to take her hand and put it on YOUR arm.
By making it seem like she's the one to initiate contact, you'll
reduce her nervousness and let her know that she's in complete
control of the physical escalation.
Another thing to remember about physical escalation is keep you
have to keep it active. When you're touching her, you want to make
it lively not stale. For instance, if you're holding her hands,
then you could lightly run your fingers along her hands in
playful manner.
Initiating physical contact is the gateway between a conversation
and sex. If you want to be intimate with a woman, then you have
to know to make her turned on JUST from your touch.
If you follow the physical escalation model that I talked about,
then you'll discover it's easy to move things quickly towards
intimacy.
Remember touching a woman is the FIRST indicator of what
you'll be like in the bedroom. So make sure you're doing it
RIGHT!
This is a common question guys have when they're on a date with
a girl. They like her, think she's attractive and want to
find a way to "close the deal".
Unfortunately, most guys are CLUELESS about how to take things
to the next level.
If you're like a lot of men, then you're probably had problems in
the past with making that transition from a date to the bedroom.
And most women aren't NEVER seem to help you out!
But there's something that you probably never realized...
To have sex with a woman, you have to understand that it's a
PROCESS not a DESTINATION. In other words, if you're wondering
how to make a move 2-3 hours into the date, then you've
ALREADY failed!
The secret to moving from a date to sex is simple...
You establish physical contact at the start of the date and
build up this tension till you're having sex. In other words,
you have to know how to TOUCH her.
Establish a physical connection, is the BEST way to led things
towards a sexual encounter. But you have to do it the RIGHT
way!
So when I tell you to touch her, I DON'T mean you should act
like a sex-starved pervert who is constantly groping women.
Instead you should follow a natural progression which revolves
around her levels of comfort.
In essence you want to follow what I like to call:
The Touching Progression Model
The idea behind this technique is to make a woman feel
comfortable with your touch in order to increase the level of
sexual tension.
So if you want to become intimate with her, you should
initiate touching in a manner that starts with "safe touching"
and goes all the way to "sexual touching".
And as you progress up the "touching ladder", you'll constantly
observe her body language and see if she's comfortable with your
physical contact. To get started, here is a list of touching
which ranges from LOW RISK all the way to HIGH RISK:
--> Touching her arm (or vice versa)
--> Touching her leg (or vice versa)
--> Touching her medium risk areas (forearms, shoulders, knee,
or wrist)
--> Holding her hand
--> Putting your arms around her (or vice versa)
--> Having her sit on your lap
--> Touching her intimate areas like her face, chest, neck and
inner thighs
Now there is something important thing to remember about "The
Touching Progression Model". Your goal is to go from an initial
conversation to KISSING her.
If done correctly, you can use it easily transition into sex. So
you must take any with a woman interaction through these steps
and ensure that she's comfortable with each escalation point.
To really ramp up your touching, you should implement the "Two
steps forward, one step back" rule.
This means you should constantly advance your physical contact,
but also pull back before she's uncomfortable. Just remember to
be the first to break contact. If she doesn't like your arm
around you, then COMPLETELY break contact. What usually happens
is the girl enjoys your physical contact. When you end it on
YOUR terms, she'll try to find a way to get you to reinitiate
the touching.
Now the big question is this:
Should you touch her or should you get her to touch you?
Well the answer is pretty simple. ALWAYS make it seem like she's
the one who is initiating the physical contact. A way you can do
this is to take her hand and put it on YOUR arm.
By making it seem like she's the one to initiate contact, you'll
reduce her nervousness and let her know that she's in complete
control of the physical escalation.
Another thing to remember about physical escalation is keep you
have to keep it active. When you're touching her, you want to make
it lively not stale. For instance, if you're holding her hands,
then you could lightly run your fingers along her hands in
playful manner.
Initiating physical contact is the gateway between a conversation
and sex. If you want to be intimate with a woman, then you have
to know to make her turned on JUST from your touch.
If you follow the physical escalation model that I talked about,
then you'll discover it's easy to move things quickly towards
intimacy.
Remember touching a woman is the FIRST indicator of what
you'll be like in the bedroom. So make sure you're doing it
RIGHT!
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
FOUR most common problem of boys with women
Do You Have ANY of These 4 Problems with Women...
Everyday i recieve dozens of Emails,containing the same question.
So instead of sending out four different emails, let me cover
FOUR of the most common questions that I receive from readers
just like you.
Hopefully this will clear up any doubts that you might have
about your own unique situation...
Problem-1:-Do I have to be good looking to attract different women?
This is probably the most common question I get!
The fear of not being "good enough" is a feeling that a lot of
men have!
While they secretly hope to attract that 'hot thing' from across
the room, many guys feel like they're not good looking enough to
really make her interested.
Even though each guy has his own problem area, this fear is
a universal issue that has impacted the lives of countless men.
But each one has his own "sticking point" when it comes to
some aspect of his appearance. This can include feelings of
being:
* Too Old
* Too Fat
* Too Skinny
* Too Poor
* Too Ugly
Now let's be perfectly HONEST here...Good looks can HELP you
succeed with women. BUT, it is NOT the only factor that affects
a woman's level of attraction!
The psychology of women is a tricky thing. While you MIGHT
think they go for only good-looking guys, MOST are attracted
to the men who make them FEEL GOOD about themselves.
And this has NOTHING to do with looks!
So even if you're NOT happy with your appearance, there is STILL
a system which can help you attract different women.
Basically any excuse YOU HAVE about not being good looking is
just that - AN EXCUSE!
If you believe in yourself and pay attention to the resources I
provide, you'll develop the proper techniques to attract ANY
woman, regardless of your appearance!
Problem-2:- Isn't It More Natural to Wait Till True Love Finds Me?
Another question I Often receive is from men who feel fate will
decide when they'll meet the woman of their dreams.
Unfortunately fate will almost NEVER bring a great woman to you!
Here's a scenario that can help illustrate my point:
==
You're hanging out in a restaurent with your friends, having a
few drinks and some laughs.
Suddenly you look across the room and there she is...
THE WOMAN OF YOUR DREAMS!
Not only is she beautiful, but she also has a special quality
that you've never had before.
Perhaps this is even LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT!
Unfortunately, you're nervous and unsure of what to say.
In the best case scenario, you muster up a bit of courage, walk
over and use some lame pick-up line you heard from your buddies.
She then gets disgusted and turns her back on you, virtually
shutting you out from her world.
Now this is the best case scenario.
Another thing that could happen is you sit there thinking of
every smooth line you could possibly say to her. In fact,
you spend HOURS trying to figure out the best way to approach
her.
Before you get enough "liquid courage" to talk to her, another
guy walks up to her. He strikes up a conversation with her
and the two of them are suddenly best of friends.
Your hesitation and fear has ruined any chance of meeting this
amazing woman. Now some other Asshole is sitting there talking
to her.
==
Pretty crappy story, right?
The point was to illustrate how you might make up some excuse
about meeting someone when FATE allows it to happen.
But the truth is even if you're randomly put in a situation where
you could meet the woman of your dreams, you might clam up and not
know what to say.
By implementing the techniques I describe in this email list,
you'll be prepared to take action whenever you see a woman you
find interesting.
So while we all want to believe in fate and how it'll bring us
that perfect woman, the reality is this...
LIFE IS WHAT WE MAKE OF IT!
Fate won't bring you women. However, knowing what to and TAKING
ACTION will help you create your own destiny!
Problem-3:- Does this stuff teach me to manipulate women?
This is a really good question!
Now, I truly believe that the stuff I teach in my blogs and email
list FOCUSES on teaching men the importance of finding the inner
strength which lies within all of them.
It is NOT about using and abusing women.
But let me be honest here...
We live in a world where women are actively pursued by guys. As
a result, a lot of them have learned that men will do anything
to attract their attention.
The end result is many women have learned to turn dating into
a sport. Some understand how to manipulate men to get what they
want.
And when they tired of one particular guy, they will quickly ditch
him.
Now this shouldn't make you angry. Instead, it should OPEN your
eyes to the reality of the dating world.
Sure, MOST women are just like you. They're trying simply
trying to find the *right* guy. Unfortunately, since they
get hit on ALL the time by men, they've developed subtle, yet
effective tactics to WEED OUT the losers.
My goal is to help you avoid becoming THAT GUY!
What I'm trying to teach is how to build your confidence when
meeting women. That means you meet a girl on EQUAL grounds.
Instead of catering to her every desire, you'll learn how to
stand up for yourself and converse with her in a attractive
manner.
AND...in no way do I want you to become a jerk or learn how to
abuse women.
Instead it's my hope that you take what you learn and be confident
enough to approach women in ANY social situation.
But ultimately it all comes down to your own personal viewpoint
about women.
If you're the type of guy who harbors a hatred towards females,
then there is VERY LITTLE I can teach you.
The point I am trying to make is it's important to learn about
each woman you meet and find out what makes them great. Then you
can create an engaging conversation with her which could lead to a
more intimate encounter.
Problem-4:-How Do I Get Started?
Well hopefully by now you've had time to read through my free
blog- "Tips to impress Indian girls".
If you haven't, then you should start there!
In fact, it's really important to read through the whole thing.
After that, you can advance your education.
So I urge you to get out there and take massive action!
To your success with women,.
Everyday i recieve dozens of Emails,containing the same question.
So instead of sending out four different emails, let me cover
FOUR of the most common questions that I receive from readers
just like you.
Hopefully this will clear up any doubts that you might have
about your own unique situation...
Problem-1:-Do I have to be good looking to attract different women?
This is probably the most common question I get!
The fear of not being "good enough" is a feeling that a lot of
men have!
While they secretly hope to attract that 'hot thing' from across
the room, many guys feel like they're not good looking enough to
really make her interested.
Even though each guy has his own problem area, this fear is
a universal issue that has impacted the lives of countless men.
But each one has his own "sticking point" when it comes to
some aspect of his appearance. This can include feelings of
being:
* Too Old
* Too Fat
* Too Skinny
* Too Poor
* Too Ugly
Now let's be perfectly HONEST here...Good looks can HELP you
succeed with women. BUT, it is NOT the only factor that affects
a woman's level of attraction!
The psychology of women is a tricky thing. While you MIGHT
think they go for only good-looking guys, MOST are attracted
to the men who make them FEEL GOOD about themselves.
And this has NOTHING to do with looks!
So even if you're NOT happy with your appearance, there is STILL
a system which can help you attract different women.
Basically any excuse YOU HAVE about not being good looking is
just that - AN EXCUSE!
If you believe in yourself and pay attention to the resources I
provide, you'll develop the proper techniques to attract ANY
woman, regardless of your appearance!
Problem-2:- Isn't It More Natural to Wait Till True Love Finds Me?
Another question I Often receive is from men who feel fate will
decide when they'll meet the woman of their dreams.
Unfortunately fate will almost NEVER bring a great woman to you!
Here's a scenario that can help illustrate my point:
==
You're hanging out in a restaurent with your friends, having a
few drinks and some laughs.
Suddenly you look across the room and there she is...
THE WOMAN OF YOUR DREAMS!
Not only is she beautiful, but she also has a special quality
that you've never had before.
Perhaps this is even LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT!
Unfortunately, you're nervous and unsure of what to say.
In the best case scenario, you muster up a bit of courage, walk
over and use some lame pick-up line you heard from your buddies.
She then gets disgusted and turns her back on you, virtually
shutting you out from her world.
Now this is the best case scenario.
Another thing that could happen is you sit there thinking of
every smooth line you could possibly say to her. In fact,
you spend HOURS trying to figure out the best way to approach
her.
Before you get enough "liquid courage" to talk to her, another
guy walks up to her. He strikes up a conversation with her
and the two of them are suddenly best of friends.
Your hesitation and fear has ruined any chance of meeting this
amazing woman. Now some other Asshole is sitting there talking
to her.
==
Pretty crappy story, right?
The point was to illustrate how you might make up some excuse
about meeting someone when FATE allows it to happen.
But the truth is even if you're randomly put in a situation where
you could meet the woman of your dreams, you might clam up and not
know what to say.
By implementing the techniques I describe in this email list,
you'll be prepared to take action whenever you see a woman you
find interesting.
So while we all want to believe in fate and how it'll bring us
that perfect woman, the reality is this...
LIFE IS WHAT WE MAKE OF IT!
Fate won't bring you women. However, knowing what to and TAKING
ACTION will help you create your own destiny!
Problem-3:- Does this stuff teach me to manipulate women?
This is a really good question!
Now, I truly believe that the stuff I teach in my blogs and email
list FOCUSES on teaching men the importance of finding the inner
strength which lies within all of them.
It is NOT about using and abusing women.
But let me be honest here...
We live in a world where women are actively pursued by guys. As
a result, a lot of them have learned that men will do anything
to attract their attention.
The end result is many women have learned to turn dating into
a sport. Some understand how to manipulate men to get what they
want.
And when they tired of one particular guy, they will quickly ditch
him.
Now this shouldn't make you angry. Instead, it should OPEN your
eyes to the reality of the dating world.
Sure, MOST women are just like you. They're trying simply
trying to find the *right* guy. Unfortunately, since they
get hit on ALL the time by men, they've developed subtle, yet
effective tactics to WEED OUT the losers.
My goal is to help you avoid becoming THAT GUY!
What I'm trying to teach is how to build your confidence when
meeting women. That means you meet a girl on EQUAL grounds.
Instead of catering to her every desire, you'll learn how to
stand up for yourself and converse with her in a attractive
manner.
AND...in no way do I want you to become a jerk or learn how to
abuse women.
Instead it's my hope that you take what you learn and be confident
enough to approach women in ANY social situation.
But ultimately it all comes down to your own personal viewpoint
about women.
If you're the type of guy who harbors a hatred towards females,
then there is VERY LITTLE I can teach you.
The point I am trying to make is it's important to learn about
each woman you meet and find out what makes them great. Then you
can create an engaging conversation with her which could lead to a
more intimate encounter.
Problem-4:-How Do I Get Started?
Well hopefully by now you've had time to read through my free
blog- "Tips to impress Indian girls".
If you haven't, then you should start there!
In fact, it's really important to read through the whole thing.
After that, you can advance your education.
So I urge you to get out there and take massive action!
To your success with women,.
A little "MAN TO MAN" talk
When it comes to dating and women, you can do away with reason, particularly when it concerns flattery and praise.
Contrary to what most women will tell you, flattery does not always get the results that you expect.
A man constantly praising a woman he doesn't know, telling her she is stunning, sexy, exciting, clever, or just plain great will simply end up annoying her. His remarks will be regarded as flippant and her interest levels will drop dramatically.
Why?
Well, if you put yourself in the place of a beautiful woman, it is a bit easier to Lovely Woman understand.
Someone who is approached endlessly each day by any number of guys all saying how gorgeous she is without even knowing her, ultimately will end up believing the compliment to be insincere and the guy to be unoriginal or boring, or both.
Since you are neither of those, you need to take another approach.
Naturally women do love to hear that they are pretty or sexy, but gushing compliments in the beginning only cheapens your efforts at a relationship, as she will believe that you are solely interested in physical beauty and/or having sex with her.
Although this may be true initially, it is an immediate turn-off for women.
In addition, by frequently complimenting a woman, you will empower her and psychologically will give her a "hold" over you, allowing her to think that she can turn you away anytime she likes, and that you need her more than she needs you.
For two people to date and continue dating, they both need to feel that they are on an equal par, socially. In this respect, excessive compliments and praise from you detracts from your status and adds to hers resulting in an uneven standing for you both.
Now I don't want to imply that you not flatter a woman at all. Subtle compliments in the beginning - to get her attention - are very effective, as is the timing of such compliments.
Saying "I love what you've done with your hair" on the first date is much less likely to be believed as your date will consider it to be "a line".
However, the same compliment said two weeks later can be interpreted very differently as your date will think that you have taken note of her hair before she changed it, noticed that she changed it, and liked what she did after she changed it.
The result will be a genuine smile of appreciation, which will undoubtedly take you one step further in a relationship with her.
Much better, wouldn't you say, than her breathing a sigh, rolling her eyes, and turning you down?
The thing to think about when you hesitate in approaching a woman...
...is to compare between the risk and reward.
When you talk to a woman, either she likes you, or she doesn't. So, you technically have got 50% chance. So, you will have at least 1 in 2 probability of success.
Which is high!
If you instead do nothing, your chances are NIL.
So, go for it as you have got absolutely nothing to lose. What's the absolute worst thing that can happen?
Contrary to what most women will tell you, flattery does not always get the results that you expect.
A man constantly praising a woman he doesn't know, telling her she is stunning, sexy, exciting, clever, or just plain great will simply end up annoying her. His remarks will be regarded as flippant and her interest levels will drop dramatically.
Why?
Well, if you put yourself in the place of a beautiful woman, it is a bit easier to Lovely Woman understand.
Someone who is approached endlessly each day by any number of guys all saying how gorgeous she is without even knowing her, ultimately will end up believing the compliment to be insincere and the guy to be unoriginal or boring, or both.
Since you are neither of those, you need to take another approach.
Naturally women do love to hear that they are pretty or sexy, but gushing compliments in the beginning only cheapens your efforts at a relationship, as she will believe that you are solely interested in physical beauty and/or having sex with her.
Although this may be true initially, it is an immediate turn-off for women.
In addition, by frequently complimenting a woman, you will empower her and psychologically will give her a "hold" over you, allowing her to think that she can turn you away anytime she likes, and that you need her more than she needs you.
For two people to date and continue dating, they both need to feel that they are on an equal par, socially. In this respect, excessive compliments and praise from you detracts from your status and adds to hers resulting in an uneven standing for you both.
Now I don't want to imply that you not flatter a woman at all. Subtle compliments in the beginning - to get her attention - are very effective, as is the timing of such compliments.
Saying "I love what you've done with your hair" on the first date is much less likely to be believed as your date will consider it to be "a line".
However, the same compliment said two weeks later can be interpreted very differently as your date will think that you have taken note of her hair before she changed it, noticed that she changed it, and liked what she did after she changed it.
The result will be a genuine smile of appreciation, which will undoubtedly take you one step further in a relationship with her.
Much better, wouldn't you say, than her breathing a sigh, rolling her eyes, and turning you down?
The thing to think about when you hesitate in approaching a woman...
...is to compare between the risk and reward.
When you talk to a woman, either she likes you, or she doesn't. So, you technically have got 50% chance. So, you will have at least 1 in 2 probability of success.
Which is high!
If you instead do nothing, your chances are NIL.
So, go for it as you have got absolutely nothing to lose. What's the absolute worst thing that can happen?
Avoid such kind of girls
On Sunday night, I arrived back to the mumbai from my week
long trip to Agra and New Delhi. I was dog tired and
need of some sleep. So naturally I made the smart decision and
went out with a few friends to a local club.
After a few approaches, I got into a conversation with a girl
I'll call Priya. At first, I was interested in Priya. She was
a tall, willowy college girl from Mumbai. Definitely the kind
I like.
However after a few minutes, I quickly determined that she was
showing all the classic signs of what my friends and I call a
"Trainwreck".
What's a trainwreck? Well this is a girl who fills her life with
extremely poor life decisions. Typically this is someone who
only lives for the moment and thinks nothing about the outcomes
of her decisions.
Like the name describes, a trainwreck is an accident waiting to
happen. If you wait around long enough, things WILL come crashing
down around her.
You can usually spot a trainwreck by a number of qualities. For
instance, she'll:
~~> "Party" or go out to bars 4-5 times a week (Or get REALLY
drunk every time she goes out)
~~> Frequently use hard drugs like cocaine, speed, or Ecstasy
~~> Rarely talk about long-term plans or goals
~~> Need constant attention from many different guys
~~> Have an overall "crazy-eyed" look about her
Now the major problem with trainwrecks is they can be very
attractive. A girl like this can bring a lot of excitement to
your life. Unfortunately, she also provides a ton of chaos and
drama.
In the past, I used to be drawn to girls like Priya. Ones that
were beautiful, and promised that hint of excitement. But
during the last year, I've learned a VERY valuable lesson about
a trainwreck...
YOU CAN'T FIX THEM!
A trainwreck can be fun to be around. What's unfortunate is your
average guy will date a girl like this, expecting that she'll
magically change her self-destructive ways. And after weeks
(even months) of trying to fix her, his life will suffer.
Now if you're NOT looking for a girlfriend or anything
permanent, then you probably date a trainwreck without TOO
much drama.
However, it's important to keep things in perspective. Remember
that she's basically looking for a good time and isn't in the
market for a serious relationship. Furthermore, she's probably
hanging around a LOT of other guys. So don't make the mistake
of thinking of she's "the one." Have fun with her, but don't
lose perspective.
On the other hand, let's say you're a guy who only wants quality
women. IF you encounter a trainwreck, I have a simple piece of
advice...
RUN!
Don't make the mistake of getting involved with a girl like this.
Sure she might be good-looking OR be a nice girl deep down OR
promise that hint of excitement. If you have your shit
together then a girl like this will only bring unnecessary drama
into your life.
To have true success with women, you want to surround yourself
with women who can bring more to the table than just their looks.
They should have qualities that can stimulate you on a number of
levels. And part of having standards means you won't accept ANY
behavior that damages your life.
So when you find yourself in a conversation with a trainwreck,
the best thing to do is to quickly excuse yourself. As they say,
there are plenty of fish in the sea. In the long run, you'll be
much happier if you only interact with women who bring positive
things into YOUR life.
long trip to Agra and New Delhi. I was dog tired and
need of some sleep. So naturally I made the smart decision and
went out with a few friends to a local club.
After a few approaches, I got into a conversation with a girl
I'll call Priya. At first, I was interested in Priya. She was
a tall, willowy college girl from Mumbai. Definitely the kind
I like.
However after a few minutes, I quickly determined that she was
showing all the classic signs of what my friends and I call a
"Trainwreck".
What's a trainwreck? Well this is a girl who fills her life with
extremely poor life decisions. Typically this is someone who
only lives for the moment and thinks nothing about the outcomes
of her decisions.
Like the name describes, a trainwreck is an accident waiting to
happen. If you wait around long enough, things WILL come crashing
down around her.
You can usually spot a trainwreck by a number of qualities. For
instance, she'll:
~~> "Party" or go out to bars 4-5 times a week (Or get REALLY
drunk every time she goes out)
~~> Frequently use hard drugs like cocaine, speed, or Ecstasy
~~> Rarely talk about long-term plans or goals
~~> Need constant attention from many different guys
~~> Have an overall "crazy-eyed" look about her
Now the major problem with trainwrecks is they can be very
attractive. A girl like this can bring a lot of excitement to
your life. Unfortunately, she also provides a ton of chaos and
drama.
In the past, I used to be drawn to girls like Priya. Ones that
were beautiful, and promised that hint of excitement. But
during the last year, I've learned a VERY valuable lesson about
a trainwreck...
YOU CAN'T FIX THEM!
A trainwreck can be fun to be around. What's unfortunate is your
average guy will date a girl like this, expecting that she'll
magically change her self-destructive ways. And after weeks
(even months) of trying to fix her, his life will suffer.
Now if you're NOT looking for a girlfriend or anything
permanent, then you probably date a trainwreck without TOO
much drama.
However, it's important to keep things in perspective. Remember
that she's basically looking for a good time and isn't in the
market for a serious relationship. Furthermore, she's probably
hanging around a LOT of other guys. So don't make the mistake
of thinking of she's "the one." Have fun with her, but don't
lose perspective.
On the other hand, let's say you're a guy who only wants quality
women. IF you encounter a trainwreck, I have a simple piece of
advice...
RUN!
Don't make the mistake of getting involved with a girl like this.
Sure she might be good-looking OR be a nice girl deep down OR
promise that hint of excitement. If you have your shit
together then a girl like this will only bring unnecessary drama
into your life.
To have true success with women, you want to surround yourself
with women who can bring more to the table than just their looks.
They should have qualities that can stimulate you on a number of
levels. And part of having standards means you won't accept ANY
behavior that damages your life.
So when you find yourself in a conversation with a trainwreck,
the best thing to do is to quickly excuse yourself. As they say,
there are plenty of fish in the sea. In the long run, you'll be
much happier if you only interact with women who bring positive
things into YOUR life.
Monday, October 19, 2009
8 Topics to use on your next date
8 Incredible Conversation Topics You Can Use on Your Dates
Being out of topics is actually a
pretty common thing that happens to a lot of guys. You go on a
few dates and then it seems like there is nothing more you can
really talk about.
But what you probably don't realize is there are a LOT of
different conversation topics you can cover. The trick is to
ONLY focus on the ones that'll increase the level of sexual
tension.
So in other words, NEVER talk about things that are boring
OR focus on NEGATIVITY. The goal of first couple of dates is
to make that physical/emotional connection.
It's NOT about talking a girl's ear off with things that
doesn't want to hear.
So never-
- Say anything negative about the people around you
- Be rude or talk in an arrogant manner
- Talk at length about past relationships which have failed
- Focus on boring "interview topics" like jobs or schooling
Now that you know which topics to avoid, let's move on...
What you need to do here is create an atmosphere on this date
which will increase the chemistry. The best way to do this is
by talking about specific topics that she'll find interesting.
And here are 8 different ways to do this:
1. Tell Great Stories
Learn how to tell 3-4 interesting stories that can be interjected
into your conversation. These stories should portray you in an
interesting and exciting manner while being funny at the same
time! What I suggest is you sit down and craft a few stories
from your life.
Then practice these stories till you know them cold!
2. Focus on emotion
There are numerous topics which women love to discuss.
Generally, these are the focus on basic human emotions (i.e.:
drama, conflict and romance)
You can easily connect to the emotional side of her brain by
discussing *charged* topics that include any of these topics.
3. Personality tests and other games
The best way to be attractive towards women is to demonstrate
higher value. Commonly this is done by demonstrating a skill
or ability that most guys DON'T have.
So if you have the time, I would urge you to read up on "cold
reading" techniques.
You can use these techniques to describe a woman's personality
from limited knowledge you have of her. Even though you've
been on a few dates, learning how to "cold read" is a quick way
to build interest and attraction.
4. Talk about celebrities
People (especially women) LOVE to talk about celebrities. So all
you have to do pay attention to the different headlines in the
tabloids. Then start talking about the shocking exploits of
society's elite.
Trust me, there is ALWAYS something going on in bollywood which
can provide you with a great conversation piece.
5. Create an our world conspiracy
While I think it's important to be a positive person,
you can still have fun gossiping about the people around you.
If you're stuck with stuff to talk about, you can resort to
people watching and commenting about the groups situated around
you.
Doing this create an "our world" mentality where you're having
fun playing guessing games about other folks.
For instance you can watch other couples on the date and
determine if they're going to make it.
Another example is to spot a big group of people, you can play a
game and try to figure out who is the "Alpha Male/Female".
6. Talk about your dreams and aspirations
A great topic of conversation is talking about the different
things you want to achieve in your lifetimes.
When you talk about things like this, you're making a connection
to a positive emotion. As a result, you'll discover it's easy to
piggyback on these emotions and build attraction
7. Use past topics
During past dates with other women, you've probably had
incredible conversations around specific topics.
The truth is these conversations worked for a reason...
They were INTERESTING!
Since you've recently started to date this woman, you've probably
haven't talked about a lot of things. So you can easily use
conversation topics which you have worked on other women.
8. Keep up with current events
Topics of conversation are happening in the world right NOW!
Since the planet is a big place, you can easily find interesting
topics to discuss! All you have to do is listen to the news each
day and you'll have plenty to talk about.
Just remember to stay away from polarizing topics like war,
religion or politics.
Well as you can see, there are lots of things you can discuss on
your date. If you take the time to do a little preparing, you'll
discover that it's actually quite simple create an engaging
conversation which will quickly build attraction.
Being out of topics is actually a
pretty common thing that happens to a lot of guys. You go on a
few dates and then it seems like there is nothing more you can
really talk about.
But what you probably don't realize is there are a LOT of
different conversation topics you can cover. The trick is to
ONLY focus on the ones that'll increase the level of sexual
tension.
So in other words, NEVER talk about things that are boring
OR focus on NEGATIVITY. The goal of first couple of dates is
to make that physical/emotional connection.
It's NOT about talking a girl's ear off with things that
doesn't want to hear.
So never-
- Say anything negative about the people around you
- Be rude or talk in an arrogant manner
- Talk at length about past relationships which have failed
- Focus on boring "interview topics" like jobs or schooling
Now that you know which topics to avoid, let's move on...
What you need to do here is create an atmosphere on this date
which will increase the chemistry. The best way to do this is
by talking about specific topics that she'll find interesting.
And here are 8 different ways to do this:
1. Tell Great Stories
Learn how to tell 3-4 interesting stories that can be interjected
into your conversation. These stories should portray you in an
interesting and exciting manner while being funny at the same
time! What I suggest is you sit down and craft a few stories
from your life.
Then practice these stories till you know them cold!
2. Focus on emotion
There are numerous topics which women love to discuss.
Generally, these are the focus on basic human emotions (i.e.:
drama, conflict and romance)
You can easily connect to the emotional side of her brain by
discussing *charged* topics that include any of these topics.
3. Personality tests and other games
The best way to be attractive towards women is to demonstrate
higher value. Commonly this is done by demonstrating a skill
or ability that most guys DON'T have.
So if you have the time, I would urge you to read up on "cold
reading" techniques.
You can use these techniques to describe a woman's personality
from limited knowledge you have of her. Even though you've
been on a few dates, learning how to "cold read" is a quick way
to build interest and attraction.
4. Talk about celebrities
People (especially women) LOVE to talk about celebrities. So all
you have to do pay attention to the different headlines in the
tabloids. Then start talking about the shocking exploits of
society's elite.
Trust me, there is ALWAYS something going on in bollywood which
can provide you with a great conversation piece.
5. Create an our world conspiracy
While I think it's important to be a positive person,
you can still have fun gossiping about the people around you.
If you're stuck with stuff to talk about, you can resort to
people watching and commenting about the groups situated around
you.
Doing this create an "our world" mentality where you're having
fun playing guessing games about other folks.
For instance you can watch other couples on the date and
determine if they're going to make it.
Another example is to spot a big group of people, you can play a
game and try to figure out who is the "Alpha Male/Female".
6. Talk about your dreams and aspirations
A great topic of conversation is talking about the different
things you want to achieve in your lifetimes.
When you talk about things like this, you're making a connection
to a positive emotion. As a result, you'll discover it's easy to
piggyback on these emotions and build attraction
7. Use past topics
During past dates with other women, you've probably had
incredible conversations around specific topics.
The truth is these conversations worked for a reason...
They were INTERESTING!
Since you've recently started to date this woman, you've probably
haven't talked about a lot of things. So you can easily use
conversation topics which you have worked on other women.
8. Keep up with current events
Topics of conversation are happening in the world right NOW!
Since the planet is a big place, you can easily find interesting
topics to discuss! All you have to do is listen to the news each
day and you'll have plenty to talk about.
Just remember to stay away from polarizing topics like war,
religion or politics.
Well as you can see, there are lots of things you can discuss on
your date. If you take the time to do a little preparing, you'll
discover that it's actually quite simple create an engaging
conversation which will quickly build attraction.
How to Impress older women
Question from a reader:-
Am a regular reader of your blog and am really got a huge help from your blogs in my love life.But I really want to tell you a storywhich happened
Last Friday I went out with some buddies and the whole place was bursting with hot female models. My first thought was 'bring it on', as I thought of the many possibilities of being in a room full of tens.
Me and the rest of the guys went our separate ways to cover more ground, and I managed to get at least two phone numbers. Things were really going well, and it was crazy, but something weird happened.
One of the women I approached asked about my age and I said 20. She's 25. After that conversation about age, she started talking to me in an extremely polite manner, which was a far cry from the way she was talking to me before we got around to talking about age.
She was flirting like hell until that point. What gives?
I don't know exactly if it's her body language, or the tone of her voice, but I got the vibe that she was very civil with me.
Worst of all, I got the feeling that she's 'sitting it out' until I got tired of talking to her so she can finally talk to other people. It seemed as if she tolerated my convo because she’s a nice girl who couldn’t diss a guy rudely.
I picked up on her sudden change of mood and with the proverbial tail between my legs, went back to the buddies. It wasn’t a bad thing, I suppose, because there were many more women in the vicinity, but still, it seemed strange.
Now on to my main question:
In general how can a guy get around the age-related bias and make a girl think you’re fun, adventurous and worldly? To phrase it more succinctly, how can a guy make a woman switch off the “you’re too young for me” mindset?
I like dating older women, and my experience with girls a few years older than me has been great so far, but this was the first time I’ve encountered a girl who made me feel like age should be an issue.
If I meet a girl who thinks like this again, should I just lie and say I’m older than my actual age?
SOLUTION of the problem
Getting judged because of your age or age group is a nightmare, I can tell you from experience.
Most of the time, women dig you and banter with you comfortably until they start guessing your age (or you tell them yourself).
To illustrate this dilemma, imagine a young guy who can open conversations with women like a dream.
He can start a sexually-charged discourse with any woman and get her lusting for him. Think eye-to-eye contact, visible heart bubbles over her head… she’s quite ready to give in anytime, until he opens his mouth and tells her his real age...
...and BOOM!
Her hot loins freeze over, her heart turns black, her flirty glances turn serious, and she looks at you like she just saw you.
As you talk to her, she puts on a quizzical look and asks the question that’s burning in her brain right at that moment… “How old are you?”
Talk about getting hit where it hurts most. Believe me, I’ve felt this same feeling many times in the past whenever a girl busts my ego by telling me I’m too young, not old enough, or too adolescent for her to date.
From that moment on, you can expect her to say something like “Um… yeah… well, I don’t date guys your age”, “you’re cute like my little brother”, “you remind me of my eldest son”, or “I really don’t date younger guys”.
Now, what’s a guy to do if faced with this scenario? Do you just sit there and take it? Do not wait for your ego to return to its normal size.
Instead, do something to bounce the criticism back at her so she will know never to judge a virile guy by his age alone in the future (and of course, to turn the situation around to your benefit).
Although most mails I receive regarding the age issue come from women complaining how this or that guy is way older, this questions really made me smile because I got to go back to the way I was treated by older women in the past as soon as they learned how much younger I was compared to their age.
Women then always made me feel inferior by acting haughty about their experience. For some reason age equates experience to most women, and when they find out you’re way younger, they would automatically assume you don’t have what it takes for them to date.
No woman wants to babysit, I can tell you that much. But sometimes, there are women who simply dislike dating younger men, just because. No reason given, and no apologies issued. This tendency to get busted like this for being ‘too young’ is painful at the very least.
Now that I’m older, I’ve had to deal with this from the other end of the spectrum. Suddenly, some girls are thinking I’m too old for them to date!
It’s funny how things turn out, but the best part of being a part of this whole age shenanigan is getting to know some methods to make her think of you differently regardless of her age-bias and regardless of your age.
I’m going to show you how to turn the situation around … and make her feel attracted instead of turned off in as little as 30 seconds.
Here’s how you start to turn it around...
How to handle 'tricky' situations regarding age...
Don’t get me wrong, I personally like older women, and I think the maturity they have is attractive.
But if push comes to shove and a woman tries to make me feel inferior to her because of my age, I won’t hesitate to flip things around to get her turned on.
Albeit, that’s not the way our culture is set up. For females, their age and looks are fused together. You can tease a girl about her age when she starts giving you the snotty about how young you are.
Do it like the cosmetics marketers do… push her age-looks pain button and it won’t matter if she’s just a year older than you. She will undoubtedly feel the sting of your flippant remarks, and start reacting.
When she goes on her ‘reactive phase’, you know what that means right? You can push some more buttons to immediately generate attraction and get her coming home with you.
If she notices that the age comment affected you in any way, she will think she’s the prize and you should prove yourself to her before she flirts with you again.
Instead of falling for it, do this: throw a neg about her age and see her whole confidence crumble. Tease her lightly with words that clearly say you think her regard for your age is foolish. Here’s an example:
Her: “You’re way too young for me. Come back when you’re older”
Me: “You’re absolutely right. You’re way older than me. You’re past your prime in ‘girly years’. “
If she asks about that remark or if she looks shocked, educate her further by saying, “a girl’s age peaks at 18. That’s when her modeling career takes off. If she’s lucky, it stays good until she’s 25. You at 25 is basically a senior citizen amongst hot women.”
Are you catching my drift? :)
She will probably laugh in recognition of a rebuke, and that’s when you can really get her.
This tactic works like gangbusters, and here's why...
First of all, she sees you in a new light. You’re the impertinent man of the world who dared challenge her ego so you must be something else.
Another thing, even if you told her she’s way old in your eyes, you still gave her a compliment somehow (by pitting her against hot young girls aged 18-25)… but still, you made her uneasy and she feels provoked.
When you get her in this state, you have her where you want her. You will have her thinking of ways to prove herself to you.
The combination of indignant reaction, heightened senses, emotional discomfort and fuming gives rise to an emotion women interpret as ‘attraction.’ Believe it!
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Am a regular reader of your blog and am really got a huge help from your blogs in my love life.But I really want to tell you a storywhich happened
Last Friday I went out with some buddies and the whole place was bursting with hot female models. My first thought was 'bring it on', as I thought of the many possibilities of being in a room full of tens.
Me and the rest of the guys went our separate ways to cover more ground, and I managed to get at least two phone numbers. Things were really going well, and it was crazy, but something weird happened.
One of the women I approached asked about my age and I said 20. She's 25. After that conversation about age, she started talking to me in an extremely polite manner, which was a far cry from the way she was talking to me before we got around to talking about age.
She was flirting like hell until that point. What gives?
I don't know exactly if it's her body language, or the tone of her voice, but I got the vibe that she was very civil with me.
Worst of all, I got the feeling that she's 'sitting it out' until I got tired of talking to her so she can finally talk to other people. It seemed as if she tolerated my convo because she’s a nice girl who couldn’t diss a guy rudely.
I picked up on her sudden change of mood and with the proverbial tail between my legs, went back to the buddies. It wasn’t a bad thing, I suppose, because there were many more women in the vicinity, but still, it seemed strange.
Now on to my main question:
In general how can a guy get around the age-related bias and make a girl think you’re fun, adventurous and worldly? To phrase it more succinctly, how can a guy make a woman switch off the “you’re too young for me” mindset?
I like dating older women, and my experience with girls a few years older than me has been great so far, but this was the first time I’ve encountered a girl who made me feel like age should be an issue.
If I meet a girl who thinks like this again, should I just lie and say I’m older than my actual age?
SOLUTION of the problem
Getting judged because of your age or age group is a nightmare, I can tell you from experience.
Most of the time, women dig you and banter with you comfortably until they start guessing your age (or you tell them yourself).
To illustrate this dilemma, imagine a young guy who can open conversations with women like a dream.
He can start a sexually-charged discourse with any woman and get her lusting for him. Think eye-to-eye contact, visible heart bubbles over her head… she’s quite ready to give in anytime, until he opens his mouth and tells her his real age...
...and BOOM!
Her hot loins freeze over, her heart turns black, her flirty glances turn serious, and she looks at you like she just saw you.
As you talk to her, she puts on a quizzical look and asks the question that’s burning in her brain right at that moment… “How old are you?”
Talk about getting hit where it hurts most. Believe me, I’ve felt this same feeling many times in the past whenever a girl busts my ego by telling me I’m too young, not old enough, or too adolescent for her to date.
From that moment on, you can expect her to say something like “Um… yeah… well, I don’t date guys your age”, “you’re cute like my little brother”, “you remind me of my eldest son”, or “I really don’t date younger guys”.
Now, what’s a guy to do if faced with this scenario? Do you just sit there and take it? Do not wait for your ego to return to its normal size.
Instead, do something to bounce the criticism back at her so she will know never to judge a virile guy by his age alone in the future (and of course, to turn the situation around to your benefit).
Although most mails I receive regarding the age issue come from women complaining how this or that guy is way older, this questions really made me smile because I got to go back to the way I was treated by older women in the past as soon as they learned how much younger I was compared to their age.
Women then always made me feel inferior by acting haughty about their experience. For some reason age equates experience to most women, and when they find out you’re way younger, they would automatically assume you don’t have what it takes for them to date.
No woman wants to babysit, I can tell you that much. But sometimes, there are women who simply dislike dating younger men, just because. No reason given, and no apologies issued. This tendency to get busted like this for being ‘too young’ is painful at the very least.
Now that I’m older, I’ve had to deal with this from the other end of the spectrum. Suddenly, some girls are thinking I’m too old for them to date!
It’s funny how things turn out, but the best part of being a part of this whole age shenanigan is getting to know some methods to make her think of you differently regardless of her age-bias and regardless of your age.
I’m going to show you how to turn the situation around … and make her feel attracted instead of turned off in as little as 30 seconds.
Here’s how you start to turn it around...
How to handle 'tricky' situations regarding age...
Don’t get me wrong, I personally like older women, and I think the maturity they have is attractive.
But if push comes to shove and a woman tries to make me feel inferior to her because of my age, I won’t hesitate to flip things around to get her turned on.
Albeit, that’s not the way our culture is set up. For females, their age and looks are fused together. You can tease a girl about her age when she starts giving you the snotty about how young you are.
Do it like the cosmetics marketers do… push her age-looks pain button and it won’t matter if she’s just a year older than you. She will undoubtedly feel the sting of your flippant remarks, and start reacting.
When she goes on her ‘reactive phase’, you know what that means right? You can push some more buttons to immediately generate attraction and get her coming home with you.
If she notices that the age comment affected you in any way, she will think she’s the prize and you should prove yourself to her before she flirts with you again.
Instead of falling for it, do this: throw a neg about her age and see her whole confidence crumble. Tease her lightly with words that clearly say you think her regard for your age is foolish. Here’s an example:
Her: “You’re way too young for me. Come back when you’re older”
Me: “You’re absolutely right. You’re way older than me. You’re past your prime in ‘girly years’. “
If she asks about that remark or if she looks shocked, educate her further by saying, “a girl’s age peaks at 18. That’s when her modeling career takes off. If she’s lucky, it stays good until she’s 25. You at 25 is basically a senior citizen amongst hot women.”
Are you catching my drift? :)
She will probably laugh in recognition of a rebuke, and that’s when you can really get her.
This tactic works like gangbusters, and here's why...
First of all, she sees you in a new light. You’re the impertinent man of the world who dared challenge her ego so you must be something else.
Another thing, even if you told her she’s way old in your eyes, you still gave her a compliment somehow (by pitting her against hot young girls aged 18-25)… but still, you made her uneasy and she feels provoked.
When you get her in this state, you have her where you want her. You will have her thinking of ways to prove herself to you.
The combination of indignant reaction, heightened senses, emotional discomfort and fuming gives rise to an emotion women interpret as ‘attraction.’ Believe it!
----------------------------------
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Saturday, September 26, 2009
My secret of sending SMS to women.
I'm Going To Show You Exact Flirty Text Messages, How To Create
Attraction, Get A Date, Turn Her On To Where She Is Dying To Meet
You And More... All Through Text Messaging...
Normally I don't reveal personal details about my life. But
I thought you might appreciate this...
A few weeks back, I was chilling with my buddies before going
out to a local bar.
And like guys do, we get to talking about our favorite
subject- WOMEN.
Each of us mentioned the different girls we're dating and I
felt a childish need to top them (Hey, I'm only human)
So I pulled out my cell phone and showed a few
pics I received from this one girl through text messaging.
(For the sake of privacy, we'll call her 'abc')
And of course, my friends wanted to know more about abc.
What really shocked them was when I told my friends that I
never met OR had a phone conversation with this girl.
In fact, the only contact I had with her was one orkut
message and a dozen text messages.
Naturally my friends wondered how I could get a girl to send
pictures of herself when she never met me!
What's even better is I met up with abc about a week after
this conversation.
I didn't really plan out an activity. In fact, I happened to
be in the area with my buddy Rahul and was actually pretty
drunk.
but I knew she lived nearby so I sent her a quick sms
and asked if she wanted to join us.
And even though I was retardedly drunk, and had zero game, it
took only about an hour of in-person conversation to get
her into bed!
Let me say that again...
I had sex with abc after only 1 hour of conversation.
Now I'm telling because I want to brag. In fact, I work really
hard to NOT discuss my personal life with people.
But I think there's a really important lesson to be learned
here...
SMSING should be a major tool to use when you're
meeting women.
Unless you've lived in a cave for the last couple of years,
you're probably familiar with SMSs.
They're widely used because they're incredably useful for
when you just want to ask a quick question or send a
brief message.
What's interesting is women love SMSing!
If you've watch women, you'll notice how much many
SMSs they send. In fact, I think this form of technology
is rapidly replacing phone conversations.
So when you SMS a girl the RIGHT way, you can
quickly build enough attraction that you won't have to do
much in-person game when you see her next.
but there's one major problem here...
Most of the guys I know totally screw-up their SMSs.
They SMS the way we men typically have conversations. When
talking to one another, we like to think logically and make
plans. This means are SMSs are usually straight to the point.
Women on the other hand, view SMSing as a way to get to
know one another. They use it to describe their problems and
stay in touch with people in their lives.
It's important to remember this rule when SMSing!
The way I use text messaging is to build sexual tension.
Before each SMS I send, I think carefully about how
this message will advance the interaction I'm having with
a particular girl.
Whether I'm teasing her, sending "comfort" messages or making
plans, my SMSs are specifically designed to create a strong
emotion in the girl who is receiving them!
And from the above example, you can see that there is
a TON of power behind sending a well-written SMS.
With that being said, I'm actually really surprised at the
lack of information about sending text messages to women.
While I know many guys use them, not much has been written on
the subject! So for the last 5 months, I've had to create
my own system for SMSing.
And the results were INCREDIBLE!
For instance, I tested his techniques on a "dead number".
(A girlwho I called a few times, but could never get on
the phone).
After sending her a few SMSs, I was able to create a
ton of sexual tension. And tonight I'm going to meet
her for a coffee.
From the enthusiastic responses she's sent over SMSing,
I'm pretty sure I'm about to have a very
enjoyable evening.
CIA.................
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Attraction, Get A Date, Turn Her On To Where She Is Dying To Meet
You And More... All Through Text Messaging...
Normally I don't reveal personal details about my life. But
I thought you might appreciate this...
A few weeks back, I was chilling with my buddies before going
out to a local bar.
And like guys do, we get to talking about our favorite
subject- WOMEN.
Each of us mentioned the different girls we're dating and I
felt a childish need to top them (Hey, I'm only human)
So I pulled out my cell phone and showed a few
pics I received from this one girl through text messaging.
(For the sake of privacy, we'll call her 'abc')
And of course, my friends wanted to know more about abc.
What really shocked them was when I told my friends that I
never met OR had a phone conversation with this girl.
In fact, the only contact I had with her was one orkut
message and a dozen text messages.
Naturally my friends wondered how I could get a girl to send
pictures of herself when she never met me!
What's even better is I met up with abc about a week after
this conversation.
I didn't really plan out an activity. In fact, I happened to
be in the area with my buddy Rahul and was actually pretty
drunk.
but I knew she lived nearby so I sent her a quick sms
and asked if she wanted to join us.
And even though I was retardedly drunk, and had zero game, it
took only about an hour of in-person conversation to get
her into bed!
Let me say that again...
I had sex with abc after only 1 hour of conversation.
Now I'm telling because I want to brag. In fact, I work really
hard to NOT discuss my personal life with people.
But I think there's a really important lesson to be learned
here...
SMSING should be a major tool to use when you're
meeting women.
Unless you've lived in a cave for the last couple of years,
you're probably familiar with SMSs.
They're widely used because they're incredably useful for
when you just want to ask a quick question or send a
brief message.
What's interesting is women love SMSing!
If you've watch women, you'll notice how much many
SMSs they send. In fact, I think this form of technology
is rapidly replacing phone conversations.
So when you SMS a girl the RIGHT way, you can
quickly build enough attraction that you won't have to do
much in-person game when you see her next.
but there's one major problem here...
Most of the guys I know totally screw-up their SMSs.
They SMS the way we men typically have conversations. When
talking to one another, we like to think logically and make
plans. This means are SMSs are usually straight to the point.
Women on the other hand, view SMSing as a way to get to
know one another. They use it to describe their problems and
stay in touch with people in their lives.
It's important to remember this rule when SMSing!
The way I use text messaging is to build sexual tension.
Before each SMS I send, I think carefully about how
this message will advance the interaction I'm having with
a particular girl.
Whether I'm teasing her, sending "comfort" messages or making
plans, my SMSs are specifically designed to create a strong
emotion in the girl who is receiving them!
And from the above example, you can see that there is
a TON of power behind sending a well-written SMS.
With that being said, I'm actually really surprised at the
lack of information about sending text messages to women.
While I know many guys use them, not much has been written on
the subject! So for the last 5 months, I've had to create
my own system for SMSing.
And the results were INCREDIBLE!
For instance, I tested his techniques on a "dead number".
(A girlwho I called a few times, but could never get on
the phone).
After sending her a few SMSs, I was able to create a
ton of sexual tension. And tonight I'm going to meet
her for a coffee.
From the enthusiastic responses she's sent over SMSing,
I'm pretty sure I'm about to have a very
enjoyable evening.
CIA.................
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Dont be a shy guy
One of the hardest emotions for a man
to deal with isn't anger, sadness, or
depression. It's SHYNESS.
Shyness is the gateway to all the negative
emotions I just listed, because shyness is
the one thing that actually works to umpede
us from achieving what we desire.
When a man gives into his shyness, he doesn't
talk to the women he likes. He doesn't take
a chance on making a new friend. He doesn't
do ANYTHING. He just sits by himself,
wallowing in self-pity and fear.
And before he knows it, his feelings of
loneliness and inadequacy become overwhelming,
and he becomes depressed.
All because he is shy.
So why does this happen? Why are some men so
prone to give into their shyness?
First, realize that shyness is a behavior that
stems from what MIGHT happen.
Let's say you see a girl you like, and want to
talk to. But before you can, all sorts of
scenarios flash through your mind...
You can see her rejecting you.
You can see her laughing at you.
You can see yourself being upset after saying
the wrong thing to her.
As I said - ANY NUMBER of possibilities exist.
And even if we're aware of it or not, these
possibilities run through our minds when we
feel the need to take action regarding a girl.
And our SHYNESS is a defense mechanism to try
and PROTECT ourselves from experiencing those
bad outcomes!
But the problem is that if we don't risk the
bad outcomes, we'll never get any GOOD outcomes
either!
At it's core, shyness is the fear of being
judged harshly. Someone who's shy doesn't
want to be subjected to the opinions of others,
typically because:
1. They believe those opinions will always be
negative
and
2. They do not have a strong sense of self esteem,
and feel vulnerable.
And it's even worse when dealing with a beautiful
girl because there's the element of "sexual validation"
at play. If a beautiful girl rejects us, not only is
it a harsh judgment, but we must also be UGLY too,
right?
And to make matters worse, shyness in men is
far more crippling than shyness in women.
A shy woman will still have men approaching and
pursuing her. However, because of the dynamics
of the dating game, shy men will rarely, if EVER,
be pursued by a woman - even if the woman LIKES him
and is attracted to him!
Shy guys often fantasize about having a woman
come up to them and ask them out. But this is
just a way to rationalize their shyness. In
their mind, they're hoping to be the one that
is pursued because then they don't have to risk
anything by being the pursuer.
However, this is never the case. 99% of women
wait for the men to come after THEM.
Essentially, you have shy guys isolating
themselves from success in love, not only
due to their inability to act, but also
due to their contentness to continue being
shy.
So what's the solution?
The only way to break through shyness is to adopt
different behaviors and thought patterns that
promote a better outcome.
One must learn to gain confidence in himself, so
that he is not vulnerable to the judgment of
others for his self esteem.
One must learn to take action when necessary, and
seize opportunities as they present themselves.
One must learn to see the positive outcomes as well
as the negative ones, and choose to strive for the
positive.
See - I used to be a "shy guy."
My efforts to meet and date the kind of women I
wanted were constantly being hindered by my shyness.
And you know what? IT SUCKED.
I was lonely, angry, and bitter because of my shyness.
But once I overcame it, a whole new world opened
up for me. I was able to meet the women I wanted.
I was getting lots of dates. I had wonderful women
in my life.
And THAT, my friend, is success!
So how can you do what I did?
Well, for starters, I would recommend you check
out my Renegade Rapport home study course.
Rapport is all about learning how to connect to
people, and when you connect to someone, you feel
comfortable around them.
Too often, the anxiety shy guys experience around
women keeps them from succeeding. But learning
good, solid rapport skills will help you to relax
around the women you like.
More so than that - it will help you create attraction
in them that will make your job much easier!
Check out my Renegade Rapport course here:
Check Out Renegade Rapport Here!
It's a long process to overcome your shyness, but
it's well-worth the effort, because in the end,
when you overcome your shyness and find the woman
of your dreams, you'll be happier than you ever
thought possible.
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to deal with isn't anger, sadness, or
depression. It's SHYNESS.
Shyness is the gateway to all the negative
emotions I just listed, because shyness is
the one thing that actually works to umpede
us from achieving what we desire.
When a man gives into his shyness, he doesn't
talk to the women he likes. He doesn't take
a chance on making a new friend. He doesn't
do ANYTHING. He just sits by himself,
wallowing in self-pity and fear.
And before he knows it, his feelings of
loneliness and inadequacy become overwhelming,
and he becomes depressed.
All because he is shy.
So why does this happen? Why are some men so
prone to give into their shyness?
First, realize that shyness is a behavior that
stems from what MIGHT happen.
Let's say you see a girl you like, and want to
talk to. But before you can, all sorts of
scenarios flash through your mind...
You can see her rejecting you.
You can see her laughing at you.
You can see yourself being upset after saying
the wrong thing to her.
As I said - ANY NUMBER of possibilities exist.
And even if we're aware of it or not, these
possibilities run through our minds when we
feel the need to take action regarding a girl.
And our SHYNESS is a defense mechanism to try
and PROTECT ourselves from experiencing those
bad outcomes!
But the problem is that if we don't risk the
bad outcomes, we'll never get any GOOD outcomes
either!
At it's core, shyness is the fear of being
judged harshly. Someone who's shy doesn't
want to be subjected to the opinions of others,
typically because:
1. They believe those opinions will always be
negative
and
2. They do not have a strong sense of self esteem,
and feel vulnerable.
And it's even worse when dealing with a beautiful
girl because there's the element of "sexual validation"
at play. If a beautiful girl rejects us, not only is
it a harsh judgment, but we must also be UGLY too,
right?
And to make matters worse, shyness in men is
far more crippling than shyness in women.
A shy woman will still have men approaching and
pursuing her. However, because of the dynamics
of the dating game, shy men will rarely, if EVER,
be pursued by a woman - even if the woman LIKES him
and is attracted to him!
Shy guys often fantasize about having a woman
come up to them and ask them out. But this is
just a way to rationalize their shyness. In
their mind, they're hoping to be the one that
is pursued because then they don't have to risk
anything by being the pursuer.
However, this is never the case. 99% of women
wait for the men to come after THEM.
Essentially, you have shy guys isolating
themselves from success in love, not only
due to their inability to act, but also
due to their contentness to continue being
shy.
So what's the solution?
The only way to break through shyness is to adopt
different behaviors and thought patterns that
promote a better outcome.
One must learn to gain confidence in himself, so
that he is not vulnerable to the judgment of
others for his self esteem.
One must learn to take action when necessary, and
seize opportunities as they present themselves.
One must learn to see the positive outcomes as well
as the negative ones, and choose to strive for the
positive.
See - I used to be a "shy guy."
My efforts to meet and date the kind of women I
wanted were constantly being hindered by my shyness.
And you know what? IT SUCKED.
I was lonely, angry, and bitter because of my shyness.
But once I overcame it, a whole new world opened
up for me. I was able to meet the women I wanted.
I was getting lots of dates. I had wonderful women
in my life.
And THAT, my friend, is success!
So how can you do what I did?
Well, for starters, I would recommend you check
out my Renegade Rapport home study course.
Rapport is all about learning how to connect to
people, and when you connect to someone, you feel
comfortable around them.
Too often, the anxiety shy guys experience around
women keeps them from succeeding. But learning
good, solid rapport skills will help you to relax
around the women you like.
More so than that - it will help you create attraction
in them that will make your job much easier!
Check out my Renegade Rapport course here:
Check Out Renegade Rapport Here!
It's a long process to overcome your shyness, but
it's well-worth the effort, because in the end,
when you overcome your shyness and find the woman
of your dreams, you'll be happier than you ever
thought possible.
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Should you be romantic around women ??
Here's a familiar story...
Boy meets girl
Boy gets girl's number
Boy calls up girl and sets up the first date.
Boy shows up on girl's doorstep with flowers (or a fancy gift),
brings her to a fancy restaurant and talks about how he really
likes her.
Girl quickly ends the date and doesn't answer any of his
follow-up phone calls.
This is familiar because it's something that almost every guy
has done at some point in his dating life.
The truth is we've all been programmed to behave this way. In
your average romantic movie, the male character wins over a
girl's affection by professing his undying love.
And if you've ever watched one of these movies with a girl,
you'll see how emotional and choked up she gets.
So naturally, it seems logical to think that romantic gestures
on your first couple of dates is the best way to attract her
interest.
My question is- Should you be romantic when you first meet
a woman?
The short answer is no. And here's the reason why...
Men and women approach dating in different ways.
We guys pretty much know we like a girl before the date
begins. If she's attractive and seems interesting, we're
already hooked.
For us, the first couple of dates is the time where we're
obsessed with proving ourselves (and maybe get a little
action)! And the one way that's been proven to work is
to do the "Romantic" gestures we see "working" in bollywood
movies.
Women on the other hand, view dating as a way to "qualify"
a guy. Sure she might be interested, but in truth she's
also subconsciously looking for the specific qualities which
can eliminate a guy as a potential dating partner.
1 wrong move and you'll get the "Let's Just Be Friends"
speech!
So when you come on too strong with the romantic gestures,
you show that you really don't care about who she is as a
person. Instead you're giveing away your power and showing
that you're already into her before she's even proven
herself.
A woman WANTS to feel like she's EARNED a guy's
interest. And not solely because of her looks. While
she's still trying to figure him out, he's ALREADY
demonstrating his interest.
So what do women want from men?
The answer is ALL girls are looking for one primary thing:
SEXUAL ATTRACTION
Sexual attraction is that feeling she gets when she's with
a guy who resonates in the EMOTIONAL side of her mind.
You can't create this feeling by buying her gifts or being
romantic. These actions only speak to the LOGICAL side of
her mind.
To create sexual attraction, you have to DEMONSTRATE the
qualities of someone who makes a woman feel excited and
stimulated.
For instance, the qualities include
Challenging her actions and statements
Using humor to tease and banter
Showing a spontaneous attitude
Demonstrating a high level of confidence
Being trustworthy with a LITTLE bit of danger
Showing independence in your life
Making her feel important
Now the last quality can be a little confusing.
Most guys act romantic because they THINK they're trying
to make her feel important.
This is wrong because at first she's done NOTHING to prove
herself.
With that being said, you WANT to show you're interested
& make her feel important AS you're getting to know her.
So while you should NEVER show up on your first couple of
dates with an armful of roses, you should SHOW your
interest IF she's passing YOUR tests and meets YOUR
standards.
In other words, if you're having a great time and she
meets the qualities that you're looking for, then you
can start showing that she's EARNING your approval.
Finally, I want to emphasize one important thing...
You ALWAYS want to want to be a gentleman (ie: Opening the
door, leading her with your body language, and paying for
the first date).
But at the same time, you want to also tease and create the
sexual TENSION that's necessary for attraction.
So ditch the romantic gestures on your first couple of
dates, act like a gentleman and use this time to find out
if SHE'S right for YOU!
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ntri15@gmail.com
Boy meets girl
Boy gets girl's number
Boy calls up girl and sets up the first date.
Boy shows up on girl's doorstep with flowers (or a fancy gift),
brings her to a fancy restaurant and talks about how he really
likes her.
Girl quickly ends the date and doesn't answer any of his
follow-up phone calls.
This is familiar because it's something that almost every guy
has done at some point in his dating life.
The truth is we've all been programmed to behave this way. In
your average romantic movie, the male character wins over a
girl's affection by professing his undying love.
And if you've ever watched one of these movies with a girl,
you'll see how emotional and choked up she gets.
So naturally, it seems logical to think that romantic gestures
on your first couple of dates is the best way to attract her
interest.
My question is- Should you be romantic when you first meet
a woman?
The short answer is no. And here's the reason why...
Men and women approach dating in different ways.
We guys pretty much know we like a girl before the date
begins. If she's attractive and seems interesting, we're
already hooked.
For us, the first couple of dates is the time where we're
obsessed with proving ourselves (and maybe get a little
action)! And the one way that's been proven to work is
to do the "Romantic" gestures we see "working" in bollywood
movies.
Women on the other hand, view dating as a way to "qualify"
a guy. Sure she might be interested, but in truth she's
also subconsciously looking for the specific qualities which
can eliminate a guy as a potential dating partner.
1 wrong move and you'll get the "Let's Just Be Friends"
speech!
So when you come on too strong with the romantic gestures,
you show that you really don't care about who she is as a
person. Instead you're giveing away your power and showing
that you're already into her before she's even proven
herself.
A woman WANTS to feel like she's EARNED a guy's
interest. And not solely because of her looks. While
she's still trying to figure him out, he's ALREADY
demonstrating his interest.
So what do women want from men?
The answer is ALL girls are looking for one primary thing:
SEXUAL ATTRACTION
Sexual attraction is that feeling she gets when she's with
a guy who resonates in the EMOTIONAL side of her mind.
You can't create this feeling by buying her gifts or being
romantic. These actions only speak to the LOGICAL side of
her mind.
To create sexual attraction, you have to DEMONSTRATE the
qualities of someone who makes a woman feel excited and
stimulated.
For instance, the qualities include
Challenging her actions and statements
Using humor to tease and banter
Showing a spontaneous attitude
Demonstrating a high level of confidence
Being trustworthy with a LITTLE bit of danger
Showing independence in your life
Making her feel important
Now the last quality can be a little confusing.
Most guys act romantic because they THINK they're trying
to make her feel important.
This is wrong because at first she's done NOTHING to prove
herself.
With that being said, you WANT to show you're interested
& make her feel important AS you're getting to know her.
So while you should NEVER show up on your first couple of
dates with an armful of roses, you should SHOW your
interest IF she's passing YOUR tests and meets YOUR
standards.
In other words, if you're having a great time and she
meets the qualities that you're looking for, then you
can start showing that she's EARNING your approval.
Finally, I want to emphasize one important thing...
You ALWAYS want to want to be a gentleman (ie: Opening the
door, leading her with your body language, and paying for
the first date).
But at the same time, you want to also tease and create the
sexual TENSION that's necessary for attraction.
So ditch the romantic gestures on your first couple of
dates, act like a gentleman and use this time to find out
if SHE'S right for YOU!
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If you have any queries you can mail me at....
ntri15@gmail.com
Make women laugh
It's proven: humor is the shortcut to attraction...
I've Tried Everything
It's true — I've tried everything in attracting women and attracting women fast...
I've spent a fortune buying dating books, I've learned a great deal from excellent courses and even books that are plain rubbish; I've had countless dates that ended in my bedroom and ones that ended with a slap in the face...
And here's the absolute truth that's proven to me time and time again:
Brilliant pick up lines, various approaching techniques, covert language patterns, "Prize Psychology", hypnosis scripts, outlandish clothing, NLP, Pheromone sprays, the "right" attitudes... NONE of those will ever work unless you're good at making women laugh.
Because humor is the shortcut to attraction.
In fact, if you happen to have looked elsewhere for information on dating you'd realize that all those dating experts emphasize on the ability to make women laugh.
But they don't tell you how.
The Power Of Humor
I have a question for you:
"Would you prefer to be with someone who can consistently make you laugh heartily or someone who wear fancy clothes and talk in a 'peculiar' way? (Or maybe both?)"
Psychological studies have shown that during an initial contact, it's psychologically impossible to dislike someone who has made you laugh genuinely for 5 times or more. (According to my experience, the word "dislike" should be replaced by "resist the attraction of".)
Think about it. It's basic human nature to avoid pain and gain pleasure. What do we do when we experience pleasure? We smile or laugh! Laughter means pleasure, and humor is what creates laughter.
Humor is powerful - much more powerful than most people have ever imagined and will ever know. However, most men will get stuck in a place called "Average, Dull And Boring" for their entire lives.
But I want you to be different; I want you to be funny; I want you to be way more attractive than average. I want you to have an edge over all the rest.
And I want you to feel a deep sense of satisfaction as other men marvel at your amazing ability to make women laugh and fall in love.
What do women themselves say? I can quote you countless letters or surveys in major female magazines such as Elle, Vogue, Women's era... I can ask you to check out the profiles on dating websites (they usually have a section for women to declare what type of men they're looking for)... I can ask you to go and find proof on TV and movie screen...
But you don't need this extra proof to convince yourself that the ability to make women laugh is the basis of attraction (and the trademark of a charming man).
In fact, reliable statistics showed that 82% of women consistently rank humor as one of the top 3 qualities of men they want to date.
Some guys look at women's laughter as a "by-product" of a healthy, promising conversation. To them, laughter is just something good to have, and they can perfectly live without it.
But that fact is... Laughter alone can make women fall in love with you. The more she laughs, the better your chance is. If you can keep her laughing her head off, you're "almost there". Conversely, if you want to make a woman fall in love with you, you have to be able to make her laugh.
Laughter is not merely "good to have". It's pretty much all you need. If you really want to attract women easily and quickly, you must be able to make her laugh at any time, any place, and any way you want.
But the sad truth is... Not many of us can really claim to be funny.
Sure, all of us can crack a joke or two. Sometimes we can be quite funny for a whole night. But can you do it consistently time after time, night after night? Are you able to systematically and carefully construct "humor messages" to suit different women's tastes? Do you know the secrets that will make humor a natural part of you so that it's effortless to stay humorous and charming?
DOnt be too serious with women
So always try to make girl laugh.
Laugh and the world will laugh with you
----------------------------------------------
If you have any queries you can mail me at....
ntri15@gmail.com
I've Tried Everything
It's true — I've tried everything in attracting women and attracting women fast...
I've spent a fortune buying dating books, I've learned a great deal from excellent courses and even books that are plain rubbish; I've had countless dates that ended in my bedroom and ones that ended with a slap in the face...
And here's the absolute truth that's proven to me time and time again:
Brilliant pick up lines, various approaching techniques, covert language patterns, "Prize Psychology", hypnosis scripts, outlandish clothing, NLP, Pheromone sprays, the "right" attitudes... NONE of those will ever work unless you're good at making women laugh.
Because humor is the shortcut to attraction.
In fact, if you happen to have looked elsewhere for information on dating you'd realize that all those dating experts emphasize on the ability to make women laugh.
But they don't tell you how.
The Power Of Humor
I have a question for you:
"Would you prefer to be with someone who can consistently make you laugh heartily or someone who wear fancy clothes and talk in a 'peculiar' way? (Or maybe both?)"
Psychological studies have shown that during an initial contact, it's psychologically impossible to dislike someone who has made you laugh genuinely for 5 times or more. (According to my experience, the word "dislike" should be replaced by "resist the attraction of".)
Think about it. It's basic human nature to avoid pain and gain pleasure. What do we do when we experience pleasure? We smile or laugh! Laughter means pleasure, and humor is what creates laughter.
Humor is powerful - much more powerful than most people have ever imagined and will ever know. However, most men will get stuck in a place called "Average, Dull And Boring" for their entire lives.
But I want you to be different; I want you to be funny; I want you to be way more attractive than average. I want you to have an edge over all the rest.
And I want you to feel a deep sense of satisfaction as other men marvel at your amazing ability to make women laugh and fall in love.
What do women themselves say? I can quote you countless letters or surveys in major female magazines such as Elle, Vogue, Women's era... I can ask you to check out the profiles on dating websites (they usually have a section for women to declare what type of men they're looking for)... I can ask you to go and find proof on TV and movie screen...
But you don't need this extra proof to convince yourself that the ability to make women laugh is the basis of attraction (and the trademark of a charming man).
In fact, reliable statistics showed that 82% of women consistently rank humor as one of the top 3 qualities of men they want to date.
Some guys look at women's laughter as a "by-product" of a healthy, promising conversation. To them, laughter is just something good to have, and they can perfectly live without it.
But that fact is... Laughter alone can make women fall in love with you. The more she laughs, the better your chance is. If you can keep her laughing her head off, you're "almost there". Conversely, if you want to make a woman fall in love with you, you have to be able to make her laugh.
Laughter is not merely "good to have". It's pretty much all you need. If you really want to attract women easily and quickly, you must be able to make her laugh at any time, any place, and any way you want.
But the sad truth is... Not many of us can really claim to be funny.
Sure, all of us can crack a joke or two. Sometimes we can be quite funny for a whole night. But can you do it consistently time after time, night after night? Are you able to systematically and carefully construct "humor messages" to suit different women's tastes? Do you know the secrets that will make humor a natural part of you so that it's effortless to stay humorous and charming?
DOnt be too serious with women
So always try to make girl laugh.
Laugh and the world will laugh with you
----------------------------------------------
If you have any queries you can mail me at....
ntri15@gmail.com
12 proven flirty Sms
I can honestly say I was really
surprised at the reaction I received
from the message I sent last week.
Over the weekend, my mailbox
was flooded with emails from guys
who wanted to know more about
SMS.
Unfortunately I don't have time to
respond to the dozens of emails I
received.
So in this blog I want to cover 2
major questions:
1) What's the purpose behind SMSing?
2) Can you give actual examples of
SMS's you've sent?
With these two questions in mind,
I want to further explore the power
behind SMSing women:
1- What is the purpose for text messaging?
Bottom line- Text messaging is all
about maintaining sexual tension!
When you first get a number, it's
easy to have attraction. But this is
quickly lost in the time between
getting her digits and making that
first phone call.
With SMSing, you can bridge the
'time-gap' and keep the attraction
alive.
While I recommend that it never
replace a phone call, SMSing is an
excellent way to get a woman to
think about you throughout her day.
And when you go to call her,
she'll immediately recognize the
good feelings and emotions that
you've already given her.
This makes it easy to get her on the
phone and set up a 2nd meeting
(ie: First Date)
I personally use my SMSs
to stand out from the other guys
who might be calling this girl.
So I focus on 2 things when I
text a girl:
1) Cocky-funny (Ie: Teasing in a
friendly manner)
2) Call Back Humor
Generally I'll start a texting
conversation by referencing a
specific thing that happened
in our first conversation.
(This is how to use the call-back
humor that I just mentioned)
For instance, a few weeks back I
met an attractive girl from
Eastern India. As soon as she
opened her mouth, I came to the
realization that she sounded exactly
like the guy from the any movie.
And once I confirmed that she saw
that movie and "got the joke" I
teased her mercilessly about
sounding like him.
Naturally the first message started
with a reference to a film.
This leads to the next question that
I want to cover (This is where I
provide the 12 proven SMS that
I promised at the start of this blog)
2- Can you give ACTUAL examples of messages you've sent?
As I mentioned before, I typically
use 'call-back humor' with my SMS.
This makes it hard to give "cookie-cutter"
examples.
However, there are times when I
didn't get an opportunity to use
call-back humor.
So even if I really didn't get a chance
to know a girl better, I'll still use
a few messages that have gotten great
results in the past.
Here are 12 SMS I've personally used:
(Change your language and modify these
SMS's according to you.)
==> After meeting a girl- (Use 2-3
hours to establish initial contact)
1) "I know you're thinking about
me. So I thought I would say hi!"
2) "My ears are tingling...stop
talking about me!"
3) "Wow...that's weird. I think I
just saw your twin. Are
you stalking me?"
==> Lifestyle updates- (Use to
keep contact ever other day
& demonstrate that you're a
fun/interesting person )
4) "hey...my dog just did the craziest
thing..."
5) "I just saw an army of Liliputs.
I think short people are breeding too fast
6) "nice environment out. Time to go for
a long drive. Too bad you have to work!!!"
==> Building Sexual Tension-
(Use after you've spoken on the
phone and set up a 2nd meeting)
7) "Miss me yet?"
8) "Tomorrow should be awesome.
Just try not to embarrass
me in front of my friends"
9) "Looking forward to seeing you.
You're like the my lucky charm
==> After the 2nd meeting-
(Use to reinforce the good time
she had)
10) "Had an awesome time.
Hugs and kisses!"
11) "Fun times! I guess it's safe
to introduce you to my friends!"
12) "Had a great time! Even if
you're a little fattyy..."
Sexual tension can be quickly
gained and quickly lost.
That's why it's important to
keep up the attraction at all
points in the relationships
you have with women.
In other words, never allow
the lines of communication to
go slack.
That's why I personally recommend
that you use to stay in contact
with ALL the women you're
dating (or hope to date).
Used correctly, texting can help
you create massive levels of
sexual tension with women
that you barely know.
And once you meet them in
person, it becomes much easier
to turn things physical!
-------------------------------------------------
If you have any queries you can mail me at....
ntri15@gmail.com
surprised at the reaction I received
from the message I sent last week.
Over the weekend, my mailbox
was flooded with emails from guys
who wanted to know more about
SMS.
Unfortunately I don't have time to
respond to the dozens of emails I
received.
So in this blog I want to cover 2
major questions:
1) What's the purpose behind SMSing?
2) Can you give actual examples of
SMS's you've sent?
With these two questions in mind,
I want to further explore the power
behind SMSing women:
1- What is the purpose for text messaging?
Bottom line- Text messaging is all
about maintaining sexual tension!
When you first get a number, it's
easy to have attraction. But this is
quickly lost in the time between
getting her digits and making that
first phone call.
With SMSing, you can bridge the
'time-gap' and keep the attraction
alive.
While I recommend that it never
replace a phone call, SMSing is an
excellent way to get a woman to
think about you throughout her day.
And when you go to call her,
she'll immediately recognize the
good feelings and emotions that
you've already given her.
This makes it easy to get her on the
phone and set up a 2nd meeting
(ie: First Date)
I personally use my SMSs
to stand out from the other guys
who might be calling this girl.
So I focus on 2 things when I
text a girl:
1) Cocky-funny (Ie: Teasing in a
friendly manner)
2) Call Back Humor
Generally I'll start a texting
conversation by referencing a
specific thing that happened
in our first conversation.
(This is how to use the call-back
humor that I just mentioned)
For instance, a few weeks back I
met an attractive girl from
Eastern India. As soon as she
opened her mouth, I came to the
realization that she sounded exactly
like the guy from the any movie.
And once I confirmed that she saw
that movie and "got the joke" I
teased her mercilessly about
sounding like him.
Naturally the first message started
with a reference to a film.
This leads to the next question that
I want to cover (This is where I
provide the 12 proven SMS that
I promised at the start of this blog)
2- Can you give ACTUAL examples of messages you've sent?
As I mentioned before, I typically
use 'call-back humor' with my SMS.
This makes it hard to give "cookie-cutter"
examples.
However, there are times when I
didn't get an opportunity to use
call-back humor.
So even if I really didn't get a chance
to know a girl better, I'll still use
a few messages that have gotten great
results in the past.
Here are 12 SMS I've personally used:
(Change your language and modify these
SMS's according to you.)
==> After meeting a girl- (Use 2-3
hours to establish initial contact)
1) "I know you're thinking about
me. So I thought I would say hi!"
2) "My ears are tingling...stop
talking about me!"
3) "Wow...that's weird. I think I
just saw your twin. Are
you stalking me?"
==> Lifestyle updates- (Use to
keep contact ever other day
& demonstrate that you're a
fun/interesting person )
4) "hey...my dog just did the craziest
thing..."
5) "I just saw an army of Liliputs.
I think short people are breeding too fast
6) "nice environment out. Time to go for
a long drive. Too bad you have to work!!!"
==> Building Sexual Tension-
(Use after you've spoken on the
phone and set up a 2nd meeting)
7) "Miss me yet?"
8) "Tomorrow should be awesome.
Just try not to embarrass
me in front of my friends"
9) "Looking forward to seeing you.
You're like the my lucky charm
==> After the 2nd meeting-
(Use to reinforce the good time
she had)
10) "Had an awesome time.
Hugs and kisses!"
11) "Fun times! I guess it's safe
to introduce you to my friends!"
12) "Had a great time! Even if
you're a little fattyy..."
Sexual tension can be quickly
gained and quickly lost.
That's why it's important to
keep up the attraction at all
points in the relationships
you have with women.
In other words, never allow
the lines of communication to
go slack.
That's why I personally recommend
that you use to stay in contact
with ALL the women you're
dating (or hope to date).
Used correctly, texting can help
you create massive levels of
sexual tension with women
that you barely know.
And once you meet them in
person, it becomes much easier
to turn things physical!
-------------------------------------------------
If you have any queries you can mail me at....
ntri15@gmail.com
6 mistakes done by boys during approaching
The biggest obstacle to success with women is learning how to overcome your
fear of rejection. And once you eliminate this anxiety, it
becomes easy to approach women with confidence.
The problem is there are a number of additional roadblocks that
men have when it comes to approaching. Unfortunately these are
typically self inflicted. Your average man makes a number of
little (but important) mistakes which prevent him from having
true success with women.
The good news is these mistakes can be prevented. The trick is
to recognize when you're making them.And then actively work on
eliminating them!
So today I want to review six of what I call "approaching
mistakes" and then talk about what you can to make sure that you
are not making them:
#1- Negative Self-talk
The actions you take are the direct result of the words you say
to yourself. In other words, if you keep think you're going to
fail then that's what'll probably happen!
In this case, negative self-talk are the words you think right
before you approach a girl. For instance, they typically sound
like this:
>>>> "She's surrounded by all those guys and won't be interested
in me."
>>>> "I'm not good-looking enough to attract her interest."
>>>> "I don't know what to say."
>>>> "There's no way she would be interested in me."
>>>> "I'm too scared to start talking to her."
Negative self-talk varies from guy to guy. However the common
element of these thoughts is they cause you to dwell on what
could go wrong instead of what could go right. Instead of
enjoying the conversation you're consumed by powerful, negative
thoughts which often pralyze you into not approaching.
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
The first step is to pay close attention to the words you're
telling yourself right before you approach. Explore what you're
saying and the feelings that these statements create within you.
Next, you'll want to take these statements and directly challenge
them. The best way to do this is to create a series of
affirmation statements that you recite. These should be written
in a positive tone that is the exact opposite of the negative
self-talk that you usually do.
For instance, if you constantly think: "I don't know what to say",
you'll want to create an affirmation that sounds like:
"I have a lot to talk about whenever I'm in a conversation with a
woman!"
To make this solution work, you'll want to create an affirmation
for each of the negative statements you think before you approach
women. Then recite them at least 2 to 3 times a day.
#2- Outcome Orientation
"Outcome Orientation" happens
when you worry too much about what could happen instead of living
in the moment and simply enjoying your conversations with women.
This is initially caused when you develop the habit of putting a
woman on a pedestal and thinking that she's perfect for you.
This often causes you to live in an imaginary world where you're
afraid to lose what you have. In other words, you rather be in
a safe place where you can imagine what it's like to be with
this girl, then run the risk of rejection.
Another form of Outcome Orientation happens when you're worried
about the negative outcomes of your approach. This is where
you dwell on things like getting rejected or being socially
ridiculed. Typically this causes you to act too preoccupied with
what could happen instead of being the cool, relaxed guy that
women find attractive in men.
Both of these Outcome Orientation situations cause major problems
for guys. Women are pretty intuitive. And they can usually tell
when a man cares TOO much about the results of the conversation.
When you make this mistake, you'll come across as too desperate.
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
Remove all expectations.
As you've learned, caring too much about the outcome will cause
you to exude a needy, low-status vibe. Instead, replace your
Outcome Orientation with a mindset where you consider yourself as
the selector over being the selectee
This is another time when you can use affirmation statements to
create a powerful, confident mindset. To get started, I
recommend you write the following on a piece of paper:
"I am going to talk to this girl and see if I like her. It's
just a conversation. Nothing more. Maybe if she's interested,
I will consider asking for her number"
Write down a variation of this statement. In other words, make
it personal to you and something that you feel comfortable
reciting on a daily basis. And once you have this statement---
memorize it! Then recite it to yourself before you approach any
girl.
#3- Hesitation
When you spot an attractive girl, it's VERY easy to become
paralyzed into inaction. This happens when you worry about the
RIGHT way to start a conversation. You want to impress her from
the moment you approach and you're trying to come up with that
ONE magical line that'll hypnotically attract her.
I like to call this the "perfect line fallacy". You're SO
preoccupied with thinking about HOW to start the conversation
that you allow minutes (and even hours) to pass BEFORE you work
up the courage to approach.
But it all boils down HESITATION. Trying to come up with the
"perfect" line is a subconscious way that a lot of men lie to
themselves. It's an excuse that some come up with to avoid the
possibility of rejection. The problem with excuses is even the
best ones are STILL excuses!
And as we've discussed women are extremely intuitive. So if
you're in a room with a girl, and hesitate on approaching her,
then she's probably picking up your vibe. This causes you to be
placed in the "low-status" category because she already knows
you're too scared to approach to approach her.
Hopefully you can see how hesitation is a HUGE mistake that could
could COMPLETELY destroy your chances with a particular girl.
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
The solution is simple..."Approach without Hesitation"
This is where you allow yourself a few seconds to think of what
to say, then immidiately take action. While you might not have
the perfect line, you'll at least project a confident vibe
where you're starting a conversation.
So don't worry so much about what to say. Just go up and talk.
The best is when you do this enough times, you'll train yourself
to live in the moment and not obsess over saying the "perfect
line". Furthermore your approaches will seem more natural
because whatever you say won't seem canned or rehearsed. Instead
you'll project a confident, cool vibe!
#4- Making Excuses
This a self-destructive form of negative self-talk. When you
make excuses about your life, it becomes TOO easy to avoid
creating ANY sort of positive change in your life.
Now we've ALL made excuses at some point in our lives. The
difference is doing this on a DAILY basis. For instance...say
you spot an attractive girl, a common excuse occurs when you
give yourself a reason for WHY you CAN'T approach her. Stuff
like...
"She's surrounded by other guys"
or
"I'm just not in the mood"
To be brutally honest, the "Excuses Habit" is the direct result
of the way you've learned how to handle adversity. Like one of
Pavlov's Dogs, you've been trained to take a specific action when
you want to approach a girl. This usually means you've developed
the habit of creating a reason WHY you can't approach whenever
you experience anxious feelings.
Pretty crazy, right?
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
One of the most DEADLIEST words in the English language is
"Can't!" Using this word on a daily basis SEVERLY limits what
you can accomplish in your life. And in regards to women, using
this word prevents from talking to the girls that you TRULY
desire.
Instead of dwelling on the reasons why you can't talk to a girl,
it's important to develop a "problem-solving" mindset. So if you
find yourself consistently encountering the SAME obstacle, then
it's time to figure out "HOW" you can overcome this problem.
One technique that works for me is to keep a daily journal of
your life. Specifically you can use this journal to track EVERY
approach that you make and the results. Over time, you'll start
to see a pattern of your approaches.
And when you find yourself making the same excuse, then you know
that you're encountering what's commonly known as a "sticking
point". Now instead you "CAN'T" do something because of this
obstacle, actively work on finding a SOLUTION to this problem.
#5- Anger Issues
This is problem that I see on a consistent basis. The sad fact
is there are a number of men who secretly harbor a strong sense
of "entitlement" when it comes to women.
A guy like this lives life in anger because he's not getting what
he feels he *deserves* from women. And if he sees a woman
dressing provocatively, then that somehow gives him the *right*
to treat her in a demeaning manner.
Now as you've probably heard me mention before, I get a lot of
email from readers and customers. And I've ALWAYS been surprised
at the level of HOSTILITY that some men at women.
In fact, if you pay close attention to some guys at bars & clubs,
you'll find that a lot of them simply get ANGRY at a particular
woman before even approaching her. They'll say (or think)
things how she's probably a bitch, or a slut, or has an
attitude. What's interesting is they'll say these things BEFORE
even TRYING to talk to her.
This kind of anger does NOTHING to help you with women. In
fact, you'll end up displaying a VERY hostile vibe that's
definitely not attractive to ANY woman.
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
I don't have to be Sigmund Freud to tell you that anger like this
is the direct result of feelings of insecurity. Most of the
time, it comes from WANTING a woman, but feeling unable to act
upon this emotion. In a way, this anger is basically anger that
comes from a form of self-loathing.
Remember that YOU are responsible for YOUR success in life. If
you're not good at something, then DO SOMETHING about it. Don't
blame others for YOUR shortcomings.
If you're angry at women, it's probably because you don't know
the RIGHT way to attract their interest. It's up to you to
improve on this area of your life. I guarantee that with the
right mindset (and hard work), ANY guy can improve his success
with women.
Furthermore... One of the BEST indicators of success in life is
WHO you choose to spend your time with. If you find yourself
surrounded by guys who DWELL on negativity it becomes VERY easy
to develop a hostile attitude towards women. Do yourself a favor
and form friendships with people who have a positive outlook on
life.
As I said before, it's up to you to create the kind of life that
you want. You'll find that being around positive people and
developing your social skills can become the secret ingredient
to becoming a naturally attractive guy around women.
6- Believing in Luck Over Success
You'll often hear guys use the phrase "I got lucky last night"
when they have sex with a girl. I've always thought that this
is an interesting expression. When you say something like this,
it means that ANY success you have with women is the result of
some sort of EXTERNAL force.
Guys spend their "dating life" waiting for something happen.
They make the mistake of believing that fate will bring them
that special woman.
Unfortunately this a VERY dangerous mistake to make. When you
look to external factors like luck, you develop the attitude that
you have NO control over the women you meet.
It's important to shift your attitude and develop what I call a
"success mindset". This is where you internalize the outcomes
with women and understand that YOU are in complete control of
the interaction. If something doesn't go right, it wasn't BAD
LUCK, it was probably due to a mistake that YOU made.
Now this doesn't mean you should beat yourself for every
failed approach. Instead it means that you learn from each
experience and use this information to improve yourself.
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
The solution to your problem is simple. You HAVE to shift your
mindset from an EXTERNAL mindset to an INTERNAL one. In other
words, STOP making excuses about WHY you're not having any *luck*
with women. Realize that the results you're getting are due to
mistakes you're making.
Understand that YOU control the outcome of your life. Don't
think of yourself as lucky. Create the mindset that you CAN do
what ever you set out to do. Including increasing the success
that you have when you approach women.
So if girls are not responding to your attempts at starting a
conversation, ask yourself WHAT you're doing that's causing this
problem. You'll find yourself that this simple exercise will
help you quickly discover a solution.
WELL there you have it... SIX of the most common mistakes that I
feel guys make when it comes to approaching women.
I'm not saying that you have ALL of these problems. Instead I
feel it's important to recognize if ANY of these mistakes sound
like you. That way, you can IMMEDIATELY take a corrective action
and overcome this obstacle.
fear of rejection. And once you eliminate this anxiety, it
becomes easy to approach women with confidence.
The problem is there are a number of additional roadblocks that
men have when it comes to approaching. Unfortunately these are
typically self inflicted. Your average man makes a number of
little (but important) mistakes which prevent him from having
true success with women.
The good news is these mistakes can be prevented. The trick is
to recognize when you're making them.And then actively work on
eliminating them!
So today I want to review six of what I call "approaching
mistakes" and then talk about what you can to make sure that you
are not making them:
#1- Negative Self-talk
The actions you take are the direct result of the words you say
to yourself. In other words, if you keep think you're going to
fail then that's what'll probably happen!
In this case, negative self-talk are the words you think right
before you approach a girl. For instance, they typically sound
like this:
>>>> "She's surrounded by all those guys and won't be interested
in me."
>>>> "I'm not good-looking enough to attract her interest."
>>>> "I don't know what to say."
>>>> "There's no way she would be interested in me."
>>>> "I'm too scared to start talking to her."
Negative self-talk varies from guy to guy. However the common
element of these thoughts is they cause you to dwell on what
could go wrong instead of what could go right. Instead of
enjoying the conversation you're consumed by powerful, negative
thoughts which often pralyze you into not approaching.
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
The first step is to pay close attention to the words you're
telling yourself right before you approach. Explore what you're
saying and the feelings that these statements create within you.
Next, you'll want to take these statements and directly challenge
them. The best way to do this is to create a series of
affirmation statements that you recite. These should be written
in a positive tone that is the exact opposite of the negative
self-talk that you usually do.
For instance, if you constantly think: "I don't know what to say",
you'll want to create an affirmation that sounds like:
"I have a lot to talk about whenever I'm in a conversation with a
woman!"
To make this solution work, you'll want to create an affirmation
for each of the negative statements you think before you approach
women. Then recite them at least 2 to 3 times a day.
#2- Outcome Orientation
"Outcome Orientation" happens
when you worry too much about what could happen instead of living
in the moment and simply enjoying your conversations with women.
This is initially caused when you develop the habit of putting a
woman on a pedestal and thinking that she's perfect for you.
This often causes you to live in an imaginary world where you're
afraid to lose what you have. In other words, you rather be in
a safe place where you can imagine what it's like to be with
this girl, then run the risk of rejection.
Another form of Outcome Orientation happens when you're worried
about the negative outcomes of your approach. This is where
you dwell on things like getting rejected or being socially
ridiculed. Typically this causes you to act too preoccupied with
what could happen instead of being the cool, relaxed guy that
women find attractive in men.
Both of these Outcome Orientation situations cause major problems
for guys. Women are pretty intuitive. And they can usually tell
when a man cares TOO much about the results of the conversation.
When you make this mistake, you'll come across as too desperate.
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
Remove all expectations.
As you've learned, caring too much about the outcome will cause
you to exude a needy, low-status vibe. Instead, replace your
Outcome Orientation with a mindset where you consider yourself as
the selector over being the selectee
This is another time when you can use affirmation statements to
create a powerful, confident mindset. To get started, I
recommend you write the following on a piece of paper:
"I am going to talk to this girl and see if I like her. It's
just a conversation. Nothing more. Maybe if she's interested,
I will consider asking for her number"
Write down a variation of this statement. In other words, make
it personal to you and something that you feel comfortable
reciting on a daily basis. And once you have this statement---
memorize it! Then recite it to yourself before you approach any
girl.
#3- Hesitation
When you spot an attractive girl, it's VERY easy to become
paralyzed into inaction. This happens when you worry about the
RIGHT way to start a conversation. You want to impress her from
the moment you approach and you're trying to come up with that
ONE magical line that'll hypnotically attract her.
I like to call this the "perfect line fallacy". You're SO
preoccupied with thinking about HOW to start the conversation
that you allow minutes (and even hours) to pass BEFORE you work
up the courage to approach.
But it all boils down HESITATION. Trying to come up with the
"perfect" line is a subconscious way that a lot of men lie to
themselves. It's an excuse that some come up with to avoid the
possibility of rejection. The problem with excuses is even the
best ones are STILL excuses!
And as we've discussed women are extremely intuitive. So if
you're in a room with a girl, and hesitate on approaching her,
then she's probably picking up your vibe. This causes you to be
placed in the "low-status" category because she already knows
you're too scared to approach to approach her.
Hopefully you can see how hesitation is a HUGE mistake that could
could COMPLETELY destroy your chances with a particular girl.
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
The solution is simple..."Approach without Hesitation"
This is where you allow yourself a few seconds to think of what
to say, then immidiately take action. While you might not have
the perfect line, you'll at least project a confident vibe
where you're starting a conversation.
So don't worry so much about what to say. Just go up and talk.
The best is when you do this enough times, you'll train yourself
to live in the moment and not obsess over saying the "perfect
line". Furthermore your approaches will seem more natural
because whatever you say won't seem canned or rehearsed. Instead
you'll project a confident, cool vibe!
#4- Making Excuses
This a self-destructive form of negative self-talk. When you
make excuses about your life, it becomes TOO easy to avoid
creating ANY sort of positive change in your life.
Now we've ALL made excuses at some point in our lives. The
difference is doing this on a DAILY basis. For instance...say
you spot an attractive girl, a common excuse occurs when you
give yourself a reason for WHY you CAN'T approach her. Stuff
like...
"She's surrounded by other guys"
or
"I'm just not in the mood"
To be brutally honest, the "Excuses Habit" is the direct result
of the way you've learned how to handle adversity. Like one of
Pavlov's Dogs, you've been trained to take a specific action when
you want to approach a girl. This usually means you've developed
the habit of creating a reason WHY you can't approach whenever
you experience anxious feelings.
Pretty crazy, right?
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
One of the most DEADLIEST words in the English language is
"Can't!" Using this word on a daily basis SEVERLY limits what
you can accomplish in your life. And in regards to women, using
this word prevents from talking to the girls that you TRULY
desire.
Instead of dwelling on the reasons why you can't talk to a girl,
it's important to develop a "problem-solving" mindset. So if you
find yourself consistently encountering the SAME obstacle, then
it's time to figure out "HOW" you can overcome this problem.
One technique that works for me is to keep a daily journal of
your life. Specifically you can use this journal to track EVERY
approach that you make and the results. Over time, you'll start
to see a pattern of your approaches.
And when you find yourself making the same excuse, then you know
that you're encountering what's commonly known as a "sticking
point". Now instead you "CAN'T" do something because of this
obstacle, actively work on finding a SOLUTION to this problem.
#5- Anger Issues
This is problem that I see on a consistent basis. The sad fact
is there are a number of men who secretly harbor a strong sense
of "entitlement" when it comes to women.
A guy like this lives life in anger because he's not getting what
he feels he *deserves* from women. And if he sees a woman
dressing provocatively, then that somehow gives him the *right*
to treat her in a demeaning manner.
Now as you've probably heard me mention before, I get a lot of
email from readers and customers. And I've ALWAYS been surprised
at the level of HOSTILITY that some men at women.
In fact, if you pay close attention to some guys at bars & clubs,
you'll find that a lot of them simply get ANGRY at a particular
woman before even approaching her. They'll say (or think)
things how she's probably a bitch, or a slut, or has an
attitude. What's interesting is they'll say these things BEFORE
even TRYING to talk to her.
This kind of anger does NOTHING to help you with women. In
fact, you'll end up displaying a VERY hostile vibe that's
definitely not attractive to ANY woman.
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
I don't have to be Sigmund Freud to tell you that anger like this
is the direct result of feelings of insecurity. Most of the
time, it comes from WANTING a woman, but feeling unable to act
upon this emotion. In a way, this anger is basically anger that
comes from a form of self-loathing.
Remember that YOU are responsible for YOUR success in life. If
you're not good at something, then DO SOMETHING about it. Don't
blame others for YOUR shortcomings.
If you're angry at women, it's probably because you don't know
the RIGHT way to attract their interest. It's up to you to
improve on this area of your life. I guarantee that with the
right mindset (and hard work), ANY guy can improve his success
with women.
Furthermore... One of the BEST indicators of success in life is
WHO you choose to spend your time with. If you find yourself
surrounded by guys who DWELL on negativity it becomes VERY easy
to develop a hostile attitude towards women. Do yourself a favor
and form friendships with people who have a positive outlook on
life.
As I said before, it's up to you to create the kind of life that
you want. You'll find that being around positive people and
developing your social skills can become the secret ingredient
to becoming a naturally attractive guy around women.
6- Believing in Luck Over Success
You'll often hear guys use the phrase "I got lucky last night"
when they have sex with a girl. I've always thought that this
is an interesting expression. When you say something like this,
it means that ANY success you have with women is the result of
some sort of EXTERNAL force.
Guys spend their "dating life" waiting for something happen.
They make the mistake of believing that fate will bring them
that special woman.
Unfortunately this a VERY dangerous mistake to make. When you
look to external factors like luck, you develop the attitude that
you have NO control over the women you meet.
It's important to shift your attitude and develop what I call a
"success mindset". This is where you internalize the outcomes
with women and understand that YOU are in complete control of
the interaction. If something doesn't go right, it wasn't BAD
LUCK, it was probably due to a mistake that YOU made.
Now this doesn't mean you should beat yourself for every
failed approach. Instead it means that you learn from each
experience and use this information to improve yourself.
WHAT'S THE SOLUTION???
The solution to your problem is simple. You HAVE to shift your
mindset from an EXTERNAL mindset to an INTERNAL one. In other
words, STOP making excuses about WHY you're not having any *luck*
with women. Realize that the results you're getting are due to
mistakes you're making.
Understand that YOU control the outcome of your life. Don't
think of yourself as lucky. Create the mindset that you CAN do
what ever you set out to do. Including increasing the success
that you have when you approach women.
So if girls are not responding to your attempts at starting a
conversation, ask yourself WHAT you're doing that's causing this
problem. You'll find yourself that this simple exercise will
help you quickly discover a solution.
WELL there you have it... SIX of the most common mistakes that I
feel guys make when it comes to approaching women.
I'm not saying that you have ALL of these problems. Instead I
feel it's important to recognize if ANY of these mistakes sound
like you. That way, you can IMMEDIATELY take a corrective action
and overcome this obstacle.
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Friday, September 25, 2009
9 Steps to turn a friend into girlfriend
There is a certain girl in your life who
has taken control over your thoughts
.She is attractive, interesting and
everything youwant in a woman. In
fact, you can't stop thinking of her.
But, there is a major problem...
She likes you only as a FRIEND.
Sounds familiar right? Well this
happens all the time to guys.They
meet a great woman, but somehow
end up in being thought of as just
as a friend.
Well to be honest, it's actually quite
difficult to go from being a friend to
making things more intimate. The
major problem is women simply
don't view their male friends as
romantic partners.
In order to make a woman see you in
an intimate manner, you have to take
drastic measures!
In this blog, I'm to cover my 9 step to
overcome this problem. While it
might not work all the time, it'll be
your best bet for landing that one
special girl in your life.
Let's get started...
1- Never admit your true feelings
Hopefully before you've read this
article, you haven't made your true
feelings known to this girl. When
you tell a woman that "you like
her" it immediately puts her on
guard and makes her nervous around
you. And when this happens, it'll
make it hard to make things
romantic with her.
Now if you've already admitted
your feelings or have asked her on
a date, then you have to do a
little back peddling.
Before you continue with the rest
of this plan, you must convince her
that you only think of her as a friend.
Typically the best way to do this is
to emphasize the next two steps...
Step 2- Don't let her control your life
The problem with being like Friends
is you've let this girl grow too
comfortable with you. During this
time she has gotten used to you being
ready to please her and cater to her
needs. Since she knows you're her
emotional doormat, she'll never
view you as a "sexual person".
The only way to get her to think of
you as a potential dating partner is
to make her view you as sexual
person. To do this, you have to create
and build sexual tension around her.
Simply communicate that you're not
going to be around for her and you'll
be on your way to establishing brand
new rules for your relationship.
To escape from being friends, you
need to communicate that you
have other activities in your life
which do not concern her.
This means actively pursuing your
hobbies and picking them over
spending time with her. What you're
trying to communicate is that you
don't base your identity only on what
she thinks of you.
Step 3- Hang Out With other women
In order to get things going with your
female friend, you have to trigger her
jealous reactions. An easy way to do this
is discuss attractive girls and make
comments about them whenever you're
around your friend.
This shows that you're a sexual guy who
is not afraid to show what he likes in
women. Also this shows that she has
competition from other women.
If you really want to ramp up her jealous
nature, then I recommend you start dating
different women. If you do this properly,
she'll start to realize that she could be
missing out on a guy who is attractive
to many women.
Step 4- Establish physical contact
If you want her to think of you as a
potential dating partner, you have to
initiate a pattern of touching her.
This means establishing physical contact
whenever you're around her.
Now when I talk about physical contact,
I don't mean you should grope her.
Instead you should act like a buddy who
isn't afraid to touch her. This can include
hugging her and playfully swatting her.
THIS STEP is really important because
you must get her comfortable with you
touching her. The more you touch her,
the more she'll slowly become receptive
towards you becoming her dating partner.
Step 5- Qualify her
Becoming intimate with a woman can
be easily accomplished by acting like a
dominant male that she would want to
date. By demonstrating a strong
personality, your friend will realize
that you are somebody who has high
status. Thus you'll represent a guy
who only wants women who can
match your standards.
The best ways to accomplish is to
talk openly about your standards
and what you want in your life
from a woman. Simply tell her
what you like certain things from
women and how you're tired of girls
not matching your expectations.
The idea behind qualifying women
is to create a candid conversation
how you don't settle down with any
average girl. As your discussion
unfolds, she'll start to talk about
what she wants from a boyfriend.
What's funny is women have a tendency
to qualify themselves with guys they know.
So when you're talking about what you
want from a woman, you'll probably
see her talk about what "makes her
different" from other girls.
Step 6- Be a sexual guy
In order to get intimate with your female
friend, it's important that she think of you
as a sexual guy. The simplest way to do this
is to talk about sex when you're around her.
This means making sexual innuendoes,
talking about past partners, and teasing
her in a flirtatious manner. The more
you can bring sex in a conversation,
the more she'll come back with her own
suggestive comments.
Your goal for this step is to create a
consistent dialogue of sexual playfulness
with your female friend. Once this
happens,she'll start to regard you in
a whole new light.
Step 7- Anchor a sex story
A way to really ramp things up is to
talk about one of your past dating
partners. Bring her up often and mention
how incredible she was in the bedroom.
Now here's where this story gets interesting...
When you tell this story to your female
friend, mention how you had a deep
connection with this girl. One of the
reasons was because this woman used
to be your good friend. Since you and
this girl were buddies, you had a deeper
connection when things turned intimate.
By telling your friend this story, you'll
put a thought in her head that you can
be a sexual guy to women. Furthermore,
just by making things intimate, she'll
become a recipient of a lot of sexual
pleasure.
Step 8-Make her wonder
Once you've developed a pattern of
acting like a sexual guy, you need to
send her mixed signals about how
you feel about her. If you've done
the previous 7 steps correctly, then
she'll probably wonder what it
would be like to date you.
What you want to do is send her
conflicting signals that show that
you're interested and not interested
in her. One moment talk about
how she's a great friend. Then you
discuss the attributes of other women.
At this point, you want to start to let
her know that you're attracted to her.
Now you can't come out and start
saying you like her. Instead, you discuss
things in a sexual yet funny way.
For instance you can talk about a
perfume she's wearing. Let her know
that you really like the smell of it and
you can't handle having her around,
because you don't want to do
"anything you'll regret later".
By doing this, you'll let her know
you think of her in a sexual manner,
but you're also showing that you
still control the entire interaction.
9-Seal the deal
Eventually you'll get to the point
where you've become openly sexual
and physically expressive with your
friend. Primarily you'll be hugging
and touching one another in a
flirtatious manner.
It will be during one of these hugs
where you go to "seal the deal".
During one of your hugs, stop and
look her square in the eye. If she
maintains a prolonged eye contact,
that means she's ready to be kissed.
Simply go for the kiss. Then you can
let things unfold as they should.
If you've followed these steps
properly, then you'll discover that
it's easy to quickly let things
become intimate.
Now I want to be honest with you...
It isn't easy to escape from being friends.
With certain women, if they think
of you as a buddy, then you'll have no
chance of success. So this system
doesn't always work.
But if you're serious about a specific
woman in your life,then I think it's
important to risk a friendship to see
if you can make things intimate.
Simply follow this 9 step plan and
you'll definitely increase your chance
of success!
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has taken control over your thoughts
.She is attractive, interesting and
everything youwant in a woman. In
fact, you can't stop thinking of her.
But, there is a major problem...
She likes you only as a FRIEND.
Sounds familiar right? Well this
happens all the time to guys.They
meet a great woman, but somehow
end up in being thought of as just
as a friend.
Well to be honest, it's actually quite
difficult to go from being a friend to
making things more intimate. The
major problem is women simply
don't view their male friends as
romantic partners.
In order to make a woman see you in
an intimate manner, you have to take
drastic measures!
In this blog, I'm to cover my 9 step to
overcome this problem. While it
might not work all the time, it'll be
your best bet for landing that one
special girl in your life.
Let's get started...
1- Never admit your true feelings
Hopefully before you've read this
article, you haven't made your true
feelings known to this girl. When
you tell a woman that "you like
her" it immediately puts her on
guard and makes her nervous around
you. And when this happens, it'll
make it hard to make things
romantic with her.
Now if you've already admitted
your feelings or have asked her on
a date, then you have to do a
little back peddling.
Before you continue with the rest
of this plan, you must convince her
that you only think of her as a friend.
Typically the best way to do this is
to emphasize the next two steps...
Step 2- Don't let her control your life
The problem with being like Friends
is you've let this girl grow too
comfortable with you. During this
time she has gotten used to you being
ready to please her and cater to her
needs. Since she knows you're her
emotional doormat, she'll never
view you as a "sexual person".
The only way to get her to think of
you as a potential dating partner is
to make her view you as sexual
person. To do this, you have to create
and build sexual tension around her.
Simply communicate that you're not
going to be around for her and you'll
be on your way to establishing brand
new rules for your relationship.
To escape from being friends, you
need to communicate that you
have other activities in your life
which do not concern her.
This means actively pursuing your
hobbies and picking them over
spending time with her. What you're
trying to communicate is that you
don't base your identity only on what
she thinks of you.
Step 3- Hang Out With other women
In order to get things going with your
female friend, you have to trigger her
jealous reactions. An easy way to do this
is discuss attractive girls and make
comments about them whenever you're
around your friend.
This shows that you're a sexual guy who
is not afraid to show what he likes in
women. Also this shows that she has
competition from other women.
If you really want to ramp up her jealous
nature, then I recommend you start dating
different women. If you do this properly,
she'll start to realize that she could be
missing out on a guy who is attractive
to many women.
Step 4- Establish physical contact
If you want her to think of you as a
potential dating partner, you have to
initiate a pattern of touching her.
This means establishing physical contact
whenever you're around her.
Now when I talk about physical contact,
I don't mean you should grope her.
Instead you should act like a buddy who
isn't afraid to touch her. This can include
hugging her and playfully swatting her.
THIS STEP is really important because
you must get her comfortable with you
touching her. The more you touch her,
the more she'll slowly become receptive
towards you becoming her dating partner.
Step 5- Qualify her
Becoming intimate with a woman can
be easily accomplished by acting like a
dominant male that she would want to
date. By demonstrating a strong
personality, your friend will realize
that you are somebody who has high
status. Thus you'll represent a guy
who only wants women who can
match your standards.
The best ways to accomplish is to
talk openly about your standards
and what you want in your life
from a woman. Simply tell her
what you like certain things from
women and how you're tired of girls
not matching your expectations.
The idea behind qualifying women
is to create a candid conversation
how you don't settle down with any
average girl. As your discussion
unfolds, she'll start to talk about
what she wants from a boyfriend.
What's funny is women have a tendency
to qualify themselves with guys they know.
So when you're talking about what you
want from a woman, you'll probably
see her talk about what "makes her
different" from other girls.
Step 6- Be a sexual guy
In order to get intimate with your female
friend, it's important that she think of you
as a sexual guy. The simplest way to do this
is to talk about sex when you're around her.
This means making sexual innuendoes,
talking about past partners, and teasing
her in a flirtatious manner. The more
you can bring sex in a conversation,
the more she'll come back with her own
suggestive comments.
Your goal for this step is to create a
consistent dialogue of sexual playfulness
with your female friend. Once this
happens,she'll start to regard you in
a whole new light.
Step 7- Anchor a sex story
A way to really ramp things up is to
talk about one of your past dating
partners. Bring her up often and mention
how incredible she was in the bedroom.
Now here's where this story gets interesting...
When you tell this story to your female
friend, mention how you had a deep
connection with this girl. One of the
reasons was because this woman used
to be your good friend. Since you and
this girl were buddies, you had a deeper
connection when things turned intimate.
By telling your friend this story, you'll
put a thought in her head that you can
be a sexual guy to women. Furthermore,
just by making things intimate, she'll
become a recipient of a lot of sexual
pleasure.
Step 8-Make her wonder
Once you've developed a pattern of
acting like a sexual guy, you need to
send her mixed signals about how
you feel about her. If you've done
the previous 7 steps correctly, then
she'll probably wonder what it
would be like to date you.
What you want to do is send her
conflicting signals that show that
you're interested and not interested
in her. One moment talk about
how she's a great friend. Then you
discuss the attributes of other women.
At this point, you want to start to let
her know that you're attracted to her.
Now you can't come out and start
saying you like her. Instead, you discuss
things in a sexual yet funny way.
For instance you can talk about a
perfume she's wearing. Let her know
that you really like the smell of it and
you can't handle having her around,
because you don't want to do
"anything you'll regret later".
By doing this, you'll let her know
you think of her in a sexual manner,
but you're also showing that you
still control the entire interaction.
9-Seal the deal
Eventually you'll get to the point
where you've become openly sexual
and physically expressive with your
friend. Primarily you'll be hugging
and touching one another in a
flirtatious manner.
It will be during one of these hugs
where you go to "seal the deal".
During one of your hugs, stop and
look her square in the eye. If she
maintains a prolonged eye contact,
that means she's ready to be kissed.
Simply go for the kiss. Then you can
let things unfold as they should.
If you've followed these steps
properly, then you'll discover that
it's easy to quickly let things
become intimate.
Now I want to be honest with you...
It isn't easy to escape from being friends.
With certain women, if they think
of you as a buddy, then you'll have no
chance of success. So this system
doesn't always work.
But if you're serious about a specific
woman in your life,then I think it's
important to risk a friendship to see
if you can make things intimate.
Simply follow this 9 step plan and
you'll definitely increase your chance
of success!
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